Anal fingering

I love the feeling of fingering my ass, it really does it. However, I'm always worried about damaging the lining & making it bleed. Any tips for safe anal finger play?

The suggestion of trimmed fingernails, and plenty of lube, should apply. I personally would go with gelled anal beads, or a glass rectal thermometer. Stay away from sharp objects.

Trim your nails. Wear a nitrile glove if you want. There shouldn't be danger in fingering your ass unless you have hemorrhoids, fissure or something. If it starts to hurt - back off. Listen to your body.

As long as you or your partner use a nitrile glove with sufficient lube, it should be no problem. Have fun! My wife fingers me from time to time, always with a glove and good quality lube. It's more fun for me than her, but she doesn't mind doing it either.

Don't forget that prostate!

Ewwwww!

Make sure if a M to M anal fingering, that your fingers are cut and smooth

Trimmed nails, no hang nails, gloves, insert slowly.

Make sure if a M to M anal fingering, that your fingers are cut and smooth

Applies to anyone fingering: MM, MF, FM. Gloves are optional. We never wore them.

I second the importance of very short nails, carefully filed to eliminate as many sharp “edges” as possible, no matter how small. Regardless of whether one chooses to wear gloves (black nitrile ones are a favorite of mine should I go for gloves at all, but I am all about no gloves, assuming that both parties feel safe and comfortable with this option…) don’t forget to take care of cuticles as sometimes they can be pretty rough and do some damage, too.

As always, plenty of lube: Vaseline or crisco make for great lubricants and are not water soluble; coconut oil or astroglide or KY jelly are wonderful but water soluble options.

I mention this because I don’t know whether you are planning to enjoy the fingering as part of enema play or in the shower or “on dry land“. I’m heavily into both and the right lube(s) make/s a big difference. I have found that shooting a bit of warm coconut oil in the rectum with a lube shooter and coating and massaging crisco or Vaseline on the outside and inside of the anal sphincter gives you the best of both worlds and can be extremely erotic.

As others have said, if you feel pain, especially a sharp, sudden “papercut-like” type, stop and assess for bleeding, cuts (if possible), etc. I’d also be mindful about fissures, hemorrhoids (internal and external), fistulas and the like: the best way to find out is to ask your partner whether they have or had any problems that affected the area and if there’s some specific precautions you should take when fingering them. In the OP’s case he mentions his wife doing the fingering and I would assume that they are familiar with each other’s health/medical history but this is sound advice for anyone who may not be as knowledgeable about their partner‘s ass health.

Hope it helps!

I love getting anally fingered, here's something I enjoy VERY much:

Getting pulled against the inner sphincter muscle with the finger(s) gently. Be sure to try this one day, can give you a real kick. :-)

My wife’s gloves finger has logged a lot of hours through the years up my back side and I thoroughly love it, she doesn’t have long nails but I seem to like the gloved finger better than bare finger, with lube it slides nicely in and out. But I would tend to agree that trimmed nails are a must

Not a fan of using a gloved finger. Trim your nails and file edges smooth. A gentle massage of the anus with a lubed finger, before slowly inserting, and a sensual massage of the prostate really raises the sexual intensity for both the giver and receiver.

Thanks for all the replies so far, very helpful. I am now tempted to get an anal toy as well as fingering….

Prostate massaging produces some of the most amazing orgasms ever.

What does everyone use for lube ?

For anal fingering, my wife and I use “Good Clean Love”, which is a water-soluble lube. I think using a water soluble lube is a good practice for anal penetration.

For vaginal penetration, my wife and I prefer silicone based lubes, such as Uber Lube. These maintain their lubricity for a longer time and they are not cold to the touch.

We use FAV, a water based lube made in America. Purchase on Amazon, 33oz for about $25.

Had a girlfriend who had long fingernails and she would tickle my arsehole with the tip of her fingernail, she never inserted it though, which was a shame. I use toys in my arse rather than my finger. I'm not very flexible and I can pleasure myself better with a toy. I might try the glove thing though for something different.

Had a girlfriend who had long fingernails and she would tickle my arsehole with the tip of her fingernail. she never inserted it though which was a shame.

My girlfriend, who didn't even have long fingernails, once unknowingly tore a sizable gash in my anal sphincter/opening with a fingernail. I didn't notice till the next morning when it felt like I was having a red hot rod inserted by a denizen from hell, right out of a Breughel painting or something. Did it ever hurt.

So, be wary about long fingernails. They are nothing to laugh about.

A finger on or in my anus goes along way towards sending me over the climax cliff. I have never had much concern over injury with self fingering due to being in tune with exactly what was going on. While I very much being fingered by my lover, I am way more wary of exactly what is going on after having a bad experience with a mistress after telling her that I had an anal fetish. I think I got a small tear which was not particularly painful and healed quickly without treatment but I do believe I lost a bit of elasticity from the experience…never was able to stretch open as much after that experience.

Thanks for all the advice given, I have the right lube and have been practicing. Fairly quickly it has been easy to slide my finger into my anus and give me intense pleasure. I'm now considering various toys to enhance the experience..

Good luck @AS11 ! You won't look back!

@Cloudtreker2 well said!!! My feelings also!

Love being fingered, glove & lube is needed. Will be progressing to toys soon. Whats better length or girth?

I didn't notice till the next morning when it felt like I was having a red hot rod inserted by a denizen from hell, right out of a Breughel painting or something. Did it ever hurt.

That's what I love about this place. You never know what to expect. One post is about getting lubed-up and anally fingered. The next is a Peter Breughel reference. 🤣

To me currently, it's girth! I've found (depending on what you wish to use an item for) that most anal toys have a length of about 5" to 7" which is ok for me. I have often wondered about buying a ‘snake’ but have so far chickened out. What I have tried to buy, but without success, is something that one can insert easily, then increase it's diameter so that your anus has to prepare iteself to eject the item, with perhaps some help from me.

Keep nails trimmed and lots of lubricant

I have nice nails and often use a thick finger cot on my finger. It's not for hygiene, it's so my finger is nice and smooth and I don't worry about injuring him. If we are playing nice and slow and not being aggressive, I just use a bare finger and be careful.

I was giving a lady friend a second enema. As I was lubing her with Vaseline, I eased my finger into her rectum.

She immediately said I was making her horny and she quickly reached for her clitoris and started masturbating.

Sensing I had struck a nerve, I reinserted my finger and moved it around. As she masturbated, she lifted her hips to push my finger deeper.

She continued masturbating furiously as I eased the nozzle through her rectum and into her bowel. As her soapy water drained into her, she had a strong orgasm.

She lost a few drops of enema but finished the bag. After a few minutes she went to release while I busied myself cleaning the equipment.

When she returned, she got in the knee-chest position, started masturbating again and asked me to finger her butthole again.

I did until I told her I wanted to fuck her in the ass. She said she would try. With a condom and lube, I managed slow penetration but she orgasmed before I managed a dozen strokes.

From that night forward, anal fingering and anal sex was a big part of our enema exchanges.

We do a lot of anal play with bare fingers. We keep our nails trimmed and smooth and never try to ‘cram’ fingers in, we use one only and take it slow with lots of lube and don't have a problem.