A virgin only does it anal

A long time ago, and I can't remember where, I read a story about a young woman who grew up in a very strict family and who absolutely had to remain a virgin until she got married. Since she had a boyfriend that her family didn't like, she didn't dare give up her virginity and she agreed with her boyfriend to only have anal sex. But they did it regularly and with great enthusiasm. Unfortunately, I can no longer remember whether she was finally able to marry her boyfriend. Have you ever read or experienced anything like this?

I have heard/read of situations such as this.

I have heard something similar and I'm sure it happens all the time just as a method of contraception. I was never that lucky!

My brother was a police officer in London and he told me of an area where there were prostitutes of Middle Eastern origin. These girls wanted to make some money then go back home and get married. The problem was in their culture brides were expected to be virgins. Their solution was they would only allow anal sex with their customers (or I guess blow jobs).

I read a story about a young woman who grew up in a very strict family and who absolutely had to remain a virgin until she got married. Since she had a boyfriend that her family didn't like, she didn't dare give up her virginity and she agreed with her boyfriend to only have anal sex. But they did it regularly and with great enthusiasm. ….Have you ever read or experienced anything like this?

Having anal sex to retain female virginity is a feature of traditional Middle-East sexual customs in many areas. This has been described in many scholarly works of social and sexual mores.

One of the best known would be ‘The Jewel in the Lotus’ by Allen Edwardes. Written in the 1960's it does focus on more traditional cultural practices which in the meantime may have evolved somewhat. Nevertheless, anal sex to preserve a semblance of virginity is nothing truly exceptional.

I knew a girl like that many years ago. I suppose I was like that only I didn't do anal. Blowjobs, hand jobs, and intercrural sex for me until I was 16.

Curtina - I am not sure how often is was actually done, but this is a commonly known (talked about, fantasized, and perhaps romanticized about) practice in the United States. In fact the group “Garfunkel and Oates” created a funny parody song about this practice, called “The Loophole” – it's hilarious!! See: https://youtu.be/j8ZF_R_j0OY

My sister had a friend in high school that only had anal sex with her boyfriend so she wouldn't have to worry about getting pregnant

I knew of a married woman who would say her pussy belonged to her husband and her ass belonged to anybody else who wanted it!

I knew of a married woman who would say her pussy belonged to her husband and her ass belonged to anybody else who wanted it!

@codjer : Please send me her address

I never heard it directly, but it's known about muslim girls, at France and at middle-east, and at conservative family of all religions.

It's showed explicitaly at the the Show-TV “the BIG C”, at conservative christian girls..

Does a person who participates in sexual activities, especially involving being penetrated, still a virgin?

I never heard it directly, but it's known about muslim girls, at France and at middle-east, and at conservative family of all religions.

It's showed explicitaly at the the Show-TV “the BIG C”, at conservative christian girls..

Given how such groups go practically ballistic and bat-crap crazy over any mention of homosexuality, which in their eyes always implies the ‘vile sin’ of sodomy, you really have to wonder at the mental gymnastics that allow them to get away with such blatant hypocrisy when it comes to pre-marital female anal sex.

These are groups that are big on chaperoning and keeping close tabs on girls even holding hands, kissing and such and often enough hold such events as Purity Balls.

Given how such groups go practically ballistic and bat-crap crazy over any mention of homosexuality, which in their eyes always implies the ‘vile sin’ of sodomy, you really have to wonder at the mental gymnastics that allow them to get away with such blatant hypocrisy when it comes to pre-marital female anal sex.

These are groups that are big on chaperoning and keeping close on girls even holding hands, kissing and such and often enough hold such events as Purity Balls.

I was told by number of muslims that koran directs men to have both vaginal and anal sex with their wives.

Does a person who participates in sexual activities, especially involving being penetrated, still a virgin?

It depends on the definition of virgin.

Technically, as long as a female has an intact hymen, that is enough to satisfy the strict definition of the word. That is why there are such comical, but quite true terms like talking about ‘loopholes’ in that requirement. Stick a penis into an anus and the hymen remains intact, ergo, everything is all hunky-dory in La-La Land.

Honor is saved.

Of course other people/cultures have different definitions, but when engaging in sexual activities like oral sex or mutual masturbation, these things leave no tell-tale signs of having occurred. So the dogmatists look the other way, feign ignorance and luckily no daughters need to be taken out and stoned …

@gauguin according to Islam dot net anal sex with men or women is haram - prohibited. The ’sin of sodom’ is prohibited in all 3 of the Old Testament based religions - Islam, Judaism and Christianity. Anyone claiming otherwise is engaging in a rationality not supported by any of the subject matter experts from the major sects of those religions

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i take it in da butt fairly regularly so I’m a sinful woman but I’m quite ok with that.

