YouTube & Diapers

I'm not sure what everyone else thinks, but personally I'm getting rather sick of seeing ab/dl-related videos on YouTube. I don't personally think we should expose non-ab/dl's to our fetish, which is inevitably what happens on a mainstream, family-friendly site like YouTube. I realize the frustration that comes with having such an obscure, "eccentric" fetish, and sharing fetish related pics, vids, etc., but I wish some people would exercise a little more discretion in doing so. Not everyone in the ab/dl community WANTS the cat out of the bag so to speak. Even if my personal privacy is maintained, I can't help but still feel a little violated when I see ab/dl videos posted on "public" (emphasis on public) sites such as YouTube. As a rule of thumb, I think we should limit ourselves to sites "specifically intended" for fetish-related multimedia instead of inundating go-to, public sites like Youtube with sexual, ab/dl content. Even though I love diapers, I don't honestly think other people should be exposed to ab/dl stuff without good cause. I don't believe that public exhibition of diaper fetishism inspires empathy or understanding in people. On the contrary, I feel it generally has the opposite effect; people consider us freaks. And unfortunately the sentiment is somewhat justified. What else would someone with no diaper fetish think if they saw some random video of a (half-naked) adult striking sexual poses in a diaper, or peeing in a (baby-ish) diaper??? Naturally they're gonna be a little disturbed. Just as I myself am disturbed watching two guys french kiss. It's not that I'm homophobic; I'm just not gay, so it's "disturbing" to me, no offense. ...As a community we don't need "understanding," cause people who aren't ab/dl are simply not likely to understand. What we need is acceptance and libertarian-style privacy. To be left alone, and not be bothered by "outsiders" who can't understand us. And the best way to achieve that is by playing in our own play-pens so to speak, and not mess with the "big kids." If the big kids wanna see our diapered butts, then they can come to our play-pens.

....So please, people, stop posting diaper stuff on public sites like YouTube. Convenience aside (and I don't know what happened to abdlvideos.com) it's not doing us any favors.

I think some people are more open about there love of diapers and some people just want to know that they are not alone thats y they post vids like that

With all of the wild things you can find on the internet, I think that people enjoying diapers is hardly offensive. If people aren't interested, turn the other cheek

I know what you're saying Willard, and I agree on most of your points. But, I think there will always be people to do such things, as long as they feel they can, they will. It's frustrating to say the least, but it's fruitless to try and have people stop. It's the same as people who think it's fun to purposely go out in public and mess in a diaper. I'm talking about like in a confined area, because they want to see peoples reactions to there stink and then the notoriety that they are wearing a diaper! We will always have this kind of person who want to inflict their game on others.

On another hand, it can also have some benefit. People do get more tolerant of a behavior when there have more exposure to seeing it. I know, for the most part it's not the type of exposure we DL's & AB's really want (like the Donahue Show) but it does let people get use to seeing some things.

We really do have to take the bad with the good here, we're stuck with people who will go over the top and show things not all of us like. Maybe as there is more and more exposure others will see there are, like in anything else, really good people involved doing it, and some not so good people doing it.

A debate i can finally enjoy, i'd sway towards luv's it here. a little exposure is better than none. The pen you refer to could also be seen as a seedy underground den, with more main stream folk knowing less of what it is we enjoy and free to point wild accusations and be left defenceless because of Sticking to our play pen. I ask you how many times have you stuck your nose in a fart fetish site to see what it's all about? Pardon the pun. This all said the videos could be more tasteful, a poorly lit middle aged balding man with curtains pulled turning red in the face because of dropping one is enough to put me right off for month - the chat show's, men's magazines, can do it tastefuly. Why cant We???

I live in a small town in western Nebraska. If people knew I liked to wear diapers, I would have a very hard time. However, people around here have the internet and they are beginning to discover there is more to the world than this little one horse town. It (the internet) is staring to open there eyes and there realizing there is more out there that missionary sex just for the purpose of having more kids.

I first realised that there were other people in the world who liked diapers on a public sight and as I was in my early teens that was very reassuring for me.

Basically ABDL is appearing more as a general fetish and less unusual, if I ever tell anyone that I am a DL they might have heard of it now and hence might not overreact quite so much as they would if it was completely new to them.

Also, the example of someone wearing a diaper obviously in public places to see the look on peoples faces, that's a different fetish, that's exhibitionism, there's nothing to say that people can't have more than one fetish 😉

It wasn't long ago that homosexuality was a taboo subject and that didn't do very much for the rights of homosexuals, I'm not going to put a video of myself on youtube but if anyone out there wants to (as in a video of them, not me) it's up to them and perhaps it'll breed some understanding.

My take on things like posting videos on youtube and such:

If you want to post them, I have no problem with it...but please, PLEASE..be tasteful about it.

