Need help. What am I? Can you be partially gay?

So this may sound confusing or like I’m a somone who is fighting off admitting they’re gay but hang with me. I love all things dealing with butt stuff. I would love to be pegged by a girl but I would also like to take it from the real thing also.

That being said I’m not attracted to guys like I am women (Trans is a little different) I dont get aroused by naked men or want to cuddle with them like women. I do want to have sex with a man at least once though.Idk if I would want to do anything other than just be bent over and take it but I would possibly entertain oral.

Trans women on the other hand , I’ve seen some that looks like super models and pull out a penis and it short circuits my brain. I do find them sexually attractive and could see myself doing just about anything they wanted. Some reason an ugly penis all of a sudden turns me on!

Anyway does anyone know what you would call what I am? Bi-curious maybe? Idk

Yes, it's frustrating to be a partial bi.... I too love and enjoy women,,,,,, have no romantic desires towards men, and do not find the male body or male attire sexy - yet, oh do I love it when a man takes charge and pokes and strokes me! All the better if I'm shaved and wearing a girdle, stockings, etc. etc.

The idea of cross dressing for the occasion has also sounded appealing to me at times. I’m only 5-7 140 and not that hairy even when I do t shave so I guess I’ve got the body to play the role lol. Thanks for your reply btw.

Once again. it's time to stop worrying about societal labels and just enjoy the short time you have on the planet....

Just do what comes naturally to you.

Sexuality is a sliding scale - it not one thing or another. You like what you like. Have sex with people that turn you on, enjoy it and dont stress about it.

Wish i had figured this out a long time ago!

I know exactly what you mean and how you feel. I absolutely love the female body and totally attracted to having sex, hugging, kissing etc. However I love having sex with another man too. Love to submit and get fucked, even BB and having them cum inside me. I don’t hold back and will kiss and make out and suck cock especially if I know it is going in my ass next.

Love anything anal and have played with both male and female. So I am very comfortable calling myself bisexual. For self enjoyment I wear a butt plug for hours on end, even frequently sleep with one in me.

Simply stated, life is short and you should enjoy yourself

I don't have an answer, but am following for my own sake. I feel very similar to you, with personally no attraction to men, other than the trans scenario as you described. Though I have found I enjoy being naked with other men in the locker room and showers.

I would say you are heteroflexible, just like me. I love women and am mainly straight, but not totally. An occasional little adventure with a man excites me greatly. However, this remains purely on a sexual level and I would never kiss another man. But when it comes to having a bit of fun, guys are simply less complicated, it doesn't take a long time to make arrangements, just have sex and that's it.

Please read my threat "Heteroflexible Men, how far would you go?"

@curtina guys are simply less complicated, it doesn't take a long time to make arrangements,

Oh so true and I've always been married or in a serious relationship a woman since my 20's.

I suspect most of us are turned on by hot bodies regardless of sex, biological sex that is. But society supresses part of the turn on. We follow the well-worn groves. or not. It's not surprising to find trans people super hot: they are a sexually atuned person's dream: especially mtf where the penis remains intact but now takes shape on a rather feminine form. what's not to love about that?

I have been married for almost 45 years. Up front, I want it known that I LOVE my wife. I Never had ANY interest in men until the last 5 years when I lost all ability to have sex with my wife (Read my Profile for details). However, I have always liked the sight of a nice butt, male or female, and have always been very anally oriented. I’ve tried to get my wife to peg me, or otherwise enjoy some intimate butt play, but she says I’m perverted. She also will no longer hug or kiss me since I can no longer please her. I have met a divorced man who is into enemas and anal play. We’ve met a few times and I love the intimacy of being able to get naked and give each other enemas. We both enjoy watching each other expel after holding it as long as we can. We then enjoy a bunch of spooning, hugging, DEEP French kissing and mutually playing in each others buttholes with our fingers and various toys. I really love having this intimate time with another guy, but having free time to enjoy these interludes is not easy. In our next meetup, I would love to receive his 6-inch cock….deeply thrusting inside my horny hiney hole!

Anyway does anyone know what you would call what I am? Bi-curious maybe? Idk

If your interests and activities do no harm to anyone...do what you enjoy. Whether it has a name or not.

A name, or label, does not define who you are. As what you are may change in the future, as it did in the past.

I've always liked boys and girls both. Fantasized about many classmates of whatever sex all throughout junior high and high school and college too. As an adult my play differs a bit with boys versus girls, but being bisexual has always just been who I am. I knew my preferences before I knew the word 'bisexual'. Maybe where you live, cultural intolerance and so forth, influences your decision about how public you are, but you need to be what you want, live your life.

