Pegging becoming the new norm

I am just curious, is pegging, becoming more widely accepted, as a sexual practice, among heterosexuals. Many years ago, most males, I know would’ve looked down on this type of activity as an unnatural. So what is the general consensus among people regarding this activity? Do women enjoy doing this as much as men enjoy having it done to them? I don’t know I’m curious to find out how did people get into doing this activity? What do they like about doing it? How long have they been doing it and how do you males feel having it done to them? And how do females feel doing this to males? Is it a sense of empowerment? Just curious.

If it is new norm then I know I was born at least 40 yrs too soon, OMG anal play today is way more open than when I was younger and was a big taboo.

It is way more popular today!!! Back in the 70s it was very rare...but, I did serve a Mistress who loved pegging me...

My guess it's been around for a looooong time - just gets more attention these days with intenet porn and more openess about discussing fetishes and kinks.

Both men and women can be pegged, but most of us tend to think of it as a woman using a strap-on on a man. Marquis DeSade described it in his book “Philosophy in the Bedroom”in 1795 ('Come now, Madame, embugger your brother'…). The term “pegging” was coined in 2001 by Don Savage. The following is from the ref. article:”

“Dildos appear as archaeological artifacts in the Paleolithic period thousands of years before the invention of pottery, domestication of animals, invention of agriculture, settlement in cities, the Kinsey Report and, of course, Broad City. From ancient Japan and medieval China to the frescoes of Pompeii and pamphlets circulated during the French Revolution, no human culture has lived without them.

The same goes for strap-ons, which are just dildos attached to a wearable harness. Though the current pegging craze makes strap-ons seem like some sort of newfangled fuck item, they’re really not — strap-ons and pegging have been around for thousands of years, too, and people of all genders and orientations have been fucking each other with them for just as long.”

https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/the-radical-history-of-how-strap-ons-pegged-the-patriarchy

My bet is that as long as dildos have been around, women have pegged men with them (as well as enjoyed them on their own!).

It is certainly something that is now discussed somewhat more openly than in previous times. At least in pleasurable terms for the men involved.

If anyone ever saw the (rather dreadful) movie 'Myra Breckenridge' there is a scene where a man is given a pegging as punishment by a female doctor or nurse and it was presented as being the most horrid thing to undergo. Lots of screaming going I seem to remember.

Nowadays I get the impression a man getting pegged by a lady is considered to be something of a treat, not a punishment perse.

So yes, there is something new in how pegging is regarded I guess.

It has become more mainstream. It's mentioned in some mainstream TV series, movies, etc. There was a mini scandal when it was rumored that one of the British princes indulges in the practice; and the fact that this was considered like a sexual escape and not something dreadful is a sign pegging has become more mainstream.

I however said "more mainstream" than it was, not "mainstream". It's certainly a fairly minority activity.

Nowadays I get the impression a man getting pegged by a lady is considered to be something of a treat, not a punishment perse.

Like any other kink - enemas, spanking, etc- it can be either depending on delivery!

There are tons of pegging videos on the porn sites, X Videos, XHamster, etc.. I love watching them!

I think it’s because men have discovered the immense pleasure of prostate stimulation.

Like any other kink - enemas, spanking, etc- it can be either depending on delivery!

That is indeed so. For many sexual practices.

I just have the notion that decades ago, pegging a man would not have been considered fun/pleasant for the man.

Something similar seems to be going on with male chastity cages as well. Never heard of them when I was young, but now they also seem to have become popular and not all that abnormal a sexual phenomenon.

I think that most men have wondered why a lot of women like to have anal sex and wonder just how does it fell if they like it.

My last professional mistress had a favourite phrase while pegging me - "I want you to know how a woman feels during an anal fuck..." I think she really meant it too!

My last professional mistress had a favourite phrase while pegging me - "I want you to know how a woman feels during an anal fuck..." I think she really meant it too!

Well said. Pegging is a balance between men and women when it comes to anal sex. I have never been pegging. I have never inserted my penis into a woman's anus. However, I do not condemn either of them. I think that pegging is not only about anal sex in the other direction. It is also the desire of many women to subordinate men.

It maybe that the open discussion and admitting to enjoying being pegged is being discussed openly and honestly by men. As pegging is a representation of a penis in an asshole...fucking..it may have been seen as "gay". The possible "gay" suggestion is not as prevalent as it was in the past. The pleasurable experience of being anally fucked is overriding that "gay" suggestion.

I've probably been pegged 6 times and it's GREAT!!! One time the old gf had me on my back on edge of bed fucking me. While she was fucking me I started masturbating, when I finally orgasmed I almost shot myself in the face with cum. She said she'd never seen me cum so hard, it was literally FUCKING AWESOME!!!!! 😜😉

I've always been anally erotic, and when my first wife said she wanted to peg me (early '70s) I was all for it. Fortunately, female partners since then have also been amenable to it. Life has been good. Now, I'm single and pegging is but a fond memory . . . but hope springs eternal.

I think that there’s even a conversation is good. It’ll take years and years to make it more mainstream still.

I wish this conversation had properly taken place when I was a teenager, as I have always enjoyed anal play but always by myself. I’d have certainly brought it up or listened out for girls showing interest when we were talking about sex at uni.

