When a nurse or assistant is also in the exam room (do you care) ?

Hi there I guess that for many people its more embarrassing if a second medical person is in the (real) exam room also. I mean I can chose if I want to go to male or female doctor. In my case i prefer a female urologist and had good experiences (in medical view) so far. But. I hate it when a third person is in room, nurse, chaperone, assistant, student. Why? And do you care the gender of the third person? I mean is it more anxiety if the helper is female (you male) or is it worse for you if the helper is also male, if you are male? Its not a gyn question. In my country and the whole middle/western european area all the medical helper personal is 95% female. So even if my doctor is also male, the assistant is quiete always a female. Is it me, or do you also think an exam should only be doctor + patient, not that (sorry…. for me…..) annoying (sorry) nurses ?! Hope you know what my point is.

Love it, but it rarely happens these days outside of the dermatologists exam room

Scribes and Medical Assistants as needed. Students and chaperones never.

Not as long as they are all female. There is always a nurse in the exam room when we go for an exam.

No problem with a nurse, scribe, student - male or female - accompanying the doctor. Just so long as they ask and get permission/consent before they touch me!!

I have lived in a few different states here in USA and even in a urologists office I rarely come across a male nurse, scribe, or medical assistant in an outpatient office. Occasionally in a hospital where the pay is higher, but I prefer not to have anyone chaperoning or scribing, but some female doctors insist on a chaperone or scribe present and it’s usually a woman much younger than me which feels awkward but I get though it. However I recently had uroflowmetry testing again and the nurse that was preparing me was around 30 and very attractive and as soon as she took hold of my penis I became erect. She said it’s ok it happens to some guys and looked at me. I turned very red but we both had to wear masks so I wasn’t sure of her expression. She completed the prep and said they would be back in shortly.

My female PCP insisted I have a chaperone for my hernia and rectal exam. She was an attractive 30 something female . She stared at my penis during the hernia check. After the exam at the desk she wouldn't even look at me.l have never been so embarrassed.

I was in for a skin exam last Summer. My derm and assistant are both female and she had another female observing who was not introduced. Later I was in the hospital where a female stripped me and checked my whole body before she would let me get in the bed. About like a valet checking your car for damage before they take it. She had me standing there naked for 5 to 10 minutes while a whole army of females got the room and bed ready.

Neither of those situations bothered me. I feel we are all adults and know what the human body looks like.

My female PCP insisted I have a chaperone for my hernia and rectal exam. She was an attractive 30 something female . She stared at my penis during the hernia check. After the exam at the desk she wouldn't even look at me.l have never been so embarrassed.

@Russianbare You should be proud. LMAO 😁

When I was 16 and 17 my doctor would examine me privately ,my younger brother was being examined in another exam room with my mother present. So as a result I had a male nurse as a chaperone,this occurred in the mid 80's when male nurses were very rare. I really liked this as my doctor would have my completely naked for my exam and I appreciated that there was someone in the room. The nurse would take my weight, height and BP outside in the corridor fully dressed. Then he escorted me to the exam room and would say something like ‘Please undress completely I will be in with the doctor in a few minutes'. The doctor would do the exam with the nurse paying a bit of attention and then when the exam was over he chatted with me about questions and concerns that I had and then he and his nurse left and I got dressed. When I was 15 I saw the same doctor with my younger brother who was 7 at the time. When the doctor came in he had no nurse and instructed us to remove all our clothing.. My mother teased us on the way home saying ‘I haven’t seen you boys naked together until today' and ‘Good thing no one came in and saw you guys in the altogether’ I would vastly prefer a male nurse watching then have my mom not so gently tease us.

As an adult I had a med student in the room one time. He observed what the doctor was doing, and also mirrored certain things, such as listening to my chest and back with the stethoscope, and doing the testicle exam. Growing up, it was more common. In addition, depending on how busy things were, there were nursing students who did height, weight, rectal temperature, and would assist when I needed an injection. As a teenager, having a girl around my age, or even a couple of years older, embarrassed me. It was almost like having a girl in your class in school taking your temperature.

I would think that a male doctor, ob/gyn or otherwise, would always have a nurse or chaperone in the room with him when examining a female patient… although I have come to learn that this is often NOT the case outside of the USA. In Britain for example I have heard that a pelvic exam, by a male doctor, if quite often done with just the patient and doctor in the room.

Agree with others in US I have only experienced this in my dermatologist visits and for me having 2 clothed females in the room with me nude is exciting as hell, plays right into my CFNM fetish. Other than my vasectomy which was just my Dr and his nurse I have never experienced the assistant in an exam. Would not be against it though if it is a female one.

Not at all, the more the merrier. 😁

Have found a nurse chaperone called back into the room very exciting and enticing on numerous ocassions with physical exams. Fretter.

A nurse or assistant in the room can be both more intimidating, but also more comforting. I think it depends on the attitude and role of the nurse. If the nurse is caring and there for support, obviously it’s more comforting. Of the nurse is more matter-of-fact and is there to get things done, then it’s quite intimidating.

