Making eye contact with your doctor, nurse, parent, teacher, or chaperone during a physical exam vs. not

How did you guys and gals handle this? During the course of your exam, did you ever make eye contact with any of the aforementioned people? OR- did you just keep staring at the floor, wall, or ceiling until it was over?

Most of the time i would look at the walls or ceiling. If they asked me a direct question then i would look at them and answer while they were looking at me but once they went back to what they were doing i would always look away again.

Normally during genital and rectal exams I’m not in a position to look them in the eyes. A few years ago during my first visit with a new urologist, I dropped my pants and underwear for the genital exam (he was on stool directly lined up with my genitals) and we started talking about prostate cancer, indicators, treatment etc while he had his hand on my testicles. We must have chatted with direct eye contact for two or three minutes. Just a normal, casual conversation. After we talked, I watched him examine me until he asked me to turn my head and cough.

I ended up making direct eye contact with the lady PA who did my thorough ball check many years ago. She was looking right at me while explaining to me the importance of regular self-checks. If I'm being completely honest, it was almost all too much.

I always try to make eye contact with my doctor during my exam if he or she is speaking to me. I also find myself watching them examining me. To see if I can see a change in there facial expressions during the exam.

I find it pretty easy to look away especially when their attention is already focused somewhere else.

If the procedure is going to be mildly unpleasant, it is somehow also relieving to just close my eyes to refocus the situation, except for that one time when an ophthalmologist is shooting laser beams into the eyes.

Just stared at the wall or curtains or floor… at least at the pediatrician’s office, with my mother in the room OMG. When I played with my bff the first few times, I could not look at her. Now, eye contact is so wonderful, it just increases my desire and the entire moment’s eroticism.

I have the same memory when it comes to making eye contact while lying on the exam table. As I got older, it was always a weird experience especially with my mom in the room. And I also remember the first few playing “doctor” sessions and how making eye contact was definitely the last thing on my mind since I really had a hard time not trying to cover up.

But to be honest, that was the part I really liked, deep down when I was thinking back later to the "exam". However, I would have never mentioned it if someone had asked me about it. And yes, making eye contact gets a lot easier after some time and once you feel comfortable in your body it can be quite fun, when it comes to playing doctor or even during a real exam, I now have no problem taking to my doctor and looking at her while she does the exam.

I have the same memory when it comes to making eye contact while lying on the exam table. As I got older, it was always a weird experience especially with my mom in the room.

I had a similar experience during visits to the pediatrician. I feel embarrassed to have my mother in the room. While my genitals were being examined, I looked at the ceiling.

I especially remembered the issue of looking into the eyes during a military medical examination. After preliminary tests, I found myself behind the screen. A woman doctor was waiting there. She told me to take off my underwear.

She was standing in front of me. I started to lower my underwear. I couldn't look her in the eye. I looked down like an innocent virgin ;-) I looked down and saw her hands. She was putting gloves on her hands.

I only make eye contact when actually speaking to the doctor. Otherwise when being examined I turn my head and focus my eyes in some other direction

Ugh, I mainly refrain as much as possible from making eye contact with my doctor while they are examining me; however, I will make eye contact when I or they have asked me a direct question in which elicits a response. To make eye contact during the examining process, to me, is so scary ha, I don't know 🤷‍♀️ In a real setting, I feel like they would see the real feelings I felt, good or bad. In a play setting, well, I'd just feel embarrassed 🤭

I've considered making eye contact with a doctor friend of ours during a sexual response session. Now that would be fun and interesting, as I know how much he understands psychology and my responses, well 😌

I was taught to look the doctor in the eye and answer his questions, even during the genital exam which was embarrassing at first. During my teenage years my dad was in the room and directly in front of me for the standing genital exam so we made eye contact many times.

Eye contact is very important especially during the Q&A prior to the exam. Eye contact (or lack thereof) gives the doctor an insight into your mental health status.

When I had my first solo physical exam at age 14 my doctor commented on my emotional progress. (I had been a victim of some child abuse and neglect). She was pleased I was going it alone, I seemed far more relaxed and could make eye contact with her and that scared 11 year boy had left the building.

As a grown man I find the genital exam a little awkward. I tend to look straight ahead and if eye contact happens, then it happens. I suck it up and move on.

