Does anybody make their partner hold the enema?

After I give my husband an enema I insert a butt plug and make him hold it for 20 minutes. He is either sitting on the toilet waiting or walking around doing something else but he has to wait at least 20 minutes before he can evacuate his bowels.

We usually use a balloon nozzle, but I like to massage the recievers belly when the solution is flowing in, and for as long as possible when retaining aswell,

Works 2 ways really, with a soappy solution it really enhances the cramps and makes sure the solution gets arround tonall places,

With a plain water enema it works really soothing and relaxing. Kinda funny how that difference works…

I massage his belly as well and he massages my belly when I'm holding mine.

Speaking from a medical viewpoint it is always best to have the recipient of the enemas hold them as long as they can to produce the desired purpose of why that person is being given the enemas. Over time I have learned a few skills to help those that I give enemas to.

On a few occasions I have used a series of small enemas for those who just can not hold the enema. Holding the enemas may take some training and patience and that can be done one on one.

After I give my husband an enema I insert a butt plug and make him hold it for 20 minutes. He is either sitting on the toilet waiting or walking around doing something else but he has to wait at least 20 minutes before he can evacuate his bowels.

Vanna,

Answer: yes, definitely, for up to an hour with a plug or balloon catheter in. That’s a great part of the satisfaction and fun.

Interesting, pleasant, erotic read - thank you. I see nothing on your profile so far about your kinks or motivations. Are you and your husband trading enemas with each other as normal, equal partners who just enjoy seeing each other get an enema as part of your sex life, or are either of you giving or taking them as a Dom or sub? Since you were the giver, what made it appe@ling to you to make him hold it? For me either way would be great fun, but my ex and I were switches and usually gave each other enemas with long retentions required, with the receiver, usually myself, acting extremely submissive and humiliated to my partner’s Domme. We both loved them in either role.

Eric

My wife and I have used suppositories as well as enemas for retention sessions. We find the suppositories add an additional time for sensual adventure. One of our favorite adventures is going for a walk in a wooded park and challenging each other to a holding contest.

We find it particularly memorable when we let it go simultaneous while hugging each other. During such times sexual relief is an added benefit (which we find our underpants quite convenient as well).

My wife and I have used suppositories as well as enemas for retention sessions. We find the suppositories add an additional time for sensual adventure. One of our favorite adventures is going for a walk in a wooded park and challenging each other to a holding contest. We find it particularly memorable when we let it go simultaneous while hugging each other. During such times sexual relief is an added benefit (which we find our underpants quite convenient as well).

Round bottom,

Are you doing your outdoor wooded park adventure together holding just suppositories, or are one or both of you adventurous enough to do this holding an enema? I’ve had a longtime fantasy or dream of doing that outside with my GF, but never managed to do it so far. But we definitely love one of us, usually me, holding a big enema for a long time (~30-60 min) while being edged and eventually allowed to orgasm.

Eric

A holding contest - that's a great idea! I will do it with my husband.

With me it depends on the purpose of the enema. If it is just because I want one, I sometimes will let it out right away or I will sometimes hold it for a time I decide on in advance.

If it is being given to me by someone else, I leave it to the person giving it to me to decide if I will be allowed to let it out right away or I must hold it for a period of time. If it is meant for punishment, I do expect to have to hold it for a period of time as the one punishing me feels I must hold it for. The most I have ever been forced to hold an enema for was a full hour. It was with an inflatable butt plug up my butt.

When I am giving someone else an enema, it depends on the reason as well as to if I make the person getting the enema hold it for a period of time or not. I have made a female hold her enema for up two hours once. And a male hold his for up to 45 minutes.

When I take them myself solo these days, they can range from not reaching my full fill of 3-4 quarts because an orgasm intervened, or 15-60 minutes if I can get myself completely filled. When my ex would give them to me as her sub, she would often have me hold it with a DBC inflated for 2-4 hours of edging and other delights until I had been submissive long enough to satisfy her that day and give her enough orgasms.

Eric

You can't “Make” someone hold an enema longer than they are capable of!

Before I would give someone else an enema, it would have to be mutually understood and agreed that the person getting the enema will hold it as long as they are physically able. No agreement on that, no enema!

For me, an enema without holding hardly deserves to be called an enema!

