I wrote a longer, detailed post, and when i went to post it, the Zity server was temporarily indisposed, so it's gone to wherever in the ether dead posts go.
The gist of it was culture does not provide all of the variations of people, and in this case sexuality, with terms to describe their reality.
I'm not stereotypically feminine, I'm not a trans person. I'm not deluded, I know I have a penis and an anus, but the best existing descriptors I can come up with to describe my sexuality is in the subject title.
Sexually, I'm more like my former wife than I was like the husband role culture conditioned me to play. Nor did I transform or evolve into that, for me it was matter of coming to a place of self acceptance, despite it being in conflict with who and what i was supposed to be in the cultures I was a part of.
For me, when a Man recognizes and treats me like my penis is a clitoris and my anus a pussy, it's not "feminization" it's affirmation of me.
I also have come to understand that my natural corresponding other exists in nature well, that there are Men/Tops who need/want a guy with a clit and pussy as much as I need/want them. Yet they run into the same challenges of cultural conditioning that thwarts or distorts finding symbiosis with someone like me.
Sorry, this isn't as detailed as the first post, but it's at least a start and hopefully more will come out in discussion.