Spouse reveals your enema interest to others

Inspired by the post https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1305056 where a spouse spills the proverbial beans about her mate's enema interest; it got me thinking about spouses who spill the proverbial beans about their mate's fetish interests. So has your spouse revealed (exposed) your enema or other fetish interests to others?

I'm shocked to read this. That a spouse would do this is just unthinkable.

Such interests and desires and needs are among the most intimate, private things in a person's life. The trust and privacy involved between two people are so important to me. The several people who I've played with, examined, been examined by, know things about me that I would never want others to know.

I've never had an enema and maybe I'm overreacting. But to me this isn't info for sharing around one's social circle or elsewhere.

Yes, I can relate to this thread. A female partner and I split up and she telephoned ALL of my close friends to tell them of my enema habits. I was embarrassed and angry at the time but perhaps she did me a favour. Imagine spending the rest of your life with a 'bitch' like that. I still look at and talk with my friends but I wonder does the thought go through their minds, "has he had his enemas today?" regards, irrigator333.

I'm shocked to read this. That a spouse would do this is just unthinkable.

Such interests and desires and needs are among the most intimate, private things in a person's life. .... But to me this isn't info for sharing around one's social circle or elsewhere.

Some people cannot resist gossiping and sharing secrets. Unfortunately, this is often basic human nature, to spill the juicy beans on other people's intimate habits and quirks. Or to get back at others for personal reasons.

I'd never out my sub without first getting his approval. It just breaks the trust the two of us have with each other. What we do in our private time is no one elses business.

I may not agree with what was done here https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1305056 but it is an individual choice of who to tell and how. We don't know but her telling on him may have ended the night in a big hot and heavy sex session. It may turn them on to do.

Some people cannot resist gossiping and sharing secrets. Unfortunately, this is often basic human nature…

Exactly! I have a close relative, who is an otherwise intelligent and decent person, but she could not keep a secret to save her life. Don’t ask me how I know.

Interesting the replies! My spouse who revealed my interest in girdles at the foundation wear counter to the older sales gals did it not to be mean spirited (she never was); but more jokingly because she found if comical that her big bear of a guy likes seeing a gal wearing a girdle.

Some people cannot resist gossiping and sharing secrets. Unfortunately, this is often basic human nature, to spill the juicy beans on other people's intimate habits and quirks. Or to get back at others for personal reasons.

Here's a good example!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RNdXibBpepM

We had that discussion before marriage, and again after formalizing our engagement.

He has never done it.

No concern from spouse, other family members some concern.

A true revelation. Once hospitalized after hip surgery I was visited by the wife and a daughter. The nurse asked if I had a bowel movement and volunteered that she could give me an enema. Wife told her, Oh, he'd love that. I replied to the nurse, Oh, just you and me babe.

It was improper of the nurse to do that but I took it as a jest from a frisky nurse. I did not take it further but rued my decision later. Should have told her I wanted one from a ladies douche bulb which I did ... but ......

Yes, I can relate to this thread. A female partner and I split up and she telephoned ALL of my close friends to tell them of my enema habits. I was embarrassed and angry at the time but perhaps she did me a favour. Imagine spending the rest of your life with a 'bitch' like that. I still look at and talk with my friends but I wonder does the thought go through their minds, "has he had his enemas today?" regards, irrigator333.

My ex did this to me. Her thinking that all my relationships would be ruined. Little did she know no one really cares about other people’s kinks. I mean, if you find out someone I knew had a fetish, I’d be like “OK….so what’s for dinner?” Lol! People have a zillion things running through their head about their own lives. It’s super unlikely to think they actually dwell on something as trivial as what gets people’s rocks off.

No, my husband to the best of my knowledge has kept both our mutual kinks strictly private with others except with one another. If he did share that information, he would be over my knee for a good and proper spanking....wait ...I would bring the dreaded hairbrush or paddle out and really light up his behind ..... maybe several times over the course of a couple of weeks.

My ex did this to me. Her thinking that all my relationships would be ruined. Little did she know no one really cares about other people’s kinks. I mean, if you find out someone I knew had a fetish...

@tsae55 there are those that do care and some use it to try to ruin another's life and reputation. They feel they know best on how everyone should be living their life. That is not how it goes. One way does not fit for everyone.

@tsae55 there are those that do care and some use it to try to ruin another's life and reputation. They feel they know best on how everyone should be living their life. That is not how it goes. One way does not fit for everyone.

Agreed. Everyone is different and no one way is best for everyone. I used to care what people thought, but it was exhausting! I’m much happier just rolling my eyes and not giving a S. Life is much more enjoyable when you cut out the need of everyone’s approval of you.

To my knowledge my wife has never revealed my anal kinks to anyone. Certainly not to any of our family or mutual friends. I'm sure she won't! But if she did I would feel utterly betrayed.

I'm pretty sure no one who knows has said anything about my habits, but I could see a scenario where things of a sensitive nature might be revealed accidentally when influenced by alcohol. I am reminded of an incident that happened several years ago. My husband and I were at a sports bar after work, and in the booth behind me were some 20-30ish girls who obviously knew each other and had already had several drinks. They began discussing their boyfriends, or lack thereof. One asked the other what happened to her latest, since she has not seen him around lately. The other replied that she had to dump him because he got all weird on her, he wanted to give her an enema. The others all went, Gross, disgusting, etc. After nearly choking on my drink, I could envision the opposite scenario where the girl replied, I wanted him to give me an enema, but he refused.

The other replied that she had to dump him because he got all weird on her, he wanted to give her an enema. The others all went, Gross, disgusting, etc. After nearly choking on my drink, I could envision the opposite scenario where the girl replied, I wanted him to give me an enema, but he refused.

I'm going to bet that most of the others, not all, were simply adhering to what was expected of them, namely that enemas are supposed to be considered gross by normal people.

What goes on in the bedroom (bathroom in this case) stays in the bedroom (bathroom).

I’ve been rebuffed a few times when I was feeling out a lady friend’s inclination concerning erotic enema play. I phrased myself so it could be perceived as a joke.

Then, in other cases, my lady’s response was, Enemas? What’s wrong with that?

So you never know. I enjoy dating nurses but I’m even more careful because in a small community like mine, all the medical people seem to know each other.

In these cases, if our conversation is moving in an area about medicine or professions, I laughingly ask if my lady is kinky nurse. If I get an adamant, “No!” I drop the conversation.

If and get any indication there is any kind of a positive response, I figure I’ll have an opportunity to pursue the subject further.