Well normal enemas non punishment enema usually I look for 5 minutes up to 10 minutes but for punishment I like at least 10 minutes or close as I can to it. I do use plugs etc when needed of course I don’t want anything unsafe to happen and it also depends on if I am letting them use the toilet or commode or bedpan etc that factors in. When I am the one getting filled I stick to the same guidelines usually.

When my Domme girlfriend administers enemas to me, she has a fifteen minute rule. I will hold it for a full fifteen minutes or I get a good paddling and she will repeat the enema, making it hotter and soapier then the last until I hold it for the full fifteen minutes. She follows it up with two or three rinse enemas. Talk about heaven :-)

YES!

But in my case is the opposite, my boyfriend gives me “discipline” enemas, with very long holding periods, usually 45 to 60 minutes, even a little more. We start with 2 or 3 clean up enemas as preparation before the main enema. The main enema is usually a 3 liters, soapy, warn enema, with a inflatable retention nozzle (I can't hold an hour myself) and he quickly fills me before starting the clock to count the time. Most times I prefer to be in bondage, tied and gagged to help me hold it. After the holding time he help me to sit in the toilet before removing the nozzle because the “explosion” that follows is really strong.

When i give my partner an enema i insert my finger and make him hold it in until i think he ready to evacuate.

Growing up my parents had a fifteen minute rule for bulb enemas of 16 ounces, two bulbs full. after age 12 we were graduated to the red open top hanging bag. Same concentration of Ivory soap but as close to the full 2 quarts as possible and a seven minute dance till sent to the toilet. i was introduce to the punishment type enema at age 16. Two full liters of the warmest, no hottest heavy soap water enema a 16 year old girl could hold. You have know idea how long 30 minutes is till then.

Depends on what one might interpret the word “Make” might constitute

Been known to “"Make” a partner retain her Enema.

The …Be a Good Girl for me, it's for your own good 😶

My wife likes making me hold my enema for usually 15-20 minutes… I hold it for 15 min with the balloon nozzle in, 5 min holding it without any plug, and then she makes me slowly count to 100 while sitting on the toilet with my hole open and waiting. I think the 100 count is actually the hardest.

I was about to reply with comments and questions for the OP but they havent been here for 2 months, and I discovered the other member Profile @Bizarrasp now shows her as Banned.

So I’ll just move up to @flalovin. I’m glad you have a spouse who cooperates and enjoys giving you enemas, apparently fairly long ones. Sounds like a nice time. Queries on your (or her) methods:

1) how much do you have to hold in, asked because you’re made to hold for 5 min plus your 100 countdown time on the commode after she pulls out your balloon helper?

2) what does she make or allow you to do while you’re holding? Chores? Tasks? Walking around? Masturbation of one of you? Giving her orgasms while you hold? Do you do this like my GF switch partner did and treat each other as Domme and sub (me usually sub getting filled with her enema)? What if you can’t hold long enough and leak during your unplugged 5 min plus 100 count time? How do you fit your enemas into your sex life? Do you always get to orgasm after your enema hold, or not? Do you two ever switch and give her enemas to hold? Thanks,

Eric

The trick is to make your partner hold their enema as long as they possibly can, so as to get the full benefit of pleasurable cramping, strong urges, and poo softening, , yet not cause them actual pain. I find it very difficult to tell whether the person wailing of “I've got to poo…. NOW!” really means it, or if it's part of the experience and is soliciting a response like “Sweetie, you've not held your enema nearly long enough to work properly. You have at least 5 more minutes.”

@ericmacson thank you for the compliment and questions!

My wife does not receive and does not like any kind of anal play at all. Instead she let's me have enema play with others. I am an extremely lucky man.

When I have to hold, it is about 1500ml. If she is going gor volume and less time it is 2000ml +.

I do orgasm during the last enema. I do have to take the entire enema before I can cum… and then cannot expel until I have. There have been a few times when this has gotten a bit hairy if my “happy guy” is not playing fair.

Enemas are part of our sex life. Enemas help tremendously. During the enema and subsequent holding, we will continue foreplay with oral, etc.

Hope that answers your questions. Let me know if I missed anything.

@flalovin,

Thanks for your answers. I’m very glad you have worked out a healthy, fun, trustful, sexy way to do your enemas together. You’re a lucky man. More power to you - I hope your happy satisfying kinky sex life goes on for many more years. I miss my ex-wife’s lovingly enthusiastic sharing of our mutual kinks including enemas for both of us during and as part of our sex life. I look forward to reading more of your posts.

