Playdocs: medfet or dominance?

After a year on Zity, it seems to me like the vast majority of us are more interested in recreating the vulnerability and latent excitement of an intimate exam at the hands of an authority figure, than the other way around. Is that a fair characterization? If so, it makes me wonder about those of you who are more interested in being on the doctor end of play exams. Would you say that your overarching desire is to assert dominance, and that medical scenarios are one among many settings where you can play that out, or is the medical backdrop an essential element of what excites you?

@HeartbeatLilly - I’m with you. My willingness to be doctor would mostly be based on the Golden Rule: I’d want my partner to do unto me what I would be providing to her. The rest of my willingness would be for the pleasure of giving pleasure. That would be so lovely.

@HeartbeatLilly

For me as a play doctor it is a bit of both, with female arousal and orgasm also an important part of the mix. The medical backdrop is an essential element for me, the instruments, the clinical aspect of the examination etc all add to my excitement. But I also enjoy the submission the women chose to willingly give me, and my role as the authoritative doctor, albeit in a gentle way. But no my overarching desire is not to assert dominance, but more to create a role-play situation that is exciting and pleasurable for both doctor and patient...

I went into medicine in RL for a variety of reasons. I had always loved the biological sciences so there's that. I also liked the idea of helping people plus the respect that physicians generally receive. But, a huge piece of it I have to admit is the control, even dominance that doctors get in practice. Now that I'm retired I get to indulge the sexual side of it that's always been there for me but which I had to keep completely submerged while I was practicing. I find bottoms, both male and female, totally arousing and sensuous to me, along with all the things I can do to them: enemas, spanking, rectal temperatures, suppositories and injections. So for me, arousal and excitement in the dominant, controlling role has gotta be the motivator for me.

Well, Pollux, that's worth travelling to Oregon to discuss!

1970's boy.

That is a good question! Speaking as an ‘authoritative’ playdoc, that element of dominance (perhaps ‘control’ is a better word for it) is an essential part of it for me. I like to take that control, knowing that it might make my ‘patient’ shy or embarrassed, vulnerable and exposed. The authenticity of the medical aspects is important too, but I would tend to focus on those procedures and treatments which elicit a submissive response in my patient. Obviously, this needs to work for both parties, so the degree of ‘strictness’ in undertaking such an examination needs to be tailored to the submissive desires of the patient. With some, it may be subtle, but in others considerably more overt.

For me it's knowing that the patient will be exposing her most private parts to me to be examined.

It's not a specific ratio, but there is a definite draw to getting into scrubs and white coat for the patient. The accepted norm of revealing all to the Doctor gives an enjoyable way to find ourselves in a setting where I can learn exactly what brought the patient in for an play examination. I'd find nothing more exciting than having a play space that's equipped for a thorough examination. Sometimes I find myself window shopping for just the right examination table/chair. There's a gown waiting for you.

From my perspective it certainly is not about being dominant when playing a doctor role, I feel the patient has all the control, and I will only play if the patient fully understands this.

To fully submit or trust enough to do this takes time,

That may be because it is an emotional experience for me rather than a sexual one.

Peace.

Caz.

I think as Caz suggests the patient is in control, however in their mind the are seeing the doctor as an authority figure. This being the case they submit to the play doctor's directions.

The submission and following the doctor's directions excite me.

To me as a playdoc, it is much more about medfet than dominance.

Control is a factor of course, but I see the medical more as a collaboration between doc and patient.

I agree with others that the patient has a lot more control in the scenario than is immediately obvious

The patient is in control because they give consent and they can withdraw consent at any point if they so wish and the examination will end immediately. However, because they want the examination to take place they don't normally withdraw consent, and they submit to the play doctor's instructions and allow him to examine them within the agreed boundaries.

In all my years as a real-life play doctor I've never had a female patient withdraw consent, and the examination has always continued to its conclusion.

It's all about personalities and building trust with lots of online and phone contact before the real-life meeting...

An interesting thread…

I’m always a patient and a submissive one…. I obey the doctor or nurse, but as you all say, within agreed boundaries. Things may push a little, but never cross any red lines.

I enjoy the humiliation and being exposed, but I guess we all have limits?

I’m uksmoothy on Skype if any one wants to chat outside of here, which I’m not on too often these days

As a patient, I more enjoy having a doctor who is dominant. Not in a domineering or cold way, per se, but dominant, directive, also showing some care.

No matter what, going to any doctor, no matter how exciting it may be, can be a little scary. What will they find? It's a legitimate concern but, even moreso why it's important to have a doctor as described above.

It's knowing that they care, and then knowing they can take action and direct me as needed. This goes for any kind of exam.

I think this role-playing game should include a bit of dominance on the part of the doctor. So that the patient would be at the mercy of the doctor, but understood that these procedures would bring only pleasure

I totally agree and love being dominated, push the boundaries to the limit, maybe a tad over, but not breaking any red lines.

