Relationship with Enema Partner

All my enema fun has been solo and I’ve become curious about the relationship those of you who share enemas with a partner. IOW has your eMate always been a sexual partner? Are their pairs or groups that assist one another in administering the enema yet don’t have sex with one another. A slippery slope here but if you’re doing a mutual masturbation afterwards and keeping your hands to yourself that’s different than post enema penetration. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

My experience with others has been with pros. Sex is out of the question, they are not prostitutes. However during a session with one domme she did masturbate me to orgasm and then got herself off as I watched.

Over the last fifteen years I have been for colonics by a range of ladies in the UK, South Africa and the US. They have all been professional, all been caring and three have become close friends. Two know about my choice of lingerie and that my love of anal play is one of the reasons I go to them forcleansing. None of them have ever offered "additional services" and I would never ask.

Since no one has ever said, "Why don't you come over and I'll give you an enema", all of my partners in adult enema play have also been sexual partners. In my case, the giver plays the dominant role while I am the submissive recipient. Depending upon the scenario, the giver sometimes remains clothed, so mutual masturbation is out of the question. In past situations when I was the only nude participant, I had to stand in front of my giver and masturbate while thanking her for giving me an enema. She really enjoyed my humiliation and so did I.

Unfortunately, the only female who ever gave me enemas was my cousin. She gave them to me and I gave them to her. I have given enemas to a number of men and several have given them to me. The enemas ranged from slow and gentle, to fast and forced. I loved them all.

This thread is sad for me in that I feel for others that enjoy our kink but don't have others to enjoy it with.

I'm a widow, my late husband also enjoyed the bag on occasion but not like I do. Frankly I'm an anal-erotic - enemas are just part of it.

I've now a partner [Barb] whom I've been with for over 20 years, she is like me - very anal erotic and enjoys enemas but not quite as much as I do.

As for enemates, I've been part of the gay/lesbian community in MA and now RI for many many years. During that time you get to know who's kinky and their likes/dis-likes. I've had many lady friends over the years that enjoy a good cleanout and anal play afterwards. Sex and O's are always on the menu. Sex wise I'd have to say oral with anal massage after an enema session is the most popular as it produces a very intense and fast orgasm.

Other enema friends: Yes Barb and I have several we get together with on occasion, one gay male couple we party with about once every 6 weeks or so, they love being fisted by us which we have found to be a real turn on. Sex - yes they seem to really enjoy having anal sex with us (we are the lucky ones).

My advice for those that can, check out LGBTQ clubs - there are many folks that are just kinky not necessarily gay. In Providence RI for example there are clubs that have a Fetish night where many 'wares' are displayed - BDSM is by far the most popular but enema gear is always there as are the 'kinky' crowd. Personally I'm thrilled that a lot of younger females are getting on board with anal sex, they soon figure out that a clean playground is the way to go.

Just sayin...

BJ

Dear Big Jane,

Your posting makes me so envious. Your frequent enema parties are wildly exciting. Most of my enema play which is intense is also solo. I do get a wonderful chance to play at Efest in Florida and now there are more local Efests in Allentown PA. Occasionally I can find someone to play with and share mutual enemas. Since I'm hetroflexible I can have a great time with guys or women. But it is a fairly unique specialty especially at my age (80). I may have been born in the so called golden age of enemas but not so many are out there still playing with others or at least I've not found so many.

That said, it is such magnificent play!

Not sure of the question(s)... anyway, for what it's worth, after 1st marriage of some ten years with a gal who detested anything anal went kaput; I vowed next relationship would have to be with a woman I could enema and spank.

@BigJane Your posting makes me envious too. Your sessions sound so wonderful and enjoyable. I'm one of the ones that do not have a partner and so much wish I did. Very difficult to find one.

I guess I have been lucky. The girl who started me on enemas and I had a two-year relationship. She lived with me. The only reason she left is because her ex-husband sent court papers demanding she return with her kids or stand a chance of him taking them. I could have gone but I had just purchased this home.

Then I was solo.

Then my sister moved in. She always liked enemas and has done them as far as I can remember. Then I introduced her to her girlfriend and I am not sure if she is telling the truth but she said until my sister started her on enemas she had never had one. Then she walked in on me doing enemas and was on the phone. She backed up. A minute or so later came back in and asked if I needed some help. I told her I did not think my sister would like that. She said it was my sister's idea and handed me the phone. My sister came up with the idea that if her girlfriend and I did enemas then when she got home her girlfriend could give them to her and she would not have to do anything because she is tired when she gets off of work. We have been doing that for years now. No jealousy. I mean we are always nude anyway. Then her niece started coming over. One day right after they had finished her niece came over and went into my bathroom to pee because one of them was in the other bathroom. She asked her Aunt (my sister;s girlfriend) what the bag was. She was told to ask me because I was the nurse. I guess it would be embarrassing if her Aunt told her. I told her and she said it sounds fun and wanted to try. The rest is history.

Strong Work Thanks for Sharing 💪

All my adult enema partners have also been sexual partners. Haven't found any elovers that just want to casually trade enemas. More's the pity.

Several of my enemates have not been sexual partners. They enjoy enemas and allow me the privilege of giving them their enemas.