Advice needed--how to add sensual, erotic interest to a "good for your health" enema relationship

I am a hetero, fit, fun and sociable male medfet playdoc who inevitably prescribes enema therapies for my female “patients”. However, I also enjoy the occasional administrations of a female e-nurse. As such delightful ladies are in short supply, and my romantic partner has only limited interest in this fetish, I’ve been on the lookout for someone who might be inclined to administer enemas, albeit in an ostensibly non sexual setting.

I’ve recently become acquainted with a female friend who is a bit of a health nut, very much into yoga, and has a history of digestive issues. She enjoys talking about and giving advice in that regard. She has no idea of my playdoc interests. Sensing an opportunity, I confided to her that I am having some bowel issues, and then went on to say that my doctor had said that occasional bag type enemas might provide a deep cleansing and help my condition. There are no colonic therapists in this area, so I went on to say that I was very apprehensive about trying this and certainly did not feel that it was something I could do could do on my own and I not want to alarm my romantic partner about my condition. My friend then assured me that enemas, although an embarrassing topic, were something she was very familiar with, had used herself, and would in fact highly recommend for my situation.

After some time, I said that I had had no luck, thru my medical office, finding a nurse or health aid to administer, as this was not an acute but rather a recommended preventative situation. I also said that I had purchased an enema bag set and bulb syringe but remained very reluctant to try self-administration, and that my doctor had specifically recommended an aid to give me enemas as I needed sufficient relaxation to take the larger volumes required for a through cleansing.

With some trepidation I went on to ask my friend if, since she was familiar with this procedure, would she give me the recommended cleansing. She was of course surprised that I would ask, but said yes, she was available to help. As such I prepared the needed supplies and also wrote out a detailed instruction sheet ostensibly provided by the medical supply company. This called for a preliminary administration of suppositories and a bulb enema, to clear the rectum, followed by a large bag SSE and one or two large rinse enemas, all with liberal use of Vaseline and some massage. We have now done several sessions. I must say she gives excellent enemas and seems very comfortable with the procedure. I have remained somewhat draped with a towel, so the inevitable erection the warm water and Vaseline lubed nozzle produces has been covered but is perhaps noticeable.

While not risking what is already a good relationship, I would ideally like to transform these sessions to where the sensual and erotic aspects of this procedure are positively acknowledged and hand relief is offered as comfort while receiving or as a reward for successful taking of a good enema session. My question for the forum is “what is the best way of exploring this possibility of and hopefully making this transformation?”.

Question, were you really having bowel issues or did you bring this up with your friend as a trial balloon? Docs typically recommend laxatives vs enemas, so it seems more like you wanted to bring up enemas with your friend. If she was willing to give them to you, chances are she is interested in more. Ask her if you could give her an enema when needed and see where it goes.

As you suspected, I came up with the idea of complaining of bowel issues as lead in to bringing up the subject of enemas with my friend. Now that we have progressed to her giving me "health" enemas, we chat about health related matters, but she says she is currently not having any bowel issues.

Of course I am looking for an opening to see if we could talk about her taking enemas again. Ideally, as she has the nozzle up my ass, she might make some complaint that she was a little backed up herself this morning. I would then immediatly say that we have just the solution right here: would she like to use my equipment (I have a spare, unused nozzle), or could I offer assistance, either with just a couple of suppositories and a little bulb enema, or giving her a full cleansing? But so far I have not heard any indication she might be in need or open to the idea.

She does ask how I am feeling when she inserts the nozzle and then again as the water flows. Perhaps instead of just saying it feels ok or fine, I should say I'm starting to enjoy the pressure and sensations. Do you think this could scare here off or would it seem like a natural thing to say?

@Rigel: Ask her if you could give her an enema when needed and see where it goes.

Oh yes, but few if any gals will let you see that. 😈😄

My guess is that she probably suspected it was more than just your being backed up, especially since it has been several sessions. I'll bet she has more interest in enemas than just helping you out and may very well be open to your suggestion. GO FOR IT!!!

You are really "anal compulsive"... long details and extensive written instructions... you seem to be overthinking the 'problem". As other posters have already stated, "go for it". Without being aggressive,simply go for it... ask her and just lose the damned towel... seems the lady has the "balls' in this relationship...

You, Dr, Chaudmans, have been given the opportunity of a life time.

Don't blow it!

Take it easy. Let her keep giving you enemas. Be profuse in your thanks. Let her know what a difference it's making to your life. How much better you feel. Extra energy. Sleeping well. etc. etc.

