Double standard of corporal punishment - frequency of spanking and age

It seems to me that boys were corporally punished more often than girls. However, the girls' parents punished them longer - older girls were spanked. Boys were usually punished with spankings until the age of 14 or 15. Girls, on the other hand, were corporally punished while still in high school (until they were 18 years old).

Of course, when I was a teenager, no one bragged about it. But it often indirectly resulted from the fact that some girls were punished with spankings while still in high school. In conversations years later, it turned out that the girls' parents had been using these punishments for longer. The usual reason for corporal punishment of teenage girls was to return home late. The parents were afraid for their daughters' safety and believed that the pain in their buttocks would make them come to their senses. Boys, on the other hand, were spanked more often when they were younger. What do you think?

I was spanked a lot more than my sister because I was more mischievous, it wasn't a gender thing. I was still spanked at 16. I don't know if my sister was spanked beyond that age, she didn't like to talk about it so if she was spanked while I was out I wouldn't have known unless one of our parents told me, which they didn't.

Most of the spankings I had were between 8 and 12, and most of those were for imitating the pranks in the comics I used to read (the Dandy, the Beano, etc). I was like Dennis the Menace or Roger the Dodger, and those characters used to end up being spanked with a slipper by their dads in the comics, which was exactly what I got for imitating them. Coincidence? I think not.

My sister wasn't a natural Minnie the Minx, so she wasn't spanked for the kind of mischief I used to get up to. She had her naughty moments and that was when she had the slipper on her bare bottom, but not for the same reasons as I did - and not as often as I did.

I was spanked a lot more than my sister because I was more mischievous, it wasn't a gender thing.

I'm not saying that it's always gender and not bad behavior that influences it. I don't have any siblings, so I have no experience. Many of my school friends had sisters. They said that parents were more lenient towards their daughters. The boy was spanked more often, the girl was only reprimanded. However, this could have been influenced by the fact that they were younger sisters, so they were treated more leniently because of their age and not their gender.

I believe you hit the nail on the head your observations seem to very accurate now my sister never git as many punishment's as I did

@Reman

I am nearly three years older than my sister, but that wasn't the reason I was spanked more either. My sister still had the occasional spanking after mine had ceased.

I am nearly three years older than my sister, but that wasn't the reason I was spanked more either. My sister still had the occasional spanking after mine had ceased.

I'm not saying that was the case with you. Did the fact that my sister was spanked longer because she was younger? was it that she was punished when she was older than you were when they stopped punishing you like that?

My friends usually stopped being punished at the age of 14-15. Their younger sisters were punished when they were over 15 years old. These punishments were served in private. However, my friends were punished until the end in the presence of their sisters (usually). The boys didn't like the situation when they had to show their bare buttocks in the presence of their younger sister. The boys didn't like the situation when they had to show their bare buttocks in the presence of their younger sister.

This is certainly the case in my experience - personally and in the case of friends who i've spoken too. Most girls i've spoken to were disciplined until their mid to late teens, whereas for guys it was usually around 13 / 15 x

I have two siblings. My older sister (five years older than me) was spanked more often than I was, especially in preschool. I was punished less often, but unlike my sister even as a tweenager. My younger sister (eleven years younger) was hardly spanked at all.

I like that word "tweenager". Lol 😃

Opposite for me. I got it more than my sister and for longer.

I wasn't spanked when young, but that didn't mean I was never punished. I was but in a different manner and it seemed far more often than my sister. She always seemed to get away with much more than me because she was a truly gifted sneak and liar, acting all so innocent and sweet.

I think girls were far more gifted at playing the innocent and counted on getting sympathy to avoid punishments (be it spanking or whatever else). They play the 'sugar and spice and everything nice' meme so well and knew how to milk it for all it was worth. And their tears flow so easily on command.

I am the last of five children (Four girls with a boy in the middle). According to my mother, my sister, Amy, who was two years older than me got spanked way more than the other four. If she was having a good time, she would stay out late knowing that she would be spanked either when she got home or the following morning. Perhaps my bottom was a lot more tender than hers or I had a little less rebel in me because I was always cognizant of what time it was and I can't ever remember being spanked for not being home on time, I did get a few humdingers because of my temper.

Amy stayed out late knowing she would be spanked? Is she a masochist?

I wasn't spanked when young, but that didn't mean I was never punished. I was but in a different manner and it seemed far more often than my sister. She always seemed to get away with much more than me because she was a truly gifted sneak and liar, acting all so innocent and sweet.

I think girls were far more gifted at playing the innocent and counted on getting sympathy to avoid punishments (be it spanking or whatever else). They play the 'sugar and spice and everything nice' meme so well and knew how to milk it for all it was worth. And their tears flow so easily on command.

Likewise, I didn’t get spanked but lost lots of “privileges” or was sentenced to chores or solitary confinement due to the lies, made up misdemeanors, and fake tears that my two sisters could come with at the drop of hat. Conniving little turds! They st I’ll joke about how th e y connived to get me in trouble.

@Andrew_Finklehouse

I don't think so. There was just a little James Dean (Rebel without a Cause) in her. She also wasn't a good student in until she went to college then she was Dean's List.

Don’t know about double standards . my mom spank me and my sister pretty much about the same she had no problem pulling her pants down and spank her naked but when we needed it.

Even looking back at school when we got paddled the girls got paddle just as much when needed it was like K through 8 Grade teachers or principal would minister the act of corporal punishment.

Teacher would take you into the hall with another teacher present. Have you bend over give you three hits with a paddle.