Eric

The trick is to make your partner hold their enema as long as they possibly can, so as to get the full benefit of pleasurable cramping, strong urges, and poo softening, , yet not cause them actual pain. I find it very difficult to tell whether the person wailing of “I've got to poo…. NOW!” really means it, or if it's part of the experience and is soliciting a response like “Sweetie, you've not held your enema nearly long enough to work properly. You have at least 5 more minutes.”

In answer to the OP‘s query, I’d say “Oh my Lord YES!!!! A big long eventful mandatory enema hold enforced by my partner (e.g., ex-wife Switch Domme) for me is at least half the fun. To Sean’s first line above, I’d agree and just add the additional full benefit of feeling and seeing the big volume, distention and water weight of a nice substantial enema, usually 3.5-4.5 quarts. And also, at least for us and any other D/s enema lovers, the further benefit of submission, embarrassment and even if you like, humiliation from both the enema and our mutual comments, conversation, noises and other kinky clothing and accessories she’d dress me in for my enemas (primarily rubber and latex).

With my ex being my Domme, after making me dress or wear our fetish clothing and accessories (latex suit, hood, gloves, rubber sneakers, etc.) to start my submission and arousal, she’d wind up making me hold the first enema about an hour, then add the second on top of my first, and hold the double enema till the end of that evening or session. My usual hold time for both enemas was 2-4 hours, with release and emptying after our orgasms before sleeping. On rare occasion she’d make me continue holding the double enema even after our orgasms until the next morning, making it a 6-8 hour enema hold.

Eric

I encourage my wife to try and retain it for it to have some time for it work.

I like to be forced to hold my enemas. I also, like to force others to hold their enemas. Especially if we both have taken an enema at the same time and we both try to hold it in for as long as we can. Then after one of us can hold it no more, the other one wins and can go at anytime. However, after both of us are emptied out, the one who lost gets another one with a butt plug and must beg and beg and beg and . . . to let it out. That will usually be for at least 20 minutes of begging to let it out.

"You're not giving me the whole bag?" my dear husband asked. Nope. I stopped after giving him a little more than half the bag, withdrew the tube and told him, OK, now he's going to hold this in for a while. I've never filled him up until it's painful, and then made him hold it in. That's a turn-off! I wouldn't want him doing that to me. It's more comfy for him when I do it this way. He doesn't need to be fully cleaned out; the enema just needs to get him going. But I'm amazed how even a smaller enema if I can get the tube up high enough, it will still produce volumes in return!

I like to be forced to hold my enemas. I also, like to force others to hold their enemas. Especially if we both have taken an enema at the same time and we both try to hold it in for as long as we can. Then after one of us can hold it no more, the other one wins and can go at anytime. However, after both of us are emptied out, the one who lost gets another one with a butt plug and must beg and beg and beg and . . . to let it out. That will usually be for at least 20 minutes of begging to let it out.

Yes, I do too. My ex and I used to almost always do our recreational/sexual enemas as Domme and sub, with me usually being the sub, enjoying doing a good deal of moaning and begging. Your technique of giving and holding your mutual enemas sounds like a very fun time. But I’m curious about some things. How long are you and your (wife/partner) holding your first simultaneous enema, and how much are you each holding? Any anal helper like a plug or DBC on your first ones? How much volume does the loser get on their second enema? How does sex and orgasms fit into this enema picture?

Thanks,

Eric

It doesn't happen anymore but a few years ago I was given a lavender soap enema while laying on my side hard as a rock. My wife stops the flow about ⅓ of the 4qts gone while she gets on the bed naked and cuddles up to my erection. I then penetrate her and slowly start the stokes while begging to start my enema again. Finally i click the flow and penetrate her while being told I must hold it until she cums. That makes me beg to stop the enema because it is going to be a few minutes for her to cum. Well I am ready to explode and cum so I can go expel and I do leaving her to finish herself. That was about the longest I held a fair amount of enema. I loved it, she not so much.

I make myself hold them, set a timer on my phone by swiping up to a random number. And don't let myself release before then. If I do release before the timer I'll take another enema to “replace” the one I just failed to hold. Sometimes if my wife is feeling dominant and in the mood to play and she hears me fail told hold it long enoug she'll come and make my next enema herself. Guaranteed to be extra soapy as a punishment also.