I'm very new to BDSM, and I've only played with one person before, my previous partner. However, after exploring this site and doing some research, I now know that things I experienced with her aren't normal.She did things I had listed as ‘No' on my kink sheet, wouldn't stop when I safe worded, and got pissed off when I started crying because I was so scared. I would have to have a friend come take care of me after she left me badly dropped. Eventually I broke up with her, but it's been 3 years since then, and while I want to find someone to play with, the whole experience left me badly shaken. I'm technically a switch, and I would like to find someone similar to play with, but how do you go about doing that safely? I'm kind of scared to meet a girl only to be terrified and ignored again.Any suggestions on how to go about this safely would be really, really appreciated. I want to, but I'm really scared.