How do you find out if your friends like enemas either giving or receiving?

What is the best way to find out if your friends like enemas either giving or receiving? I wish I could read peoples minds but can someone tell me what their success has been to find an enema partner?

No success since my divorce over 20 years ago. All solo now. But still looking.

You could always just ask them, but don't take my advice. It's probably not the best.

@Brad

You could always just ask them, but don't take my advice. It's probably not the best.

If only society was that open-minded and non-judgmental.

I will discuss my use of enemas with my sex partners when I feel it is appropriate and relevant. I am still very careful not to mention it too soon before I know I can trust the person to have a conversation about enemas or least know that person is open to the subject.

The bottom line is unless you see enema equipment in their home, the only way to know is to ask them or at least share your own interest in enemas. Over the years I would say only a few have admitted to using enemas or at least using a shower shot to clean themselves before anal play. But even though it has been a bit of a “risk of embarrassment" to bring it up, I would say for those that were totally clueless about enemas, they have been curious and nonjudgmental.

So if you are with someone and feel the topic of enemas or use of enemas might be relevant, bring it up. If you keep it to yourself then you will never know. At the very least you might be surprised at their reaction and how they react to your question. So go for it!

You could always just ask them, but don't take my advice. It's probably not the best.

@Brad I was going to say that. But asking anyone such a question could get you removed as their friend and become the hot topic of many discussions in the future. You then being the “perve” in the group/neighborhood.

But…if they are…you could find a new best friend. Weigh out the pros and cons for yourself with those you may think are into enemas.

I take a little more indirect approach. When are playing sexually or talking immediately after a wonderful, mutually satisfying lovemaking session, I’ll ask them if I can ask them a personal question. If they say yes, I’ll build their curiosity by asking, Are you sure, you promise I can ask something personal, etc.

After they have reassured me repeatedly and sound a little annoyed that I continue ask for reassurance, I’ll ask if they have any secret fetishes or practices they enjoy.

This will bring out somethings because their defenses are down after a thorough fucking. If our screw included anal play or even anal sex, they will usually mention enjoying anal play. At that point, I feel comfortable to admitting I enjoy enemas, how good they make me feel and it’s better when or if a friend helps me. 99% of the time, we bring out the equipment at least for a show and tell or an enema exchange begins.

If they don’t mention any anal erotism, I make up a story about getting frequent enemas as a child and learning to enjoy them and finding them sexually stimulating as I got older. I never had any partner not understand why.

Usually they will share their own childhood enema experiences and say they have had lingering thoughts about including them in their sex activities or even their medfed play.

Either way, I know if it’s safe to discuss further or not without being considered weird or kinky.

You can always make a joke about enemas. Like if you are watching TV and an actress or actor is stuck up you can say something like,"he or she needs an enema." Then bring up the reality show that had Paris Hilton and someone else where they had to give people enemas. Once you get them talking ask if they have ever had one. Then you can add your experiences.

I actually try not to!

I respect their privacy, and expect the same in return.

I'm not going to tell them. If any of them tell me, I won't freak out, but I honestly believe I'm better off not knowing.

With friends who know I am into a kinky lifestyle it's easy, I can just ask them. But with my “normal” friends, its something I keep to myself as there's not need to go further.

Get yourself an “Enema Pin” and see if it initiates some discussion about enemas.

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=118757

I always bring it up at dinner when you got a mouth full of wine so I can watch you blow it out your nose it amuses me WTF I’m picking up the tab ! All kidding aside I bring it up after we have slept together.

I leave a clean but recently used enema bag hanging on the shower in the bathroom When my friend comes to visit.

I just ask. “Have you ever had an enema?” It's either a shy yes or a no. Either answer can lead to a fun chat or experience shared.

My bag and nozzles are open to view hanging from a rod in the bathroom. Anyone curious can have a go.

Let them tell you!

Not always directly but if they do these things and want you to know they will find ways of telling you.

Read the signals but don't Trump to delusions. It can be very subtle, but the signs will be there,

I have meant some pretty good people here on zity witch I can say they are friends now. wasn't hard to get a yes answer out of them.