Knowing what’s going on vs seeing

It’s hard for me to explain but hear me out…

It’s a turn on for me if I can be at the exam to witness what’s going on, knowing that it’s happening and getting little updates as it goes. It lets my mind go wild envisioning details and knowing that somewhere my partner is naked and exposed and I’m not there to be part of it and it’s a totally different feeling than seeing it in person. If I’m there to see what’s going on I know all the details and nothing is left up to imagination but I get the thrill of seeing it. If I’m not there, then I can envision scenarios and possibilities from simple to complex about things that could be going on.

Anyone else feel the same way or am I crazy?

I understand what you mean. I have the same.

I have been with my wife to gyneacological appointments. But when you are in the waiting room and see the women who are waiting. Called away one by one…. You know what will happen, they will lose their trousers for a moment….

Interesting topic! Knowing my wife is being examined out of my view, and being present when it is going on, are entirely different things psychologically. Imagination runs wild in the absence of facts, while familiarity breeds contempt. Both scenarios are food for naughtiness after the fact.

My wife has never allowed me to accompany her to a gyno exams, despite my request. She thinks the doctor would suspect me of being there for purient reasons, which would be correct. Might be for the better, as I doubt that it would meet my expectations. Her doctor is female and the dynamic in my mind would be a lot different if it was a male.

I can relate to the differences in perspective. For me I think it's four scenarios that I find appealing for different reasons. Performing an exam of my wife myself, watching her exam in the doctor's office, watching video of her exams after the fact, and when I cannot go with her for whatever reason ... being keenly aware of her appointment time and pondering how things are unfolding in between the silence of the texts that come when she gets in the exam room to when she is finished. On a related note to that last point ... she sets her phone on the chair to record for me when I'm not there. We had one doctor whose mannerisms were quite different when I was in the room vs not. Not suggesting he did anything out of line, it was more the fact that he was quite guarded with me in the room. When she was there alone he was quite informal, not really worried about exposure, length of the exam, limiting how wide her legs were open....just a lot of interesting nuances. There are definitley some doctors out there who change their approach when no one else is in the room.

I used to audio record my physical exams and then send them to my boyfriend, who was a medfetter. He would listen to them as he masturbated. I didn’t want him in the room for the exam, but I didn’t mind him hearing what had happened.

I'm not much turned on by real gyno exams, but I think of myself more as a witness, since I went to Dr.'s appointments with relatives, and had the very interesting experience that docs were not dismissive with them when I was present. Instead, they were solicitous, knowing there was a witness. This was especially clear to me with my Dad's urologist, who was a bit of a jerk to him when I wasn't around. That stopped the minute he saw me in my (expensive) suit.

Also, apologies to the docs on this site who DO take care of their patients. I just find that docs are sometimes dismissive toward certain categories of patients: the old, children, and women and girls. I REALLY don't like that. It's kinda like a woman friend of yours going to a new car mechanic. You want to be there for protection, at least the first time.

When my first wife was in grad school she scheduled a physical the same day she was to have her teacher evaluation. Every morning she would weigh herself in our bedroom completely naked. Then she put on her.best clothes and headed out to her evaluation which I saw to give her moral support. Afterwards we went to the doctor and she was even more nervous than she was before her evaluation. She said this was a new doctor,hence her slight anxiety. After her physical she meets me back in the waiting room. On the way home she tells me that she wishes I was there to help her tie her gown in the back because the gown was open back there and was in danger of falling off when she got on the scale. This fired up my imagination . When we got home my wife changed our of her best clothes and left them on a chair . I suddenly thought that this pile would have been on the chair in the doctor's office while my wife was clad in nothing but her gown.

Definitely can relate to this post but more from my being the patient's perspective. AnthonyRT and I both enjoy a great day of medfetting-where he gets to watch and film a play doctor examining me. We both enjoy them on many levels, from Anthony getting to watch me [voyeurism], me being exposed [exhibitionism], and the overall thrill of being examined with fun, different instruments [medfet overall].

When we play, we both keep record of all the fun, and most erotic moments during the exam and Anthony will usually take notes so he can look back on them later. During sex and foreplay, he will usually have me narrate these details to him, which turns us both on tremendously. We sometimes talk about different fantasies or things we'd like the other to say or do "the next time". One such example is me being examined by the doctor, while Anthony is not present. Either he would be waiting out in the waiting room or, if the doctor was a concierge MD, then they'd come to our house and Anthony would leave on errands or whatever.

That is such an exciting prospect: to have the doctor examine me on their own, without any distraction. One of the posts above that referenced the doctor examining his wife and noting the slight differences between when he [the husband] was there, and not there, is exactly what I'd envision. Without Anthony present, the doctor may feel more at ease to do as they wish, and being that there would be no distractions, they'd be more thorough, and I just love and thrive in thorough examinations. 🤗

It would also give me the chance to really enjoy myself but to, most importantly, concentrate on all the little details that take place; that's my thoughts anyways. Afterwards, I'd be sure to relay the exam to Anthony. It's very similar to when I lay out on the beach whilst he rides his bike up and down the beach and I note all the people that ogle me as I lay in provocative positions i.e. my legs spread wide and high in a thong or if I'm topless.

I know exactly how you feel, and I have no idea which one I actually prefer. They're both great, but in different ways. This thread is very similar and along parallel lines of the recent thread "Reality vs Fantasy".

I've only witnessed a few of my wife's exams in person, and they were fantastic. I've had medfet my whole life, so I was really turned on during those exams I got to witness after I had fantasized about such a situation for years. Of course, after witnessing it, I had even more firsthand knowledge and material for my fantasies. One feeds the other for me.