Telling your other you want changed

Ok. My fiancé has agreed she’s gonna start changing me. I’m allowed to poop and pee as much as I want in my diapers that I’m gonna start wearing. I’ve been doing enemas for years now and she has zero issue with them. She has diapered me 4 times but I’ve never gone to the bathroom in them. And that’s over 3 years. But now she is gonna change my diaper I’ve asked her several times if she wants to back out of this and she says no. Now my question is. After I mess my diaper. How do I tell her I want changed or I pooped. What’s everyone’s go to tell to be/want changed

My bride occasionally gives me a low volume oil enema which can leak/dribble for hours. Those instances when the treatment is given during the day and I have leaked, I say something like, “I've been leaking. Will you please change me before bed?” Or words to that effect.

Why beat around the bush? She knows what's going on, she's already agreed to the change - is there any need to be tricky about it?

To be even more forthright, why not discuss it with her before hand? Ask her if she has any preference(s) as to how she wants to be approached when the issue arises - offer some alternatives such as

• Ask for her suggestions.
• "I've gone potty in my diaper. Will you change me?"
• "Mommy, I went boom boom."
• "Darling, I need a change."
• Suggest she check your diaper at regular intervals and take appropriate action when she discovers the need.

I can only mess in my diapers when my wife gives me permission. So when she does, she insists on also being the one who decides how long I stay in my messy diapers before she changes me. Usually she allows me to remain in my messy diapers for a few hours before she thinks its time to change me. I do let her know when I actually pooped in my diapers. I go up to her and tell her “sweety, I made a poo-poo” and she will say something “you're such a good boy for waiting until mommy told you it was OK to make a messy. Now mommy is busy right. You can go out and play with yourself for awhile and will mommy change you later."

Sounds nasty!

If you actually mess them I don’t think you will need to say a thing! She will notice pretty quickly and get you changed!

You got that right. My wife and her mom know I've made a poo-poo in my diapers as soon as they get a few feet from me. That's why I don't mess when I go out with them. Too embarrassing.

I think a discussion between you two needs to happen. Like what if you're out in public, with friends or relatives? Are they going to change you every time when possible? How do they want to be told you need or want changed? Is there a place, event or time they dont want to change you.

If they are willing to change you get it out there. Why beat around it? That's my opinion.

I have a female friend that does wear diapers 24/7. I have told her in the past that she does need to tell me when she needs to be changed. I take it upon myself to check and change her when needed.