Telling your girlfriend about your diaper fetish

I never had a diaper fetish, but most of my former girlfriends broke up with me immediately, upon learning about my rectal thermometer fetish. If you don’t discuss it with them, you’ll never know how they’ll react. If you value the relationship, then there shouldn’t be secrets between you.

I have never had a fetish “the talk”but generally on the first date at some point she will excuse herself to use the facility, when she comes back I will ask if she uses pads , when they give you the “do bears shit in the woods face” I will straightforward say , I have to wear diapers for a similar reason, to add some discrete containment to prevent any public embarrassment for either of us tonight. I don’t expect you to interact with my diaper in anyway ,we are both adults so I hope you will be understanding in that my only choice is to use them for there intended purpose and be honest about my medical conditions and needs to you , do you still wanna explore a relationship , or do just want a nice meal and a ride home , never had anyone run screaming with there head on fire, they are typically understanding and supportive and we either talk a little in depth of how and why or it gets out on the table and a discussion at a later time , I don’t force anybody to talk about it , but I make it known I am comfortable in my skin and diaper , I am perfectly in control about something I dont control.

I told my then girlfriend about my nappy fetish after going out together for a month.

It was a situation of we loved each other enough that we did not want to loose each other. I told her gently about it. The next thing I know is that she made me two adult sized nappies. We wore them together one night. That was the first and last time she wore the nappies.

We eventually got married and have been married for 27 years. I still wear a nappy to bed every night, but my wife does not participate or approve. She allows me to as she understands what a fetish is and that you can never take it away.

The kids grew up knowing that dad needs a nappy at night. It never bothered them at all. Some friends and family have figured it out over the years, but never complained or left out friendship.

People are more accepting than what you think. It's called mutual respect. I'm not going to force my fetish on anyone and they let it be.

Don't be an idiot and try and force someone to participate with you. It's not always going to work. Just enjoy your fetish. You can't block it it take it away. Mutual respect…

In reading several of these replies there seems to be a conflicting issue. A number of people explain how they try to change their partner into not only accepting diapers but also using. Others think they don’t need to change. Well, if one has a ‘right’ to wear diapers should not another have the ‘right’ not to?

“Well, if one has a ‘right’ to wear diapers should not another have the ‘right’ not to?”

Absolutely. I realized that my wife was no more likely to start loving to wear plastic pants than I am likely to stop loving to wear them. She realized how much it means to me to wear plastic pants and other plastic garments though, and we worked out ways of dealing with it.

I've never tell to a girlfriend. I think that two of them knew. I think that they saw evidence on my computer/tablet/whatever and on the closet.

I'm not so much comfortable with all the diaper thing as to share with someone… But in the other side, I'm not comfortable enough dealing with all the “secret” thing. It's mean, having to hide all the stuff every time she comes home, get ride of all evidence, and all the mental stress that cause me having to hide something to her.

So… This is a little complicated to me…

For the past few years I have been married and my wife has from the most part accepted my ab/dl side. She takes art of all of my hygiene issues and changes me.

It was first difficult for her to take on but after a while she did not mind it.

Just this evening my girlfriend (61) diapered me after an enema. I am (80). We have been together almost 2 years. She used to work as a CNA in a nursing home. So she is used to diapering people. She told me she has no problem giving me enemas and putting a diaper on me. I am so thankful.