@Nurse_Phillips I am neither muslim nor theological expert but from what I recall, there is a directive to ‘plow’ wife from front and back. Or something along those lines. Koran is know for many completely contradicting statements.

As for being sinful, I am even worse than you in that respect, lol - not that it bothers me at all!

@Nurse_Phillips I've read that too, that anal sex is haram. I however also read about the difficulties that Muslim women, in some countries, have if they complain that their husband forces them to have anal sex. I recall an anecdote (I don't remember where I read it) of an Iranian woman explaining to her cleric what her husband made her do, and he answered “hey, woman, do you know any better way?”. Obviously he was of the opinion that the husband was free to plow in either opening.

@Nurse_Phillips I am neither muslim nor theological expert but from what I recall, there is a directive to ‘plow’ wife from front and back. Or something along those lines. Koran is know for many completely contradicting statements.

As for being sinful, I am even worse than you in that respect, lol - not that it bothers me at all!

Based on the article I read it quoted that passage but went on to explain that the phrase used for ’plow’ referred only to the vagina and not during menstruation. So whatever position is fine as long as you’re avoiding the bonus hole.

@Nurse_Phillips Right, I've read that the vagina is haram during menstruation (but caressing, fingering the outside etc. is hallal).

Something I've often laughed about is how some males consider it appropriate to go anal when the woman is menstruating. I mean, sure, menstrual blood may be dirty and smelly, but… the other place is worse, right?

@Pecan_nutjob i went down a rabbit hole on that page. The implication for the reason period sex is haram is the same as anal which is the same as the Catholic view that sex is for procreation and acts that don’t allow for procreation are haram. The ‘plow’ phrase implies the field must be fertile or at least capable of being fertile so da butt and OTR are no go

@nurse_phillips But sex with a menopausal woman is not prohibited, even though it"s infertile. I don't think Islam prohibits oral sex either—my understanding is that some Muslim clerics consider it unadvisable and a Western perversion, but not prohibited by God.

My knowledge of Islam is barely more than I just learned today from that website so I'm just going to go 🤷‍♀️

I can’t accurately comment on any specific cultures or religions that condone virgin anal sex, but the first time that I lost my virginity, was with a girlfriend who wanted anal. I was invited to attend a bible study group, year ago, sponsored by a baptist group. After they started to verbally attack any and all forms of anal and oral sex, I severed my ties with them. It’s nobody’s business, what someone’s sexual preferences are.

I can’t accurately comment on any specific cultures or religions that condone virgin anal sex,

I doubt that any of them do condone it.

But, just like with birth control and the Pope, most people pay no attention and practice what is best for them. Unmarried older gentlemen of any faith telling younger couples what to do or not to do sexually, are often enough ignored.

I'm an active and staunch Catholic, but the Church's say ends at our bedroom door. My wife and I had also never considered it a sin to have had sex before we were married because we were given two beautiful children. Jesus does not judge his people according to their sexual preferences and their sexual orientation, but according to the kindness of their hearts and their willingness to help other people. Who will do better, the loving Christian who enjoys anal or oral sex with his partner, or the conservative domestic tyrant who rushes to church every day while also beating up his wife and children? It has nothing to do with being religious. I'm not ashamed of my sexual needs as long as I don't hurt my partner or other people.

It's a smart choice for your future!

https://youtu.be/le3XKdVM24k

I'm an active and staunch Catholic, but the Church's say ends at our bedroom door.

Over the centuries, sexual mores were interpreted differently by religious (Catholic) authorities.

For instance pre-marital sex or fornication (which is not the same as adultery) was usually considered to be a venial or lesser sin, especially in days when people did not always marry. The Protestant Reformation and the subsequent Puritans changed things for the worse, interpreting things in a far stricter and literal manner. Then the Church with its Jansenism also got in on the act and it was only around the late 20th century that things started loosening up a bit, although not entirely back to the good old lusty days of the Middle Ages.

Anyway, my parents were even more adamant against Church interference, saying that they should all try raising kids themselves before giving real parents any advice or rules on how to do so.

This post has gotten waaay to serious.

This is dedicated to you, Mrs. Calabash, wherever you are..

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It's not a question of a religion condoning anal. It is that in certain cultures, a ruptured hymen is cause for trouble, whereas anal sex does not leave permanent traces. (Yes, I know some girls have little hymen and don't bleed on first intercourse. I pity those born in such cultures.)