@cvbaby: Hello. I am grateful for your posts. Your contributions are worthwhile. Glad you're here.
I just wanted to address a point you made regarding Mommies and Daddies. The comment that follows is not in any way a criticism of you; it is merely an observation you might find helpful -- perhaps even liberating. I hope what follows makes sense. My comments are directed to ab/dl men and Mommies, but they apply with equal force and vigor to other relations and dynamics, including those between ab/dl women and Daddies.
Being a Mommy to an adult-baby boy or male diaper-lover can (and in certain cases should) have absolutely nothing to do with dominance or submission. I have repeatedly encountered, without my consent and much to my sorrowful disadvantagement, a prevalent misconception amongst women, sometimes unfortunately translated into mistreatment, that a man who wants to be diapered must be a slave, a masochist, a submissive, or a bottom. Sometimes, that causes major problems for those of us diapered fellows who want, au fond, truly nurturing and purely erotic diapering simpliciter from a Mommy. (I have enjoyed some forms of submissive diaperplay -- especially diaper-pail play -- but those are adscititious to my diaper fetish and to my being at heart an adult-toddler and diaper-lover. Being a submissive adult diaperboy for a Dommy Mommy has its moments, but it is worlds away from the fons et origo of my diaper fetish, the primacy of which I would never allow any woman to try to displace -- and especially not forcibly.) Speaking strictly personally, being diapered by a truly loving Mommy would be for me a transformative identifactive, therapeutic, and peak experience -- not just erotically, but emotionally and spiritually. It would be the fulfillment of my deepest need and my lifelong dream. That does not mean I would find it the only means of intimacy. It would be ultimately satisfying, but so would be being a Daddy and diapering the woman I loved, and so would be making love as equal partners, seeking that unique union and special synergy that soulmates share in romantic love. In my nearly thirty years of experience, I have discovered that though Dommy Mommies are legion, the nurturing Mommy is not only a rara avis but probably a fata morgana. (I hold out hope despite all evidence to the contrary.) So please know that a woman can diaper a man without punishment, pain, humiliation, insertion, spanking, or other behaviors or treatments a Mistress, a sadist, a Dommy Mommy, or a top woman might inflict. One doesn't have to be a Domme to be a diaper Mommy. Perhaps, in that light, you might view being a diaper Mommy differently -- say if you have latent (or patent) maternal instincts and love the idea of being nurturing, but don't enjoy the idea of being dominant. Perhaps not. It's just an observation.
Switches can make excellent Daddies, but it's fine if an ab/dl woman is not comfortable being a Mommy. I understand that; I respect that; and I honor that. I just wanted you to hear from an adult-toddler and lifelong diaper-lover who has always sought, alpha and omega, a committed, long-term, monogamous romantic relationship with a woman that includes, but by no means is limited to, her being a truly loving Mommy who will change my wet, messy diapers in a nurturing way and who will enjoy stimulating and caring for me during diaper-change; and, if she desires, my being her nurturing (or, if it is healthy for her, her Dominant) Daddy who will enjoy changing her wet, messy diapers in a nurturing, caring, and stimulating way. I love being a Daddy to adult-baby and adult-toddler girls and to adult female diaper-lovers. I also enjoy being a Dominant Daddy to adult female diapersubs (and occasionally, in a secondary way, being a submissive adult diaperboy to a Dommy Mommy), but only in a relationship built on mutual trust, respect, affection, and love. Just one man's perspective.
I mean to respond helpfully to what you wrote and not to hijack this or any other thread. Sorry this post is so long. I hope what I've written is in some wise inspiring. Feel free to write me privately should you wish to do so. I am always happy to be a diaper Daddy to, for, and with the right adult woman. I will always want and need a diaper Mommy, but being a Daddy is eminently satisfying, enriching, and fulfilling in se. I wish you and all diapered men and women all the best. May all our dreams come true. Peace and love.
P.S.: I just gave you your first karma point. Hope you receive many more. -- df