Hi, welcome to the party then. Don’t worry about being late, you can party all your life.
Of course communication is a very important part of D/s. A D/s relationship is in some ways like a normal relationship. Three things are very important, at least they are for me: Trust, honesty and communication. No specific order for those three.
A D/s relationship should be well balanced. Compare the dominant with a painter and the submissive with a canvas. The submissive is in charge of what kind of things can be painted, about which range of colors can be used. And within those boundaries, or limits, the dominant will determine what will be painted, what colors will be used and what techniques will be used. And don’t expect to have a Rembrandt right away. Good paintings take time to build. Doing things in small steps. And this may sound simple, but D/s or BDSM is a wide variety of things that can be done. Be aware that both parties are in this together what will be done and what won’t be part of it. So having good communication before, during and after is essential.
Looking at my own experience it means that the communication is key to determine if I continue with this person or not. It should feel right, also for me when I start to dominate someone. Looking at my own experience the best D/s relationships were with those submissives that I talked about a lot of things, apart from their submissive feelings.
And that communication should feel right for you. And at some moment you will decide that the communication is good enough to continue to the next step which is based upon trust. Trust means that this connection feels well enough to submit. That you have communicated about all sorts of things, that you aren‘t pushed to submit. That you feel safe.
And perhaps honesty can be difficult at some times. Do you dare to tell your dominant that what he is doing feels so good for you? Or what he is doing doesn‘t feel good at all and you want him to stop that? Do you trust him enough for that? Do you feel that the relationship can handle that?
So that‘s my opinion based upon my own experiences….