Women, what are you thinking about when waiting for your exam?

As you drive to your gynecological exam or waiting in the waiting room for your exam are your thoughts turning you on?

I’m hoping that he doesn’t find anything of concern, I’m hoping that he doesn’t want to do an endometrial biopsy and/or TVU. I’m hoping he is on time and hasn‘t been delayed with an emergency. I‘m thinking about everything I need to tell him, update him, and ask about. Oh yes, I’m also thinking about what I need to get done that day and week…

I’m hoping that he doesn’t find anything of concern, I’m hoping that he doesn’t want to do an endometrial biopsy and/or TVU. I’m hoping he is on time and hasn‘t been delayed with an emergency. I‘m thinking about everything I need to tell him, update him, and ask about. Oh yes, I’m also thinking about what I need to get done that day and week…

@Fawkes Are you so immersed in thought that you don't hear your name called the first (or second) time?

If I am in the waiting room I am thinking of anything to keep me from looking at my sister and her girlfriend. No, I am serious. They are jokers and try to make me blush before the exam. But we are not in the waiting room very long. In the exam room, I try to talk to my sister about anything but the exam. They always try to get me turned on while driving to the doctor's office.

I'm hoping they don't find anything abnormal. I'm hoping I don't get too wet. I'm hoping Dev doesn't give me “that look” that will make me get wet. I'm wondering why no one makes comfortable waiting room furniture.

“@Fawkes Are you so immersed in thought that you don't hear your name called the first (or second) time?”

@srg_rik ,

I always hear my name the first time, right away.

“@Fawkes Are you so immersed in thought that you don't hear your name called the first (or second) time?”

@srg_rik ,

I always hear my name the first time, right away.

Eager beaver…. must be lookin forward to an enjoyable experience

“Eager beaver…. must be lookin forward to an enjoyable experience”

No, not at all. I’m attentive and on time. It’s called being courteous and respectful. I don’t want to waste their time and energy. They have far more than enough to do with never enough time to do it.

More likely wondering if there is anything that I need to be concerned about. No time for anything else at the exam room as I don't find the sexually appealing.

For over a decade I have had doctors look at my south pole region that I care to remember and sitting at the gyno chair with my legs spread out. I know my doctor who is actually male and I honestly am comfortable with him.

Hello, well usually I am thinking I hope I showered good down there, and then I am thinking I hope I am not getting to wet and I try not to think about it. The thoughts of, being opened on an exam table really start to make me wet, so I try not to think about that. Then waiting, I will try to not think about any of that. Then I change and go to te bathroom and make sure to wipe very good as I am usually very wet.

What am I thinking? Really?

Let’s hurry up and get this over with.

I get excited as I am in the waiting room but as my wait in the waiting room gets too long then I frustrated that the doctor probably overbooked his appointments. Now that I have stage 4 rectal cancer, I worry that they don’t find it elsewhere. For years, I found pelvic exams erotic but recently, it has not been erotic.

I purposely plan something fun to do (usually a road trip. Last year, it was my favorite hike) I (try to) focus on that.

Also, “They really should take my blood pressure after the exam so I get a reading that isn't very elevated!”

I try not to think too much and then completely let my thoughts run wild afterwards.

In the waiting room I start worrying slightly that it will hurt badly, or my communication that I'm a lesbian and need a virgin speculum won't have been received. If it hasn't then during my external my minora get pulled back extra wide to validate that she needs to now go and get a different sized speculum due to me having a hymen.

I'm very horny after the test. I like that I feel stretched and tender and I like looking in the mirror and dropping my trousers and knickers when I get home and seeing my vulva is open and splayed.

I have not been to a gynecologist since the 6-week follow-up exam after giving birth. All of my exams of any sort since then have been with a PCP MD or NP. So here’s the juxtaposition in my head:

• If I suddenly did need to go specifically to the gynecologist, after so many years now of having everything taken care of at the PCP’s office, that may be indicative of a need beyond a routine visit. And very likely, I would not be looking forward to that exam with thoughts of fantasy turn-on. Rather, I am fairly certain that I would be 100% nervous, maybe even to the point of panic, because I would be worried out of my mind. That last visit was eight years ago and a lot has changed since then. I’m older, I have OCD now (vs. OCD tendencies then), that was pre-move to FL, pre-move back to MA, pre-COVID. That’s a lot to justify all on its own, even before the potential added stress of “oh my God, I hope I’m not going to get bad news,” or “oh my God, I hope whatever he’s going to do is not going to be too painful.” **
• The routine physical exams that I have had over the past few years, at the MD/NP’s office… yes, those put me in a much safer headspace. The pace is familiar. Even though I may not know which procedures he/she may or may not opt to do at this appointment, the scary stuff doesn’t usually happen in THAT office. Or, at least, if it does, it has not to me, not for years (the last time was bad news, for example, that actually ended up in a referral to a OB who specialized in high-risk pregnancies).
• So assuming that it’s a run-of-the-mill/expecting nothing out of the ordinary ahead of time, the answer is yes, I definitely get turned on, and my thoughts definitely race to the fantastical-yet-of-course-unrealistic scenarios that I rewind and fast forward 100 times before the actual exam. And I have to say that this adds yet another layer of neurotic worry to my pre-exam table, too, because then in creeps the worry “oh my goodness, I hope I don’t appear turned on at all during the exam.”

In the case of the safer/everything-is-okay scenario, my reward to myself after an exam-gone-well, is plenty of alone time in bed with my favorite battery operated toy and whichever implements du jour are necessary. Then, with my eyes closed, fast-forwarding and rewinding everything behind the eyelids as the fingers do what I wish the practitioner had done, the goal - of course - is a release both sexually and emotionally.

**Note: Normally I wish for a fantasy exam with elements of too-much, including unreasonable pain… but that is completely different from actual pain, which of course I do not desire.

For a gyno exam, just think about hearing good news and no medical issues.

For GP and pediatric exams, when younger, I never worried about my health, cause all I could think of was the others in the waiting room and what was about to happen to me in the exam room and could I keep my anxiety and excitement under control.