Agracier said, Yes a tough call because both sexes have pluses and minuses. Most guys can cum easily maybe too easily while women have a harder time achieving an orgasm but then some are multi-orgasmic which more than makes up for the effort to have that first orgasm.
There's infinite variety on the sexual spectrum, eh? i love discussions like this because they can examine and question the status quo.
i'm a total bottom gay guy with three holes if You count my urethra, though i perceive my anus as my primary sex organ and it has been as far back as i became aware of it (about 7 years old).
i'm a "guy," i don't identify as transgender, but sexually i'm totally penetrative, never a penetrator. Yeah, i can cum having my penis stimulated, and it does feel good to me physically, but it starts getting more complicated if my psychosexual wiring is considered. The simplified version (since culture doesn't offer common examples) is my penis is more like a woman's clitoris than it is a Mans cock. Just like a woman can get pleasure from her clitoris, it is not a penetrative organ like a cock is.
my only experience with a clitoris was extensive (married to a woman 31 years). i learned early on how to use my wife's clitoris to bring her to orgasms. One thing i experienced with her was she did not like to orgasm from strictly clitoral stimulation. When she started to climax that way, she'd literally beg me to penetrate her, or she'd grab me an shove me inside of her. She wanted to climax being penetrated. After i divorced and have lived as a total bottom gay guy, i've come to realize how similar we were.
i've been with Men who 'get it'. Really, it's usually built into their wiring, i.e., they are not accommodating me, they are just being Tops and do not see me as having a "cock" like they have. They may not put it that way, but that's what they feel and want, and it alines well with who and how i am. They treat me sort of like i have a clitoris. my best chemistry is with Men who may like to touch and stimulate my penis, but not because they ever want penetration OR because they want me to cum that way. They stimulate it to feed and nurture my craving for Their Cock and penetration.
Can i cum being penetrated? YES, and it's mind blowing. The way i am wired psychosexually, i'd rather be with a Man Who only wants me to cum from/when i am being penetrated, my penis is just secondary to enhance my need/desire for His Cock, not my penis. i know, i'm probably pretty different as a guy, but the orgasm i crave is the one i get from the Man Who penetrates and puts His orgasm inside of me.
In that way, i am similar to a woman who has a harder time achieving orgasm... but maybe unlike a woman? i like that. i do not mind going without my own physical orgasm because i crave the one a Man puts in me more, and Him owning and controlling my orgasm is all connected to that. It can be a very involved relationship, but when it's mutual? Amazing.