At the derm (female) she had a female assistant. Later another female joined them. Being in the US where foreskins are at a premium maybe she was just someone working there who wanted to see one. ‘hey we got a foreskin in room 3 if anyone wants to see it’.

I had to spend a night in the hospital where a female stripped me completely to check me over before letting me get in the bed. I stood there naked for 5 to 10 minutes while a whole army of females readied the room and bed.

Neither of those situations bothered me any, I figured we're all adults and we know what the human body looks like.

With my gp, that’s never happened, but if it’s a dermatologist or dentist, they always seem to work alongside the doctor. Even in the ER, my privacy was always respected, unless it was a situation that required multiple assistants, at which point, I was too sick to care about some unfamiliar female seeing my private parts. It’s not like you’re dropping your pants in a public place.

I've always had female nurses. Even on urological and proctological examinations. It was awkward. On the other hand, it does not go to any comparison with childhood experience. At the age of 10 I had examinations of the anus and rectum in the presence of students. My embarrassment and shame were perceived as childish whims. It was believed that children of this age still could not and should not be ashamed of exposure, especially in front of doctors.That's why they acted accordingly. I was never even offered fabrics to cover parts of the body that were not needed for examination. It is clear that the interrogation was carried out in very piquant and humiliating positions. And the students, mostly girls, calmly examined the actions of the doctor. From the patient's point of view, the examination should be one-on-one. From a doctor's point of view, there should always be someone to help. And, of course, one must learn from real patients, and it is probably fair that children were used for this. All the same, the attitude towards the child is more condescending than towards the adult guy.

Im more embarrassed if its an intern for some odd reason. maybe its because with a Doctor or a nurse, there seems to be a professionalism about the whole thing. As soon as they say, ‘this is so and so, they are an intern’, all of a sudden, it feels embarrassing. And then, when there is a group standing around, it feels like you are on display, or at the zoo.

I would think that a male doctor, ob/gyn or otherwise, would always have a nurse or chaperone in the room with him when examining a female patient… although I have come to learn that this is often NOT the case outside of the USA. In Britain for example I have heard that a pelvic exam, by a male doctor, if quite often done with just the patient and doctor in the room.

@Art201,

I am in the USA, born and raised, in my late 40’s. I’ve had three OB/GYNS and a couple GP’s. It’s always been my choice to have someone else in the room for breast and pelvic exams. I have always declined. No big deal. Perhaps you should not be making such broad assumptions about OB/GYN subjects. Female members here don’t appreciate ”mansplaining” on these subjects.

I don't like it. It makes me feel like I am some sort of rare freaky thing of interest being given a go-over.

I've had nurses and student doctors in the room at the same time as another doctor. I don't mind it at all, even when they ge hands on and examine me too. I figure they have to learn so it's for the benefit of everyone

Exciting? no . I have been hospitalized several times over my many years . From motorcycle accidents to crushed vertebrae , industrial explosion with chemical burns and the latest , strokes and being catheterized . I have found that most are there to do a job , some want to look . A few will be rough or off putting to hide any interest of wanting to look . To put it more plainly “look I'm hurting you so you won't think I'm a pervert” nurses .

If you get lucky , You get one or two that enjoy what they are doing and enjoy that they are actually making you feel better . Over the many years , There have been two that I wanted to hug and give them a kiss to say thank you . Try laying in a bed with chemical burns over most of you're body with two or three nurses trying to clean you from neck to where you're boots saved you're feet twice a day for two weeks . I had one of the many nurses that with two helpers took her time and instructed the others to pay extra attention to different “parts” to alleviate pain . If I wasn't already married ,,,,Ah you know ,,,,,,,,,

@Fawkes My apologies.

@Fawkes My apologies.

@Art201,

Apologies accepted.

But why? I mean why is it (for most of us) more embarrassing to get naked when a third person is in room. Why is it for a male more complicated to get prepared for an exam by a female than be prepared by a male nurse? Why do women tell here they prefer a female nurse than a male nurse helper? Why is it okay for us to strip infront an older helper, than right before the eyes of an 25 year old blonde? I mean I can tell from around 20 exams in penis and rectal medical scenes (all real no play) and its such a big difference if I am alone with doctor / fem doctor and its so hard for me when a helper is there. For 15 years I sent them out, now I get rectal exams by female with another female, but was a long way. Why is it for most of us so awkward to undress when third person is there? Really interesting. And we the males always have female nurse. Often both female. I really love the imagination when a shy woman has to strip or get examined by male doctor with 2 young male helpers. What then? For us males so normal to strip infront of women. Are women more shy that males? sorry for long text, but I read its crazy difference between the states and my little switzland and austria and germany, lol

Would be interesting for me, what you say about the uestion why its more embarrassing when a third person is also in the room? especially if the person is not your sex but opposit? thx for conversation.