Ninth and 10th grade you were sent to the office and the principal will decide your punishment depending on the severity 3 to 5 it’s with the paddle either wooden or fiberglass

11th grade was pretty much optional lift up to the student form of punishment in our cases there was detention time are the paddling or suspension depending on the severity

12th grade year senior year paddling was not an option at this point you were expected to know how to act and behave and not be punished if so you got suspended and if he wasn’t careful then you didn’t graduate and you repeated your senior year.

I think girls were far more gifted at playing the innocent and counted on getting sympathy to avoid punishments (be it spanking or whatever else). They play the 'sugar and spice and everything nice' meme so well and knew how to milk it for all it was worth. And their tears flow so easily on command.

I work with a lady in her mid fifties whose tears even now flow at the drop of a hat, e.g. when complaining that a co-worker does less than his share of mundane tasks. Hard not to conclude that many aren't just more skilful manipulators than men.

I think girls were far more gifted at playing the innocent and counted on getting sympathy to avoid punishments (be it spanking or whatever else). They play the 'sugar and spice and everything nice' meme so well and knew how to milk it for all it was worth. And their tears flow so easily on command.

Hard not to conclude that many aren't just more skilful manipulators than men.

It is very possible that girls can arouse pity in those around them and avoid punishment. However, I rather wonder whether parents and teachers do not treat them more leniently because of their gender.

When I was a child, I often asked my mother to spare me the spanking. However, my mother was consistent. If she said I was going to get a beating, nothing could change that. I have no sister. I don't know if the mother would be more lenient towards the girl.

My brother and I were for sure spanked more than our sister, but I dont think there was any real reason behind it other that we were not as well behaved as her most of the time

My brother and I were for sure spanked more than our sister, but I dont think there was any real reason behind it other that we were not as well behaved as her most of the time

I think there are three reasons here:

- girls break the rules less often

- parents treat daughters more gently than sons

- it's easier for girls to arouse pity to avoid being spanked on their bottoms

The question is which cause(s) operate in a specific case.

I think there are three reasons here:

You forgot to add the possibility that girls can be more sneaky and better at concealing their wrong-doings ... this not especially by being more adept at arousing pity, but more in their ability to manipulate a narrative convincingly to their own benefit ...

You forgot to add the possibility that girls can be more sneaky and better at concealing their wrong-doings ... this not especially by being more adept at arousing pity, but more in their ability to manipulate a narrative convincingly to their own benefit ...

You're right, I didn't think about that. I assumed a situation in which the girl's transgression came to light. What I wrote was only about avoiding corporal punishment.

You're right, I didn't think about that. I assumed a situation in which the girl's transgression came to light. What I wrote was only about avoiding corporal punishment.

That's OK.

I seem to remember saying you didn't have a sister. Having had one gives things a different perspective ... ha ha ha

@Reman:

You said parents treat daughters more gently than sons. Why do you think that is?

@Reman: You said parents treat daughters more gently than sons. Why do you think that is?

Perhaps they believe that boys as future men should be treated differently. Maybe they think that boys need a tougher upbringing

When my mother decided that I had to be spanked, she never gave in to my requests to forego the punishment. She told me that if she did it, it would teach me to avoid responsibility and beg for mercy. I don't have a sister, so I don't know how my mother would treat her daughter. I don't think I was treated very harshly. However, I was treated very consistently. If mom decided on corporal punishment, nothing could change it.

Perhaps they believe that boys as future men should be treated differently. Maybe they think that boys need a tougher upbringing.

That is outrageously sexist. I don't know how these people sleep at night.

Perhaps they believe that boys as future men should be treated differently. Maybe they think that boys need a tougher upbringing.

That is outrageously sexist. I don't know how these people sleep at night.

This kind of attitude comes from a time when virtually all countries mandated military service of their young men. This became ingrained in many countries ever since the Great War of 1914-1918 when millions of men from nations all over the world were drafted into vast armies. This unchallenged notion became even more prevalent during WWII, when nations like the US had some 16 million young men under arms in their militaries.

After WWII with the rivalries between blocs of nations, yet another world war was expected and so nations prepared for this coming conflict by doing their utmost to have boys grow up to be strong, healthy, resilient and tough, this for later service in the armed forces of their respective nations.

This is how I for instance was brought up, to expect to fight in a WWIII, this is how the general attitude was of virtually all Americans and other (European) nations. It was simply the prevailing expectation of my younger years, the 1950s-60s-70s. And if there wasn't a WWIII going on yet, there were always proxy conflicts going on around the world that would require a military to intervene.

There is actually nothing shocking about such an attitude. Throughout history men have fought the wars or done hard backbreaking work. They needed to be tough and strong.

It is our present day and age that is something of an exception. And even so, if you follow world news and expectations of the future, surely you can see so many signs of the pendulum swinging back to the notions of the past.

OMG I hope we don't return to the toxic days of barbarian thuggery (a euphemism for male chauvinism). Please tell me that's not happening.

As for the armed forces, I would rather jump off the Humber Bridge than have anything to do with that.

As for America, there is only one way to make it great again. Bring back Woodstock.

As for the armed forces, I would rather jump off the Humber Bridge than have anything to do with that.

That is not how things worked when I was young. Surely anyone with a cursory knowledge of history knows that it is men who do the fighting in armed conflicts. And at times, armies were composed of drafted civilians, especially the vast armies of the 20th century World Wars.

Now soldiers take too long to train properly, which is a very expensive investment in our technological age. That is why many armies are composed of professionals who make a career of military service and why there is/was a relaxing of 'men are tough and strong' attitudes.

Betcha it won't keep on like this forever. Things will change back again.