I've seen the "what am I questions" asked in a various threads here and off the top of my head; women seem less confused, concerned, or worried. Good examples are the gals' replies below. Perhaps men (especially older ones) who grew up in homophobia times feared becoming trapped or permanently labelled.

Do you need a name? Be open, explore your interests safely and decide what that means later on.

Why worry what you are, just enjoy being who you are and what you like.

In general if your attraction is to women regardless of if they are cis or trans you can probably just call yourself hetro.

If you are also intrested in nonbinary people you might consider using bi.

Generally speaking you are a gay man if you are a cis or trans man who is primarily or exclusively attracted to cis or trans men and decide to call yourself gay.

But that said there are not really any hard and fast rules, its really more like a set of guidelines.

Congratulations you are human. Exploring sexuality is normal as the sun comes up in the morning. Just be sure to know your partner and at least wear a condom or to be sure they do unless you really trust them. The hot beef injection feels really good up the arse. Not worth dying for so be careful.

I won't try to place you. Labels are for boxes, not people.

Ha, great discussion!

Ditto those who advocate not wrestling with social/cultural norms, i.e., discover and be your honest, true self.

That said, i think what happens is our terms and labels sometimes get reversed in their function. I.e., they become a standard or definition we try to fit instead of a term we use to try and convey who and how we are.

In the context of just trying to convey who and how you (the OP) are, i think you did a great, detailed job. To muddy it up a bit, if we're gonna use terms here, it reads to me that you are more sub, receptive than 'gay' (or even Bi?). For instance, i often self describe as "total bottom with some sub." i recognize that i have submissive stuff in me, but i'm very total bottom when it comes to sex with Guys.

i have experienced where a guy will find and figure out how to manipulate the sub in me to do things i don't really want/need. As i see it, we are made up of lots of pieces... like a big puzzle. All the pieces do not fit together, but sometimes we try to force pieces that don't fit in an attempt to put the puzzle together. If we do that though, we discover the picture isn't right.

Got me thinking, and started a thread about my belief that a person can have two sets of preferences - one for romantic interests, another for sexual. https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1344647

The primary definition of bi-sexual is an adjective, describing an act or preference. You don’t have to apply it as noun describing yourself if you don’t want to, but you can’t stop others who know from labeling you. So what if they do..

I’ve never been bothered about labels! Call me whatever you like it doesn’t bother me at all! From the sexual point of view when I was younger I loved girls and only girls. Then I had an experience with an older boy and things changed I still loved girls and I learned to appreciate what a boy could do for me. So even today I would always find a woman more attractive than a man I still find myself having sex with men I find unattractive because I know it’s a totally different experience and a experience that I love. The thing for me is sex doesn’t have to be about attraction it’s about pleasure and sometimes an ugly unattractive man can give me much more pleasure than a beautiful lady! You’ve just got to figure out what you like and how to justify the things you’re doing for pleasure in your own mind. The first few times you may struggle to perform if there’s no attraction but once you realise how pleasurable it is you soon get past that! Hope this helps!

Congratulations you are human. Exploring sexuality is normal as the sun comes up in the morning...I won't try to place you. Labels are for boxes, not people.

I think @Curious85 you've encountered the concept that human sexuality is not able to be "pegged" (every pun intended) into neat holes and labels, and that you should feel empowered to want to understand what you enjoy and not be burdened with how society at large thinks of the dichotomy we create for ourselves of sexuality vs. romantic partners. We like to label ourselves because it makes it easier to describe ourselves to others. The reality is sexuality is much more like the giant color box where you can customize the color, hue, shade, transparency, etc. and isn't necessarily correlated to anything else.

For myself, I am excited by any of the following combinations: breast & pussy, breasts & ass, ass & pussy, cock & breasts, cock & ass, and any other sexual combination possible. I am excited by that person. My mind doesn't think about labels, it thinks about sex! Have fun with who you have. I do.

Straight, bi, gay? Don't worry about labels. Life is too short to mess with that. Like what you like. Play with who you want to play with.

Don't worry about labels.

But many do worry about the specifics of a label and the definition attached to it.

I think that all sex is personal. I look at men and women on this site, and if I am attracted to the person, only then do I think of what I want to do, and what I want to receive, from that person. The actual sexual practice is determined by their physical appearance. Every act shared with each other, at that time, is what my partner and I love to do, for the other. Sex is fantastic, and labels never enter the picture. It's easier this way.

Just be pansexual, then it really doesn't matter if you have sex with someone you are attracted to.

If you get chances to experiment safely with any sex, do yourself a favor and allow it happen. There’s no need to label yourself.