How I told my girlfriend

I’ve enjoyed enemas since my early 20s, but never told anyone. Ever.

My then girlfriend, now wife, (both of us were 27 at the time) and I had been dating for about a year, and I was headed out on a multi week business trip. She was part way through a week long juice cleanse.

the night before I was leaving we were relaxing and drinking some wine on the sofa. I asked her what all she had planned for the next couple days, and she — to my total surprise - said she was going to dig in at work, finish the last two days of her juice cleans, go get an enema, and have a girls night over the weekend.

I had never heard someone I know in my adult life say they were going to get an enema. I even said “what?” and she just brushed it off and said “oh an enema? it has to do with your butt” and moved on.

I was so excited and brought it back up and she explained what an enema was and said she does a couple juice cleanses a year and always got an enema at a medspa after one.

it was a couple more months before I actually told her I like enemas, but she had done another much shorter juice cleanse and kept trying to get me to do it with her. I refused constantly, and she finally said you don’t have to do the enema if that bothers you.

I finally told her I’d actually rather just do an enema with her at home when she finished her juice cleanse. She agreed, then said wait how do you do them at home, have you done one? I told her I liked them and did them with some frequency.

She’s to this day not in any way shape or form into them sexually but supports that they are fun for me, and we do them together (for cleanse purposes) every six weeks or so, although I do them more frequently for fun.

The medspa she used to go to has gone out of business, and we haven’t found another place. They were not colonics, but an actual enema from a bag.

just thought I’d share!

Enemas were always a tough topic for me to bring up when I was dating. I was not very outgoing when it came to the ladies, so most of the women I dated ended up being closely connected to friends or relatives, and I was mortified that my dirty little secret would become semi-public knowledge.

This was not a carefully devised plan, but for some reason I was a little more comfortable aaking them if I could give them a douche or watch them. That seemed to me a little more like a harmless (if just a little twisted) voyeuristic fantasy - nothing to do with butts or poop. I crossed that bridge with, I believe, 5 or so of the women I dated, 2 of whom were willing to go there (though neither routinely douched before or after).

With both of those who agreed to let me douche them, enemas eventually entered the picture as well. With the first, who was probably the least inhibited woman I ever dated, it was relatively easy to bring up. In fact, I just went there right away after I got a “sure, we can try that” response when I asked about douching, and got a “eh, why not?” i would not say she ever really got completely into enemas, but she always masturbated and came hard when I gave her one.

One time when she was really constipated but was mad at me for some reason ("C'mon. What's wrong?"; “I SAID NOTHING!!!!”), she left an enema bag hanging to dry in the shower and a vibrator on the vanity for me to find when I got home from work. Normally that would have really turned me on (and on some level, of course, it did), but I knew it was also meant as a super passive aggressive “fuck you”. She had shut down all enema activity for many, many months prior to that - even the night before that incident when she was painfully constipated - along with just about any other form of sexual interaction. Hard to believe that relationship didn't work out, huh?

But I digress. The other lady who let me douche her is now my wife. While she is not naturally super adventurous sexually, we have a great relationship and she is willing to get out of her comfort zone a little bit to make me happy. And in turn I accept there are some things I long to do that will rarely if ever be on the table. She let me give her an enema for constipation a couple of times but absolutely hated them. She also took no pleasure when I douched her and is concerned about ill health effects, so that has only happened a few times - the last of which was many years ago.

On the other hand, she happily gives me an enema and blowjob weekly, and we have great sex otherwise several times per month (which ain't bad for people married ~20 years and in their 50's).

It seems from many comments posted on Zity, and from my personal experience, that many women are willing to try enemas when they are trying to hook you. Then, when you are married they wake up the next morning and suddenly do not like enemas.

...... and also true with oral sex.

I introduced enemas a step at a time. My wife saw the bag and knew I used them for occasional constipation. Then it was getting her to administer and occasionally get one herself. She saw what happened to me after a good cleanse and that wasn't a huge leap to erotic enemas and some specialized nozzles. She has some great moves with a nozzle.

@vanhose Sorry for the indiscretion but you mentioned constipation. Did you talk to her or do it "hiddenly"?

Hidden at first then open

When my wife and I first met, she didn’t like doing enemas. However, her OB/GYN had prescribed enemas for relief of period cramps and constipation. So, though she didn’t like doing enemas, she reluctantly used them as her doctor prescribed. Fast forward a couple of years when she and my sister shared an appointment. One evening when my wife (girlfriend at the time) came in from work, she wasn’t feeling too good. When my sister saw her and asked what’s wrong, she told her, she thought she might be coming down with the flu. At that, my sister then told her, “You could use a couple of enemas. They’ll help you feel better.” Of course, my girlfriend balked at that suggestion. So, my sister talked to her about our use of enemas and what our grandmother used them for and the end results. My girlfriend reluctantly agreed, and my sister gave her a couple of enemas that evening. My sister gave them to my girlfriend real slow using a long-curved douche nozzle. The end results were, my girlfriend felt a lot better, and asked my sister to repeat the enemas the next evening. The next evening, when my sister repeated the enemas for my girlfriend, she had my girlfriend give her a couple of enemas as well. Afterwards, the two girls gave each other enemas when needed. So, by the time we got married, my wife didn’t have an issue with enemas, she had changed her opinion about them. Hence, we enjoyed doing enemas together for both health and pleasure from the beginning.

@Rick6981 I have a neighbor in her 70s who says that as a child, when she had any symptoms of a cold, her father would give her an enema, both on her and her siblings.

@brazilian said,

I have a neighbor in her 70s who says that as a child, when she had any symptoms of a cold, her father would give her an enema, both on her and her siblings.

My grandmother was a retired Registered Nurse and a firm believer in enemas for both kids and adults. In the fifties and sixties, doctors routinely prescribed enemas for colds and the flu among other things. If the doctor made a house call, the sick one was guaranteed an enema upon his departure, along with daily enemas until it ran its course. Part of the doctor's routine home care prescription was daily enemas when we were home sick. He also strongly suggested, it was a good idea for other members of the household be given daily enema as a prophylactic until the illness passed. That suggestion wasn’t missed by my grandmother, a firm believer in enemas, and something she saw too or had her younger daughters take care of during evening bath time.

@Rick6981 If everyone in the family received it, no one would get jealous lol times were really different