Advice for a novice on meeting a new partner

I have just started getting into enemas and have only given them to myself. It is very exciting and I am always looking for new things to try. I have recently been talking to a woman who wants to get together so she and administer an enema to me. I am really looking forward to our meeting. Does anyone have any advice for a novice?

Meet her in public for discussions

agree on a "safe word" upon which she will discontinue the drain

when you present yourself to be filled, you are in essence "submitting" to this person

develop a trust, as submission is a serious gift yuo are giving

regards... Blister and HISshy

I too do my enemas by myself ( vanilla wife )

today i did etc ( enemas till clear )

i did 3 2qt sessions

first one sims position left side

second one sims position right side

third one flat on my back

fourth one on hands and kness 3 quart had to stand up to add third quart then back to hands and kness

it would be nice to have a woman around to add 3rd quart and

help with colon tube hard to do by myself

good luck with your first experience with another person

let me know how it goes

aries

Yes build the trust go slowly and find if she's who you want to do this with. It's a culmination of emotions and I think some thought needs to go into it.

I recently shared an enema experience with a girlfriend who was curious about my activities in this area. I thought it was going to be a very erotic experience, but it wasn't. She was so overly concerned about the amount coming out of her body that I think she was very embarrassed. I kept being very reassuring of her beauty and the healthiness of it all. She said nothing about for a few days but then volunteered that she would like to do it again because she liked the clean, empty feeling it left her with. She apologized to me if she seemed uncomfortable but then explained that she just wanted to be the most sexy person in the world for me and that she wasn't feeling that way during the first time.

This is only to show that this is odd to some people the first time around and that you need to be gentle, reassuring, and take your time. You get used to it and then learn how to integrate it into your relationship.

It's been 'by myself' since my first explorations 20 years ago. It seems my body craves the process about every 10 days or so. Still looking to share the experience with another.

I'm afraid I've always been solo. Years ago I had mentioned it to my wife, who was far less than thrilled (so what if I am a pervert!). Never brought it up again, just kept solo. Now that I have a bad back and can't twist around, I'm limited to a JBL. Gonna have to fine somebody to dust off my double balloon retention nozzle....

I have always been solo , but someday maybe I will get to share with that someone who is looking and it will happen.

I have played in the BDSM world before, and I highly suggest that you have one non-play meeting before doing anything sexual. It's much safer, especially if you have a submissive personality. You don't need to know their most personal secrets, just get to know them enough so that you feel secure in letting such a personal thing happen without fear.

I'm usually solo...I think it goes beyond what's comfortable for my g/f. I have an enema bag, but lately I've been unhooking the shower head and using the hose. I turn the water down real low so the pressure isn't too high, and then fill up.

I would caution you to use a soft nozzle or flexible rectal / colon tube at first as it is difficult to judge another persons anatomy, especially when nervous or sexually excited.

Similarly, make sure that the solution is only warm and not hot. Having a safe word, or the assurance that your enema nurse will honor your limits is also a must.

Wish I were there to watch,

ENJOY

I to am always by myself, I too have the vanilla wife thing going on. I must also wait until I am home alone...very frustrating to say the least

Enjoy yourself, you will have a great time and have an experience you will never forget.

"wait until I am home alone...very frustrating to say the least" Yes But doesn't the frustration lead to a higher level excitement during the experience? sure does for Me [Grin].

Go with the FLOW!!! 😉 😉

While I'm trying to convince my wife to give me one, I'm thinking seriously of going "solo". It won't be the same without her. Has anyone had a partner that just wants to watch?

I have always had an enema fetish but until I found zity I had no outlet for it. I have met some great folks here that were into the same thing I was so my advice to you is to post here what exactly you would like to do in a session and then see if someone responds. It can be done, trust me.

Let her do it let her be in charge

Let her do it let her be in charge

That doesn't work for me. I only give.

While listening to you guys complain about your “Vanilla” wives I’m so glad I never got married!

Just let go! Take the role as yourself in your youthhood, dont question, dont advice, do not be afraid (unless there is BDSM involved in the agreement between you to). Take the time it takes, dont rush. Give yourself time to really enjoy this new heaven!

Wait with roleplay, like nurse etc. Take your first "given" enema as a glimse in a new world to explore...

Would be nice to hear (read) how everything worked for you. Pleasant? Did it fulfil your dreams? Did you orgasm How was your "administrator"? Sharing is enjoying...