I don't try too hard to make eye contact, but I also don't shy away from it if it improves understanding of something said between us. I did have a really pretty dental hygenist one time and I did watch her mask up (my main fetish) and she smiled at me, at which point I realized a was watching her (maybe a little more enthusiastically than I intended). I quickly looked away. Nothing was said or implied by her. No harm, no foul, I suppose. Just suffered a blush.

During the exam I never dare to make eye contact. I make an occasional eye contact during the initial interview, but that's all.

I would make eye contact but it was highly variable and different as I got older. As a child, I was too terrified and generally my mother would hold my arm and direct me into the exam room whereupon she spoke to the nurse. I never looked at the nurse as I was then being required to fully undress which my mom facilitated whenever I slowed the process to a crawl. Whimpering soon followed as I was required to lay on my belly for a RT. The exam and likely shots had the same impact. Tears and avoidance of eye contact.

As a teen I would attempt eye contact but protest when required to be undressed and never once wanted to look during the genital exam. It was always embarrassing and typically an erection developed such that I wanted to hide. It seemed to take forever standing naked for the doc to examine me. The only saving grace was if mom sat in the corner and didn't get a direct view of my genitals.

As adulthood began, my approach was to avoid exams if possible. Being in college and participating in sports made that impossible so it was a mix of dread and embarrassment as I knew I would be exposed. My desire to establish eye contact stopped as soon as I was stripped to my briefs or naked. Should a nurse be present, it was guaranteed that I would not look!

My capacity to make eye contact now is largely one of minutes and brief at that.

I had a dull pain in one testicle for a couple weeks and decided to have it looked at. I searched for a cute young female doctor in my area and made an appointment. I had my vitals taken by a cute shy blonde nurse in her 20s. I'm an attractive guy, and I could tell she was smitten with me. When the doctor walked in, I was shocked at how much more attractive she was in person - early 30s, slim, mousey brown hair in a pony tail. We had a chat about the problem, and then she said she'll be right back. SHE BRINGS THE CUTE NURSE BACK IN! Then she instructs me to lower my pants to take a look. I glance at the nurse before unbuttoning, and she's sort of turned to the side but still looking at me. I lower pants and underwear while modestly hard (filled out, not like a raging erection). The doctor starts feeling my testicle, and I'm getting slightly harder. She made light conversation and then apologizes about being exposed in front of two women!! I chuckle and say I'm fine and make eye contact with the nurse who is now red faced and looking. Before I break eye contact and look back at the doctor, I see her look down at my penis. Best exam I've ever had.

For my physical exams it was always the doctor, me, and my mother through high school. I made eye contact with both my mother and my doctor as often as possible. When it came time to take off my underpants I always turned and faced my mother, looking right at her. When I was lying on the table I always liked to look directly into my doctor's eyes. That made it more fun, for some reason.

Looking back at my exams, I think I would really try to avoid eye contact once the actual exam started. I was fine with eye contact before the exam started and I was just talking with the doctor. But once the exam started and I was being touched, I did not want to have any eye contact. This was especially true during genital exams. I would stare off in another direction as there was no way I wanted any chance of eye contact when my genitals were being examined. I don't think I really wanted to make eye contact once the exam was over either. Making eye contact with someone who just a few minutes earlier had been intimately handling my genitals would have not been comfortable.

I always look my doctor in the eye. He is handsome and deserves my full attention.

I have a good habit of separating an actual medical exam from any of the 'enjoyable' aspects of it, so I just stare ahead and observe the features on his walls (such a boring answer, I know!). Mine and my wife's PCP is big on visiting National Parks, and we were most recently in an examination room that he'd adorned with all manner of pictures from his trips. Brilliant distraction in any instance!

As physical exams are not what they used to be, it is nothing to get me concerned. I keep some eye contact and at other points I just glance away at my sub or the wall. It just depends where the doctor is or what they say to do.

In both real and play doctor exam I look at doctor. Usually there is at least some conversation so looking at the doctor is normal. If there is no conversation I want to see any reactions the doc may have as the exam proceeds.

During the actual medical exam, I do my best not to look at the doctor to avoid embarrassment, as I could get an erection during the exam. During MEDFET exams, I make a point of looking at the doctor and observing his eyes.