As a play doc I like to be dominant and in charge

I appreciate this post. Most of us are here for medfet specific interests. But the dynamic is still one to consider. I’m a very dominating person with a demanding career. Medfet is the one area of my life where I feel safe enough to be submissive. It’s tantalizing to know I am not responsible for how my body responds. All I have to do is relax and follow instructions.

love being dominated, push the boundaries to the limit, maybe a tad over, but not breaking any red lines.

Yes that is one of the reasons I think I like being submissive.

As play Dr I recently pushed the boundaries of my patient and I felt incredibly nervous for doing so at the time. But at the same time got extremely aroussed myself by the experience, never thought I could ever do so. Zity surely has opened up a whole new world.

Obviously, the patient is ultimately in control of the situation as he or she has to consent to meeting and submit to the various parts of the examination.

But at the same time, we patients like to create an illusion in our heads that the doctor is in charge and that we must submit to degrading and invasive procedures.

At least that's the way I see things. Perhaps some doctors can provide another POV.

Not a playdoc, per se...Kind of, I guess....But I have had an interest in anything medical, most of my life...All of my adult life. Only very recently did I come to the realization, at least in part, much of the draw came from that Dom/sub dynamic between Examiner and Examinee.....Dr./patient if you will....Go figure.

Play doctors should have an aire of Dominant to their personal.

While I love adult role play relative to doctor/patient or nurse/patient scenarios, dominance or submissiveness hasn't been the overreaching factor. I can assume whatever role is the most desirable under the circumstances and agreeable to a play partner.

My enema fetish grew out of childhood experiences that included our medical providers as well as a controlling or domineering mom. As kids, our playtime included re-creating some of these scenarios, although mostly through simulation.

As adults, re-creating some of these scenarios can be quite fulfilling and trigger some tremendous outcums. Individuals like Bnoir, as a "professional" can sure aid in this process inasmuch as finding agreeable partners can be such a challenge, although not impossible.

Giving can be as enjoyable as receiving, with individual flexibility.

Being the doctor grants power, if the patient agrees. and continues to submit to their increasingly intimate and invasive examination. That is a magical feeling: exerting control over someone who longs to be controlled, but also safe [safeword], and therefore willing to allow boundaries to be tested, stretched, and violated. Going beyond what one thought was a limit only to discover there is pleasure to the excess that seemed impossible can be heady for everyone. It takes some nerve or audacity on everyone's part.

As a play patient, I want to relive the overwhelming, nervous, exciting sensations I had during my pediatric exams as a pre-teen and teen.

As a play doctor, I don’t really want to dominate anyone, I just want to experience the scenario from the other point of view, to do to someone else what was done to me.

For me its the recreation of my school medical at age 18 when a school doctor got me naked on the exam table on the pretext of examining a hernia scar. So in a sense for me it doesnt matter whether I am doc or patient . Which ever role I take I get equally stimulated at the though of what happened at school and want to recreate the scenario

Dominance is not the primary attraction when I am doing an examination.

This is a side road, but i think germane to the discussion and some may find it interesting.

i'm a critical care nurse and part of my job is to assess/examine my patients 2x a shift. It's a very detailed and intimate exam that i have written about in other threads. For me, it's all part of my profession, i'm a total bottom with some sub thrown in, so i don't have to flip a switch or draw lines when it comes to dominance or med fet, since i'd be a receiver in those scenarios. But it does not keep me from experiencing and observing behavior in response to my professional position.

i had a patient recently who had advanced dementia. That's not an all or nothing disease process, and though lots of dementia patients have things in common, it's a very individual disease in my experience. i had this patient two days, he had a 1:1 nurses aide in the room at all times because he would flip at any point into a confused state that would put him at risk for injury (i.e., trying to get out of bed on legs that would not support him).The first day he was a lamb, completely cooperative and compliant with a very sweet attitude. The second day, he had 'flipped' at night and was refusing all of his meds, was incontinent and fighting getting cleaned up, refusing meals, eating. He was confused, angry and scared.

i went in and sat down with him. my intent with a patient is about as opposite to dominance as one can get, i guess my sub nature comes through a bit? my primary goal is to advance them on the health spectrum, i.e., to help get them to a healthier place with a holistic approach ("health" is a very complex and in many ways an individually defined state). i have found with dementia patients, there's often a part of the person still there, someone to connect to in a real way. i want to connect with all of my patients as part of giving care, it's how i can care for them as individuals vs just generic care. It can be a very delicate dance, but it's not manipulative. i eschew manipulation, but i also find most people are unconsciously on guard against being manipulated. my honest approach was transparent, that i did not want to make him do anything. What impressed me was how once he saw my honest care, the walls and resistance came down and he returned to a state of cooperation and compliance.

It doesn't always work that way. We get lots of patients with altered mental status (AMS) from a variety of causes, but i have found in my practice that compliance and cooperation seem to be a response connection to honesty, openness.

I feel super shy about the doctor saying I have to remove my bra and panties for the exam.

I feel super shy about the doctor saying I have to remove my bra and panties for the exam.

It's the doctor's dominance paired with our innocence to become vulnerable to his view and touch. Much like a cop's dominance who has demanded you be subjected to a strip search. or any respected other authority figure you trust who wants your clothes off.