Now incontinent

A few years ago I had back surgery done because of severe pains. Well to make a long story short something went wrong and I lost all control of my bladder.

Sorry to hear that bro. i also am inco so i know your pain it does get a little easier after a while butt you need to realize its not the diaper that makes you who you are its just your kind of underwear to have thats all . life goes on and all gets better trust me .