Let her come to you. Don't be the one who asks her about her enemas, or how she feels, or if she needs one.

All that will happen.

You have a choice. A year from now you could be in the most fantastic give/take enema relationship with this lady, or not seeing her at all. The difference is you just settling back and letting her take the lead.

Good luck, Tom

All I can say it is most difficult figuring out what some gals want or think; whereas men are for the most part easier; having had experience with both sexes. Thinking back about a gal I went with for many years - was she really into enemas, did she do them just to excite me, taunt me, perhaps she had a change of mind about them...

This seems a delicate dance to me. The more i consider it, the more i wonder if you are always leading? my view is women are, in general, a lot more practiced and skilled at subtly controlling than men are. We acknowledge it in some of our cultural cliche: e.g., "a man chases a woman until she finally catches him." i tend to view it as an evolutionary survival development, but that's a whole other can-o-worms to open.

On the surface, the relationship seems a to be one of a friend manipulated by subterfuge, which i think is really two way unless this person is extremely naive.

As others have suggested, if you have reached a place where you want the obvious stated and exercised, and exercised, to me you have two basic options: you "go for it" as already suggested, or you continue to use subterfuge if you are hoping she will take the risk/lead? my read is you really want the latter because you don't want to risk what you already have or because all along what you really wish for i a dynamic where she takes the lead.

i'd say that's what you determine first, i.e., what's driving this (if anything) under the surface? It seems to me that you have written a script and orchestrated the musical, but the content suggests to me that you really wish to be the played more than the player.

@Dr_Chaudmans -

Of course the best approach is determined by the circumstances and personality of the lady you are “playing” with; and only you can assess the viability/chances of success of any approach. That said, however, on more than one occasion I have found that honesty is its own reward…embellished perhaps with a modicum of duplicity.

May I suggest simply explaining to the lady that you have found the enemas to be most helpful health-wise, but you have also found them to be extremely erotic and even arousing. Explain that you are finding yourself more and more aroused and ask her straight out if she would be offended or uncomfortable if you took the opportunity to relieve yourself manually either during or after the process and see how she reacts. Tell her that you are asking this respectfully and hoping that she is neither offended or frightened by the request; assure her that it is not a “come on” and that you have no intentions of trying to get in her pants! If she is comfortable with that as time progresses you can inquire as to whether or not she would be willing to help you with the “process” and hope for the best.

You might also inquire as to whether or not she would be willing to give you a prostate massage after the enema(s)to relieve some of the “pressure”?

Much more comes to mind, but since you are there and can gauge her reactions, I’ll leave it at that. I wish you luck and pleasurable experiences to/for you both!

Good question.

I care for my cousin when she needs an enema. She needs help, it is not an option. When she asks, she is shamefully desperate, apologizing and is always very courteous about it.

I like to rub on her, to put her in the mood for allowing it to more easily let it happen. Stroking her naked hips and patting her tummy, as to say without saying, "i care for you deeply." Looking into her eyes, i caress her expectant tummy, before it gets "bigged" with her water pregnancy. She stares at me as i load my fingers with Albolene and raise my eyebrows. Slowly, even ceremoniously, i lower my finger tips, with my ring finger and index slightly expressing my middle finger. As they disappear from her sight,, She closes her eyes and gives a gentle smile. She spreads herself with both hands and I begin to smear it onto both sides of her hiney hole, and she wiggles it to greet me. Taking my time to relax her troubled and anxious urgency, she quietly whimpers for me with a kitten like whine. Dipping in, but without penetration, as if dialing zero on a dial phone, she will nod, yes, oh yes. Sending that fuck finger deep, i press my knuckles onto her and give the nozzle a twist. Her eyes and mouth pop open, confessing how she needs it, she mutters to herself. What, i don't know. I slowly twist and glide back out from her little happy. She standing before me, weak kneed. If she tilts her head a little sideways, i know she wants her ear lobe sucked. (we have talked about not getting sexual, for decency sake)

I pick up her dripping nozzle, smearing it for her approval. I latch onto her ear, and take it searching to meet its purpose. She reaches down again with both hands for me to blindly find it. She stands still for me to locate and put the spray pipe in her. Giving her but a pint of clear filtered, barely warm water, i stop the spray inside her. She looks at her enema nest and knows to take a proper receiving pose for me. I take the pipe from her and help her down inside her shower stall for her filling. She keeps touching her back side, as that little bit within keeps talking to her butt.

