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I started feeling awkward quite early, around 4 years old I think. I was embarrassed even in front of my mother, although I never felt embarrassed in front of men. The first shameful experience occurred at the age of 6, when I was given enemas in the presence of my aunt, who was about 20 years old, as well as other people’s mothers and children under 6 years old. At the same time, I noticed that most of the children who were treated with me did not feel awkward, even without panties. Were you embarrassed by nudity as a child? and have you ever had similar moments?

cal1082

I think there are a lot of factors that influence this and it's interesting how we all have different head trips over this stuff.

For me I was taught young, around 3 or 4 about wearing clothes and keeping them on because I was one of those rip my clothes off children. Things got in the way lol. I was a super energetic kid.

So I was taught keep your clothes on in public but it's ok to take them off at the doctor, but alongside that I got messages from my mother about not being undressed in front of men. I always had female medical providers because my mom thought that was more comfortable and so it got very ingrained to be more comfortable with nudity in front of women.

All told I didn't really mind nudity medically until my teenage years, then I started not liking my mother being in the room. But I didn't say anything until the year I was 15 and was offered the choice to see the doctor alone and took it. I definitely realize now that back then had some internalized embarrassment that I wasn't aware of until my mom wasn't in the room and I had a different experience.

Koa Jut

The truth is I never felt ashamed of going naked. In the 80s it was very common for children to be naked on the beach.

In my house, nudity is experienced naturally. I have always seen my parents and brothers naked. We even bathe together.

I think I only felt embarrassed 3 times.

The first when I had my first circumcision on a trip to the beach at 7

The second when my mother on a trip to visit the family showed my grandmother and uncles my penis.

And the third time when I started puberty and its changes was the last time they let me walk naked in public at 11 years old.

Reman

As a child, I wasn't ashamed to be naked. I didn't feel embarrassed in front of my parents or medical staff. When I was 10, I felt embarrassed when I was examined by a pediatrician and had my genitals examined. I wasn't embarrassed by my mother seeing me undressed. I was not embarrassed by the fact that I was examined by a female pediatrician. I felt embarrassed that I was being examined in the presence of my mother.

My mother saw me naked until I was 15. The reasons were various - spanking, enema, suppositories, developmental assessment. My mother thought that at that age she had the right to see me naked. It didn't make me feel ashamed, it was just that I was treated like a child. I would be terribly embarrassed if it happened in front of another person.