Showing yourself wearing diapers or talking about them is one thing, but I don't see why people have to post vids of them filling their diapers. That, IMHO, is distasteful. You wanna post vids like that, then post them on daily diapers youtube knockoff 😃

-Sky

I absolutely agree with you Willard. It is inappropriate and should stop; same goes for the Myspace profiles and here's my reasoning why (before the attacks).

Youtube is not a place of purity, I would be a fool to suggest so, but that is not reason enough to justify placing sexually explicit videos on there regarding a fetish. The argument of course is that why should the other videos regarding fetishes and what-not be exempt: they shouldn't, but being that this is a diaper forum, I'm approaching just that particular niche.

The thing is, excusing yourself on the wrong-doings of others is never a good defense, "The other kids in the class made fun of the teacher so I did as well..." Lead by example, and if no one is paying attention, then simply just be the better person. Everyone goes to Youtube, this includes children as well. It has become the new television. I'm sure that most people would agree that the world does not understand this fetish (hell, I don't even really), and people have a propensity for taking negatively to things that they do not understand unless they're educated about it. This education process takes a long, long time and won't necessarily enlighten everyone. The education process includes more delving into diversity, tolerance, understanding, etc. Jamming your 'deviant' interests into the faces of others without their consent is not conducive to this education process.

Face it, you will never see a growth in tolerance in your lifetime towards this fetish. We, as a people, still haven't accepted homosexuality and science has essentially proven that it is due to genealogy, and thus-not a choice. But most diaper enthusiasts are not helping the cause, actually quite the opposite, by being selfish and stubborn and refusing to acknowledge the comfort levels of others. Adults with children will regard you as one of the enemies that must be brought down so that their children will not have to witness your perversions and be corrupted by them. Strike me down-but I have to say that I agree to some extent. There is a reason that responsible fetishists take to (mostly) secure sites where they can indulge all they want with one another; that way if someone happens upon that realm, it was by their choice, not by a twist of the arm. If a kid sneaks into his neighbor's house at night and watches a porno movie he found there, it's not the neighbor's fault. If that same kid walks into the neighbor's house and the neighbor pops a porno into the VCR in front of him, that is very much the neighbor's fault.

Let's be honest here for a minute, the desire to utilize Myspace, Youtube and other largely public domains is exhibitionism-pure and simple. The satisfaction is derived from forcing other, unwilling participants into your game and that is wrong, bottom line. If I were a parent, even as a diaper enthusiast, I would turn you in if you decided to flaunt your fetish in front of my kid. The videos submitted and the profiles created in these public domain areas are never subtle, they're blatant and completely sexual. A quick search on Youtube alone shows that the adult diaper videos that you'll encounter are people rubbing themselves, grunting and basically being sleazy for the camera or are videos from obvious sex sites such as Diapergal. Tell me that these are somehow appropriate for a general audience because it's simply your interest and I'll show you an inconsiderate and selfish pervert who should have their internet privileges revoked.

I just like to see women in diapers in an setting

I don't get offended by anything shown on youtube or anywhere else. Everyone in this world has their own opinion on everything and there isn't going to be much anyone can do to change that opinion. I am not about to join an activist group or anything like that to stop anyones freedoms to do what they want, but I will live my life to its fullest and enjoy the things I love. I could care less what others think, say or do to make any one particular group look good or bad. I am happy with my life and I am comfortable in my skin and that is all that matters.

Love your opinion. Freedom .

I dont think it matters, Everyone's fetish is on YouTube...in fact its hard to find something that hasnt been on YouTube at least once...

Its a public place, a virtually unmoderated Anonymous Public Place...

People are going to get offended at things, its not going to stop, no matter what happens, Your pissin in the wind if you think its going to stop...

But, whatever...You know? I stopped Caring about what the Interwebs thinks a long time ago...

When youve bitten the bait of enough Trolls you come to realize Anonymity brings out the worst in people...

If you dont like it, dont participate in it...same goes for forums, blogs, personal profiles, etc....

Always been Anti-Moderation, lol...

I do agree with you, it is a no-win situation. I'm not so much trying to rally against it as I'm trying to inject a little common sense into those who might contribute to it.

There is a difference between offensive and borderline illegal. While I could go on a completely different tangent about my consideration of other people's laws, this one sticks with me because it is relevant: It is exhibitionism towards minors. You might as well knock on your neighbors door, and when the kid answers start rubbing one off because, after all, "I don't care-freeeeeedom!"

There will always be someone to take offense with something you do, and for the most part you shouldn't care. As long as you aren't hurting anyone, who cares? But don't you think that by taking a very apathetic and discourteous view on the rights of children not to have to be exposed to the sexual nature and/or perversions of adults that you have stepped over offensive and have entered a very questionable realm?