Finally comfortable, with one hand she lifts one cheek and begs to be helped in this special way we keep secret between us. She don't want me looking at it, though i desire to watch the pipe and fit it into place for her. I have to work blind and talk to her as i feel it into place. Releasing her enema's flow, she starts it for herself. I give her five minutes of silence as it begins to fill her further.

Then observing a little frown, I start rubbing on her again, stopping the spray down to a trickle. Watching for her to relax again, i peck her on the lips and Eskimo her nose. When she closes her eyes, i give her some more till she whines for mr to slow it again. She glances at the spinner below the bag, seeing it's barely turning, she tells me how nicely its weight is beginning to traverse over her belly button. I rub that bit of fullness weighing in her tummy. As she smiles again, i release the clicker and her eyes roll back in her head, whispering, "fuck me partner, mmnnn". Soon, i hear it suck dry and close the clicker. Looking in, i see she has been leaking and ask her if she wants more.

She does ask how I am feeling when she inserts the nozzle and then again as the water flows.

"Actually? It feels really good today." That will call the question without you having to overtly indicate you are into enemas.

Why don’t you just ask her if she would like one next? Doubt she is likely to volunteer the info and probably better to go down the mutual satisfaction route than asking if she wouldn’t mind terribly wanking you off afterwards… one way to make her feel cheap and used…

Perhaps that’s just me?

Whoa. I think you need or should take a less direct approach.

While she was giving me an enema, I’d start a casual conversation asking how she started her use of enemas.

Did her mother start administering when she was a child or teen, does she self administer or does she have someone who she sees who administers her enemas.

With that context, you will have a better idea of her willingness to let you give her enemas. You might also consider that she has some degree of medical fetish that she satisfies by giving to you.

Another idea is to tell her of your growing comfort level with her giving to you and you are more able to relax than you thought possible.

If she volunteers that she is becoming more relaxed and comfortable administering, that might give you an opening.

In any case, you haven’t put her in a position of having to say yes or no. If she would say no, you’ve probably lost your play nurse.

It would be most important to keep the status-quo if it were me.

Agree with Real think she is into getting if likes getting

@Dr_Chaudmans Lots of differing advice here! Sort of like shopping for wall paper. Pick an approach you feel comfortable with.

A lot of women are conditioned into being. "squeaky clean" and like to pamper themselves with a long, hot soak when the opportunity arises. You might suggest "enhancing" this with a warm, soapy, from-the-bag enema (well-expelled) before stepping into the tub.

As Rigal just observed: “Lots of differing advice here” But I’d like to thank everyone for their comments so far. I welcome further comments and am anxious to have a women’s perspective if any of our female forum members are inclined to advise.

Based on the comments so far, and my understanding of the personality of my friend, I’m pretty much in line with the advice of Thomas 893 and others who in a similar vein advise :“Don’t blow it” . They go on to note that I’ve got a pretty good deal going to date, say “keep it going” and don’t suddenly “go for it” with very real risk of offending her and losing all. After all, the subtle and somewhat subterfuge-like approach today has gotten me to where I am so far. It seems logical to stick with a similar tactic going forward.

As our enema sessions progress I like the idea of me discovering that enemas and this type of “nursing” can be relaxing and even pleasurable, in addition to good for health. As some of you advised, I will continue to thank her for her wonderful help and note how this treatment is becoming much different than I expected. Where I was at first apprehensive, embarrassed and worried about how unpleasant these enemas would be, I am finding the whole process very different, in a positive way, and now can focus as much on the relaxation and even pleasure as on the needed health benefits.

Of course it seems logical from my male and enema fet perspective to think that a woman who recommends, and is perfectly at ease, sliding that slick black nozzle into my bottom and putting 2 or more quarts in me while by ass, and possibly some of my erection, are on full display, would contemplate the erotic aspects of this procedure. But I am not her. She may see but repress these thoughts, not think them at all, or slowly come to realize and hopefully be receptive to my indications that there is something sensual, erotic and sexy going on here which we should both take advantage of. I have similar thoughts about the idea of getting her to try, accept and ultimately enjoy enemas from me, but I think it is best to go slow, look for openings and reactions, and let time tell if this already good relationship can move in these directions.

I look forward to the views of others, and will keep you posted as these enema sessions progress.

@DrChaudmans Glad to hear you'll go slow and let this unfold to her timetable, not yours.

Too big a jack pot to go for it all on one roll of the dice.

Do keep us posted. I'll be watching this thread for updates.

Tom

@tallslenderguy This seems a delicate dance to me. The more i consider it, the more i wonder if you are always leading? my view is women are, in general, a lot more practiced and skilled at subtly controlling than men are.

So true....