Giving versus receiving

As I've aged, and libido seems to be waning a bit, due to various factors that include physical injury and urological challenges, I find that I can really enjoy the efforts to assist a partner or SO in building up to a multi-orgasmic conclusion.

Edging has becum a very important aspect in getting to the point of climax or orgasm. I may actually produce more "fluid" in the process, and get more clues due to an increase in lubrication, heavy breathing, and moaning, that lets me know that my efforts are having a positive impact on my SO or partner.

Including a preliminary enema and/or massage accomplishes some very wonderful sensations and emotional or psychological benefits. ENEMASSAGE is a two way street that not only excites my selfish desires, but can also tickle those secondary orafices in female anatomy. The biggest challenge is convincing the other to just go with the flow and not be concerned about potential messes that can be managed.

Again, I do acknowledge the selfish side of enema administration, but giving usually is far more satisfying than receiving at this point in life!

@sse4fun your entire post tells me you would be a wonderful partner for any woman because you care about her being satisfied as well as yourself. I think you might even see your partner being satisfied as a reward for yourself and surely the partner you select to be with will see this is important to you.

The biggest challenge is convincing the other to just go with the flow and not be concerned about potential messes that can be managed.

You would have a rapport and connection with her and I seriously doubt that she would worry about there being a little mess because it would be something you both created together. I am not a spring chicken on any planet and in my younger days I really enjoyed and still enjoy the feeling of an orgasm but those "cum and go" and I can and do give myself an orgasm when I want one. But to me it is more than just an orgasm, it is seeing and feeling the way you are making your partner enjoy your touch,

Edging has becum a very important aspect in getting to the point of climax or orgasm. I may actually produce more "fluid" in the process, and get more clues due to an increase in lubrication, heavy breathing, and moaning, that lets me know that my efforts are having a positive impact on my SO or partner.

You would be known as a "keeper" for any woman who has half a brain in her head and she would give you every opportunity to see that your efforts are having a positive impact on her. I am lucky in this way because I have "keepers" and I have finally found that the big "O" is nice but as I said, I can give those to myself anytime. It is sharing the intimacy with someone who cares about how they can have a positive impact on you.

Friends like you would be worth having to wash the bedding or cleaning up the mess after it is all said and done. 🌹

Thanks for the kind words Asteria!

It is quite unfortunate that many women received their only enemas under challenging circumstances such as during labor and delivery etc.

Those who experience a nice gentle enema, under favorable circumstances and with plenty of TLC, may well be inclined to carry on with this simple procedure and pleasure.

I agree that there are considerable pleasures to be realized by giving. Being male and not anatomically being blessed with the same multi-orgasmic capabilities as our beloved females, an extended erotic build is something I most enjoy, and I usually find partners also. Whether it is beginning with a relaxed massage, a playful exam (and temperature taking), or some costume roleplaying, the erotic build, or edging, is very stimulating. I've never had the pleasure of administering an enema to a desiring partner (or sadly, receiving one either 😉 , but I am considerably aroused by the prospect. I have had fun pleasuring my partner with "toys" though, and encouraging them to use them to pleasure themselves. The only goal is to enable the biggest orgasmic experience possible. I find my partner's erotic ecstasy to be very pleasurable to me. Don't get me wrong though, I really enjoy receiving various attentions from a partner also, but find it most erotic when I can help my partner "cum very hard" first... mummm.

@sse4fun Those who experience a nice gentle enema, under favorable circumstances and with plenty of TLC, may well be inclined to carry on with this simple procedure and pleasure.

I was awakened at 6 AM in the hospital and given a Fleet enema to prep me for surgery. I was in a lot of pain, and the nurse was not sympathetic. I never wanted another enema after that.

Long story short, after I was released from the hospital, a very caring nurse gave me a cleansing enema during home care. That experience unexpectedly felt so pleasurable that later I went to a hospital/medical specialty store and purchased my first fountain syringe

The clerk who assisted me was a sweet older woman who retired from nursing and educated me on how safely to use a syringe and a rectal tube. At first I felt embarrassed, but she told me that as a woman, I would come to value an enema bag as an essential part of my personal healthcare.

I still remember what began a close friendship with enemas. I can’t believe it was 40 years ago!

I have never given one, not sure it would be my thing as I lean mostly on the sub side. I do a lot of enemas solo and I have only ever received an enema from one person, the enema wasn't a very big volume so it wasn't as intense as I would have liked but, it was still embarrassing since she stood in front of me when I used the toilet to empty it out.

I think as a receiver it can be a somewhat humiliating and vulnerable position to let yourself get into, but if I ever was a giver, for me I'd approach it as I would myself and be very attentive to the fact the receiver is letting me place them in such a vulnerable and compromising position.

I've given and received. My preference is to receive, but I am not stingy. I enjoy sharing pleasure, though I want it all for myself at a selfish level. More than once I gave a lover edging and milking. When they offered me the same, I said, "oh no. I'm good."

I have many more years receiving than I do giving. That experience started with me helping my sister with her enemas. After she left home for college, I took my enemas solo till I met my very lovely current partner. She asked me to give her an enema, she was inexperienced, and since then our giving and receiving is about 50/50 and always enjoyable.

I have yet to have the pleasure of administering an enema to a woman, or receive one for that matter. I am hoping to rectify this one day. Like @sse4fun , I enjoy the long play of massage, edging, teasing before finally bringing a woman to a glorious orgasm. To incorporate an enema into this scenario with a woman who is anally inclined, would be the icing on the cake I think.

As with many things we do for or with our partners, we sometimes do things for the benefit of the other. Therefore, giving or receiving can both be pleasant in the right circumstances.

As with many things we do for or with our partners, we sometimes do things for the benefit of the other. Therefore, giving or receiving can both be pleasant in the right circumstances.

Thank you, Cheryl. Beautifully stated. As a wife and mom, I have given enemas on occasion to my family, mainly in times of illness or PMS-related discomfort, and I felt pleasure "in the right circumstances.” As a woman, I think these feelings come naturally to me. It must be part of my DNA.