Also, by excusing your actions based on the fact that 'everyone's doing it' was a cheap argument for the Nazis and it's a cheap argument now.

Well, it wasnt an arguement for "Everyone's Doing It" I was saying that ABDL isnt the only fetish on there, That we're not getting more hate than other fetishes on the site...

Fetishes are different, Difference breeds hate...Its Human Nature...

But, you are right, there is a difference between Offensive and Illegal...Obviously pedophilia and the like should be taken off, in fact, YouTube already does this...

I was saying that ABDL videos are a fact of life, as well as Gay, Trans, BDSM, etc. videos are a fact of life, and are going to engender the same amount of hate...

I guess the point really was, your not going to stop the haters, and I enjoy some of the videos, not all, but some, and am willing to take the Good with the Bad...And that the public exposure of the fetish is neither overly good or overly bad...The same with the aforementioned examples...

As far as Nazis are concerned, their rhetoric may be Asinine, Racist and Hateful...But they have just as much right to post videos as anyone else...And i personally would defend their right to do so...

I am a parent and I have the right to block what my children participate in on the internet. And I do that. If children are getting on these sights to view these so called borderline exhibitionist postings on you-tube as well as other sites, it is not the fault of the person posting it as it is the fault of the parent not patrolling what their children are doing.

That is the problem with this country, we all of a sudden want to always blame everyone else for our problems and dislikes when we really have the right to control it ourselves.

If you find the you-tube postings that offensive I would recommend putting a block on your computer so you don't have to worry about what you see cause you won't see it.

Exactly 😎

I feel like certain aspects of my statements are being ignored, whether this is intentional or not makes no difference-it is still dodging a valid point.

Yes, for every difference there are going to be those who take offense, who will then judge, hate, blame, etc. But there are varying degrees to everything. While a video of someone traipsing about clad only in a diaper will take its share of flack from those who do not share in this interest, it is relatively harmless all things considered. So in regards to videos such as this, I agree that there really isn't anything wrong with such. I don't see the point because it is not my mind set to put myself on display in such an arena, but I also do not see much harm.

The type of videos that I'm speaking specifically of are the ones that are gratuitously sexual in nature. I am by no means a puritan, I have rather peculiar tastes of my own that I'm sure many of you would find disturbing, but the point is that it is not terribly ethical to constantly strive to shove these in the face of others, especially minors (who make up a large portion of the patrons to youtube).

Side by side, the video of someone running around in a diaper to someone zooming in on their diapered crotch while rubbing it vigorously are two separate entities. One could be construed as sexual, and while it likely is, isn't much more than the pokes at sexuality that some Disney films portray. The other has jumped into a new realm of pure exhibitionism that demands an audience to witness a perversion for the sexual gratification of its creator and it takes no heed whether that audience is 18+ or not.

You can attach filters all you like, but the point to be had is that these purposefully sexual in nature videos should have their own separate arena to be displayed. Like I said before, I would never, and am not now advocating for the complete removal of such things, but am recommending that they be seen for what they are which is more or less inappropriate by intent. This is why places like this exist, to display these sort of things in private, as acts of a sexual nature should be.

As far as the fellow that gave the flippant comment about the supposed existence of these blatant videos on youtube (I should remind you again that much like myspace is well known to be primarily a youth driven corner of the net, so is youtube), I find it hard to believe that you have never been privy to such a thing.

All of this summed up and placed in a nutshell: While the park is for everyone, it is most likely going to draw in more children than adults-so think about that when you're sitting on a bench, in the open, feverishly jerking off in view of those passing by.

I agree with you 100%. that's what x tube is for!!!!!! 😎

I dont see why its a bad thing. the more exposure to it being a safe and non harmful fetish would be a god thing cause some people think that we are all pedophiles and should be locked up.

Damian, you are on it 100% and I couldn't agree more. While I realize that for myself I am completely responsible-this includes image as well-but I can't help feel as though if I were to discuss this interest with someone (a relationship interest perhaps) that the inundation of moronic exhibitionism will have given a pre-coloring to the situation. No longer would I be me with an obscure desire or an individual, I am now me who is part of a pack of exhibitionists that prance around like dolts on the public highways of the internet.

Baby Boy, you are absolutely correct. Places do exist that are a welcome environment for this type material. They are plenty and free to use; why don't more go that route? Because those people want to expose themselves to uninterested others. I'm calling a spade a spade here; those of you who insist on using these very public routes are simply obsessed with the notion that people who do not share your enthusiasm might happen upon your material-you just don't get the same kicks on a site where this material is expected, because you know that those who are looking there are more similar to yourselves and that's a real disappointment.

You can talk about freedom of expression until you turn blue in the face, but the truth is that you want to force unwilling participants into this. For the same reason that a large majority can't get enough of talking about exposing themselves in public for kicks and humiliation, this same majority would lose that essence of exposure if they only used the more appropriate routes. This is where the pathetic attempt at patting the freedom of expression route comes in.