I still fantasise about my partner pegging or fisting me. I doubt it’ll ever happen as our sex life is very vanilla (and pleasantly orgasmic), but the fantasy remains captivating.

The pleasure in anal stimulation is great, so I hope more men declare interest and find willing partners.

Perhaps I was a bit ahead of my time because over 25 plus years ago I pegged several men and a couple of other women along the way. As far as the men went, some enjoyed it and wanted it more than once, for some once was enough and a few forget it, will never know what they missed.

And yes I was also on the receiving end however I was very reluctant to allow a man to do me as they tended to act like a bull in a China shop without any regard to one’s feelings. I found it far more fun and enjoyable to be with another woman using a strap on with each other. Twice the fun. 😃😃

I don’t know about it being more mainstream, but it’s definitely more accepted. I’ve never been pegged, but it sure is on my bucket list.

@tillie The women you pegged, was it anally or vaginally?

In regard to "pegging" where a woman takes a man's butt just as he would "take hers." My view is if a man truly adores a woman, just as she does him, he should be willing to allow her to pursue and enjoy her pleasures just as she does with him. It should NOT be an admission of him having gay any interest but more of a sincere willingness to share and please her.

The first time I was pegged was while attending college and I absolutely adored my girlfriend of that time. When she revealed to me, "it was her turn to take me in the butt", needless to say I was "taken back!" However, although reluctant I took the position she preferred and soon discovered this intimate and invasive "sharing" brought even closer together. The sharing of being pegged generates a level of intimacy that must be experienced to accurately describe and understand.

That is my view!

Ray

So age wise I'm a millennial and my experience has been that it was always liked but men weren't always comfortable being open about it. Even in high school some of my guy friends would talk about enjoying a finger up there or a small toy but only with trusted people. I think the "stigma" of anal play being considered "homosexual" really hit certain men hard so they never wanted to admit it or be open about it. And I don't say that to offend anyone I think it just takes some time for people to realize what they like sexually and then be comfortable with it if it's not vanilla or it deviates from the "norms".

Even in high school some of my guy friends would talk about enjoying a finger up there or a small toy but only with trusted people. I think the "stigma" of anal play being considered "homosexual" really hit certain men hard so they never wanted to admit it or be open about it.

It's not only men who have an aversion, I've known ladies who also however sexually adventurous they might have been in having a threesome, let it be known in no uncertain terms that she too did emphatically not want to be 'touched back there'.

Sometimes the excuse of conflating anal play with homosexuality just doesn't work. Some have other reasons for the aversion.

@RaytheGent The first time I was pegged was while attending college and I absolutely adored my girlfriend of that time. When she revealed to me, "it was her turn to take me in the butt", needless to say I was "taken back!" However, although reluctant I took the position

You are lucky to have had a gf who initiated the idea of pegging you. From what we mostly read, it seems that not many ladies will take the initiative themselves, nor even acquiesce to a request from a partner.

It's not only men who have an aversion, I've known ladies who also however sexually adventurous they might have been in having a threesome, let it be known in no uncertain terms that she too did emphatically not want to be 'touched back there'.

Sometimes the excuse of conflating anal play with homosexuality just doesn't work. Some have other reasons for the aversion.

@agracier You removed the portion of the quote where I specified that was solely my experience. At no point did I attempt to create a blanket statement or say that was the only reason. Being that it seemed to be a conversation I guess I wrongly assumed multiple personal experiences would be welcomed into the discussion.

I enjoy it. Fingering, pegging, you name it.

I like being dom from time to time and whenever I start, I just won't stop.

I like being Pegged/penetrated with a 8 ounce enema bulb nozzle. Worked slowly until I am about to cum,then squeeze hard.

My wife has become.e very good at delivering a good arse fucking with a good sized nozzle.😌

I am wondering if pegging should be used more by couples where the man may have ED problems. I am pegged by a woman and I've pegged her husband and my husband and although there is the kink factor in what we do, I can't help but wonder if the man who has ED might consider pegging.

But the big question would be in the case of a husband and wife, if the wife would be willing to be pegged anally or vaginally by her husband. I'm not at the point and probably won't be, where pegging may need to supplement sex with my husband instead of just another way to play. Why shouldn't men with ED peg their wife or girlfriend with all of the intimacy that they used to enjoy when he didn't have a problem?

What would be wrong with that?

I am wondering if pegging should be used more by couples where the man may have ED problems. I am pegged by a woman and I've pegged her husband and my husband and although there is the kink factor in what we do, I can't help but wonder if the man who has ED might consider pegging.

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What would be wrong with that?

@Dahiana Nothing wrong with that! Accepting the fact if I had ED I would still want intimacy and to connect sexually. It wouldn’t /shouldn’t be a problem. There are devices you can slip your penis in that attach to your scrotum that would make it more natural than a separate harness. If I could pleasure my wife that way, she wouldn’t have a problem either. It’s a way to maintain intimacy. Not any different than using a dildo or other toy, just more realistic to natural sex. Of course, there are many other ways to be intimate…just cause you have ED or other limitations, you’re not up the creek without a paddle…...I know!

https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/best-penis-sleeve#how-we-chose

My wife pegs me with a big purple dildo we call Barney! She has used her fingers and many toys on me through the years (32 Years).