First a person has to have the guts to go for it. that does not mean you need to be foolish about safety. i always recommend that a person who wants to safely meet a stranger to take the steps. chat on line, chat by phone and if you hit it off meet in public first. best thing is to suggest you meet at the police station. cops tell you to do it that way for your own safety when selling something on line for instance. if someone balks at meeting at the police station then that should be a HUGE red flag for you. why would an ordinary person fear that unless they have something to hide?

bottom line is if you want to experience your greatest fantasies you have to have the courage to take that chance. unless you do you will sit wanting, yearning, fantasizing, masturbating, and craving your life's desires but will never have the guts to just reach out your hand and grasp what is right in front of you. otherwise you will be nice and perfectly safe in the grave. dying without ever living your dream.

Wow - this is thread was started Oct. 2008, that's 12 years ago.. lots of "n/a" id's among the few replies it's gotten.. cannot image hooking up with a female partner for enema play where the partnership would not turn into sometime more..

Communicate

Communicate

Communicate

I have always introduced my girlfriends and both wives into the world of enemas. I explain the process and how it feels to me, asking them to give it a shot and see if it is for them. Then I am very vocal the first time with someone and listen for signs of stress or being overwhelmed. I also communicate with them while receiving so that they can be more comfortable and not worry if they are doing it right. Also found that by telling them how great it feels and being reassuring when giving or receiving usually brings them back for more.

If one decides that they do not like it at all, that is a que for me to move on. My wife now does not like to receive, but loves to give them to me. We spent a lot of time talking this over and she understands my need to give also. She offered to let me play with others... with some restrictions. This has been heaven for me.

Bottom line... talk to each other before, during, and after. This makes everyone (including you) more comfortable and relaxed. And they might return for more!

Good luck with your search. Don't be afraid to be open and it will happen.

Interesting read. I am about to get with a friend for my first time doing an enema and worry about the release part. Not sure I want to witness him sitting on the toilet taking a shit so to speak. Any thoughts?

Congrats on finding a new enemate!

It all depends upon the person. Most do not want to watch or let me watch expulsion, but some have specifically asked for it. I do not like to watch or have someone in the bathroom so it usually doesn't happen. Communication is the key so that everyone knows what is wanted, needed, and expected. If one party does not want to be part of the expulsion then their wishes should be heard.

I usually explain that the enema is so overwhelming that I need some alone time to expel, recharge, and really get into a headspace from the enema. Once they realize that they don't ask to be present.

My two cents. Enjoy!

Communication! I really think it helps if your partner participates in mixing, filling the bag and, and hanging the bag.

Oppertunity to opt out. Right up till valve opening!

As Dad told me, "EVERYBODY, and I mean EVERYBODY changes either when the nozzle is inserted or when the valve clicks. You never really kn ow that aspect of a person until you do that with them."

He said, in a different conversation, "There's always a lot of fumbling around on that first one! Never worry about what could have been done better. You did what you did!"

After that first one let the receiver choose the nozzle

Interesting read. I am about to get with a friend for my first time doing an enema and worry about the release part. Not sure I want to witness him sitting on the toilet taking a shit so to speak. Any thoughts?

My father would sit with me after giving me an enema.. so decades later when a male enema partner wanted to and did sit with me it was comforting. Never had a female partner want to do that. I cannot imagine doing that with someone because I could not stand the stink. (Funny, how we can tolerate our own, but not that of another 😞 )

Unless she is a nurse or something like that, don't focus on enemas. Just relax have a good time and keep an enema bag hanging in the bathroom over the tub. Sooner or later they're going to get the Curiosity up. One time I got lucky however. I remember meeting an older woman at a bar, she was a nurse and I asked her if she ever had an enema before. I told her that I was in two enemas and I asked her about the details of her having an enema. She told me that she came from a big family about six or eight kids something like that. When your mom was a nurse. One day she came home and decided to give the whole family an enema. She said that you started from the oldest one and worked her way down according to age. She mentioned that she was about 12 years old and somewhat in the middle. She recalls seeing her older sister and brother receiving an enema and competing for the toilet. I asked her if she enjoyed it karma and she said that she didn't really get her Thrills off of it. I made it clear to her that I wanted to have an enema and she was willing to comply so I brought her home. She gave me several that evening and taught me quite a bit about enemas.

Find a public place where YOU are known. Either a regular or frequent customer, and where people who work there know you by name.

If not a bar or a club, it can even be a grocery store, a local public rec center or pool, or in Canada the local ice rink is good.

Even a grocery store or farmer's market, as long as the workers there know you and can give police a description of who you were last seen with.

Meet the person there and introduce them by at least first name to AT LEAST one person who knows you by name. Make a decision while you're there whether or not to take the person home.

If you decide to bring them home and it goes bad, and you don't show up where you're supposed to be, at least there is ONE person who can tell the police "He/she was with this person fitting this physical description that I had not seen before. Called them by [x].

If person refuses to do that they are probably restraining order material.