Those of you who think you're pulling the wool over anyone's eyes just keep thinking so. Eventually those places that do not want you will weed you out and leave you whining and crying in the ditch, no longer allowed to play in the same arena. Myspace is apparently systematically tossing you out, Youtube I can only assume is close behind.

Adios exhibitionists, go sling your irrelevant b.s. elsewhere.

There is a difference between forcing our fetish on the public and exposing them to it. I believe it would be beneficial to both parties if the public were exposed to the ab/dl community in an educational sense. However, this can be accomplished in an unobtrusive manner. I saw a video clip (on YouTube) of a DL interviewed on the Tyra Banks show that did just that (a highly recommended video for those of you who have not seen it. More exposure such as this could positively affect the public perception of our community.

That may be true in some instances, however, the issue is that most videos (most being almost every single one that I've ever discovered) are not intended for educational purposes-but for exhibitionism purposes.

Tell me, to what good is it rubbing in the faces of those who not only do not share this interest, but fail to understand it on even a most basic psychological level? Doesn't sound like members of this community are building a solid rapport with the outlying groups. Strikes me more as the idea that any attention is better than no attention, right?

Everyone has their own oppinion and their own free will. Some People are just more open with their interests and are comfortable and free feeling knowing that their deep dark secret is out in the open. I can agree that it does reach out to people who may feel like they're the only ones in the world with a love for diapers or being babyish.

I used to think I was all alone in the world until I decided to look around and explore outside of my "play pen" and that's when I found all kinds of sites, information, met people with the same interests. In fact I think there's a lot more people in my state that have a diaper or baby fetish but still think they're alone. I now know that I'm not the only one.

I simply just think that it's their own free will and their own decision to make if they want to let the world know about their fetishes. Pleasant as some of it may not be to see on a public site such as Youtube, but who's gonna look unless they're searching it up?

:😃 Well I guess I have to throw my 2 cents worth into the mix. I know when I was first discovering the need to wear diapers I was appaled by it. I thought I was a freak. Didn't think that anyone else was into them. I would swear I would never do it again. Then some time later the earge would start again. I would resist it as long as I could and then I would get to a point that I almost had to have it. Like a smoker has to have a cigarett. That was all before the pc and the internet and all that. I think I was in my late 20's when I suddenly found myself looking at a magazine in a local news store that had a picture of a woman in a diaper. I couldn't belive my eyes. Of course I had to buy it. To shorten this long story, I'm glad that therer are people willing to put thier faces on the net so others like us can see they ar not alone in the world. I understand that some of it is very distasteful but on the other hand some people think wetting thier pants is very distasteful. If there is fear of your children seeing this then like some posters have said you should be monitoring what they are doing and if you don't like it block it. There were a lot of great groups on yahoo a few years back that delt with AB/DL. Yahoo decided to clean house and get rid of all the distasteful groups. All the AB/DL groups were one of the first ones to get chopped. Just because someone at Yahoo decided that they didn't think the AB/DL scene was apropriate. My point is why condem some thing just because you daon't like it. I'm not into scat sites and all that heavy stuff but I just choose to not go there. I don't think it should be banned I just don't go there. My choice. I think it's pretty sad when a few people think they can decide what I can or cannot watch just because they deem it inappropriate. :'( don't tell me what I like and I won't tell you what you like. As far as my kids are concerned I took an interest in what they watched early on.

I am about to break my own pet peeve and post my opinion to OP and not read all the others. I think thats rediculous. WHo cares if they are on youtube or other public sites?? if they dont like, dont look. How is this any different than any other video posted? i dont agree with street racing but i see that on there all the time. i dont want to see two guys making out, but thats on tv and everywhere else. who cares?? not me! you dont hear me bitching about gays or street racing do you? nope! i just don't look. simple as that.

I don't think it's a bad thing to put a diaper video on youtube but please show some good taste. Although we want exposure, we don't want to freak people out.

Parents can be in control, or at least be expected to be.

Perverts...... The very word suggests that it is insane to even try to control them, they are the perverted.... I am a pervert. and it goes along well with all my other fetishes.

I don't like other perverts/peoples masturbatory material. I am not insane. I do not try to stop them, because just the same as my fetishes go hand in hand so does there availability to the internet.

So life is great ether way, and my children will not be permitted, or subjected to that sort of material as long as I am in charge of the situation.

People can search for anything they want on the internet and it is the same with youtube. People are not likely to just happen to see them. But I understand about keeping fetish to appropriate sites.

Hey you don't have to go to strait to youtude to watch any videos like adult baby if you search for it den be there and some of videos from other website like zity,biz go strait to youtube videos