Do your BDSM relationships/fantasies have games more mental than physical?

I am a switch (mainly sub) but I do have my dominant side. My fantasies involve psychological punishment or humiliation, but no pain or cruelty. For example, I like being made to wear panties and then be mocked by a domina, even though I am not a cross dresser, sph, etc. I dated a girl who was also a switch and she and I loved cornertime for her, making her kneel with her mouth open for 3-4 minutes at a time (a longgg tme in real life!) while I teased her making her wait for me to spit in her mouth, etc. Do your BDSM realationships and fantasies involve a cruelty/pain aspect, or are the games more mental than physical

Among the most popular scenes in my writing (I write erotica, including FemDom and BDSM) was a scene in which a man who is not interested in cross dressing or forced feminization is made to wear his Domme's sheer panties during a paddling that turns his butt pink, easily seen through the cloth. He is not allowed to get dressed for an upcoming Zoom call except for adding a shirt.

Both doms and subs liked that part. For the character, it was way more about the humiliation than the pain, which was nothing out of the ordinary.