Enemas for the ladies

Okay, ladies, this one is for you!! I’m not sure whether it’s a “survey”, a need for some “stimulation”, or a request for help (probably this).

My SO (i.e. wife) is not into receiving. She is very comfortable giving, but I think the first, and only, time I got her to indulge, I may have been a little too forward and it didn’t turn her off per se but she didn’t have a pleasant or exciting experience. I need some guidance about how I can get her to try things again with, hopefully, a better outcome. So, I need/want to know what, or how you get turned on by being given an enema. Let’s try this systematically, to satisfy my need for structure, (Hope this isn’t too clinical, but I really would be happy to have her as part of my kink.)

Questions basically all boil down to “What turns you on (sexually) about getting an enema”?

Bottom line, how can I help my lovemate more amenable to participating with me in enjoying what I think is my ultimate kink? (Doesn’t that alliterate nicely…lol!!!)

Thanks all for your help. Guys, feel free to add to this, but I really want to get the ladies perspective!

This ones right up my canyon.

Nozzel long and bumpy medium or large bore faster fill less pressure long makes it easier to take. my fave. Ball Style Sealing Silicone Enema Douche Nozzle (siliconenozzles.com) I stick it in till there is just hose outside and my hole closes over the top of it.

Excitment Anticipating the enema watching the bag fill and the air being sent out of the hose. I lay down and close my eyes then feel the finger lubing me Usually sets me off . The insertion is a minor part of the experience .

Flow I do 4 quartz I feel presure a little after 3. At 4 I feel I have to go but enjoy the sensation and hold it in till it settles or I nearly erupt. Cramps are not a thing unless its done wrong the bag not totaly filled or the hose not filled with water first leaving air in the system.

Geting wet wile the bag is being filled sometimes later handling the nozzel.

Like the most. The sound of the water going in to me and feeling myself expand. The release when I am a lone just let it rip out blasting farts and gloop going AWWWWW ! Its embarrassing with company.

It is just recently I accepted having company wile doing my enema. It was allways a solo experience for years before that unless it was for a sceen in the play room. In the play room it is a control experience not the same as a plain gentle enema to poop or relax. Now I do it with my girl friend we do it together and recently like just this week had my Husband/ Master in the bathroom chating with me about geting a new satelite dish and actualy felt comfortable doing my enema with him there and evacuating infront of him. Before I would ask him to leave . Like I filled the bag and everything with him there and felt totaly normal. I feel proud of myself for that. It may become a together thing.

Making love. While holding I like light stuf just making out no penetration. After I have evacuated a good long fuck up the arse feels great. Wile holding I am not aposed to a vibrator in the cunt or a visit by MR Hatachi.

Fantasy I really just drift into the experience. A lone I like music and a blanket if its cold . I can lay there all warm inside and out for a long time all relaxed some days. Even nap filled up.

It is really up to your love mate. Some people just don't like having an enema or prefer doing it alone. Let her make the sceen. Possibly if she has more control like the choice of equipment it may be more of a safe experience. A little romance can go a long way. Please sweetie let me stick this up your arse anfd fill you with water pleaaaase! is not much of an enticement. Sort of sounds bad of me but well bribes can work wonders against inabitioins. I turn a little red admiting this vonerability.

You have a lot of questions so hopefully my answers will make sense to you:

What turns you on (sexually) about getting an enema? Everything, but I love the sensation of warmth as the enema fills me. I guess it might be a throwback to when I used an enema to calm my insides down when I suffered from PMS.

Nozzle? Type. Usually it's a standard adult rectal nozzle also a few years ago I got a barium type with a bulbous end that stays nicely in place on its own. I've been douching since college and cannot get into the idea that that nozzle would go into my other end.

Insertion? I honestly don't think twice about this and a well lubed nozzle just gently slips in.

Flow? First sensation of water, when you begin feeling or sensing fullness, when you start cramping or really getting uncomfortable? I really dislike cramps immensely so for me an enema has to be taken slowly and the bag hung low enough to not make filling uncomfortable. There is a learned feeling of fullness that is neither too much nor too little, but no other way to describe it.

When do you start getting wet? When do you start feeling “horny”? Can you believe when I am first inclined to take an enema? Getting the bag out, running the water, filling and hanging the bag all lend to me becoming ever more horny.

What do you really like most about the experience? Probably everything except the expulsion as I will frequently struggle to retain the enema. After all is said and done, however, a most enjoyable experience is soaking in our Jacuzzi tub and allowing my mind to just drift off to nowhere.

Do you make love while holding or after expelling? No, never during. Any lovemaking will come afterward as my excitement has been known to linger on for some time.

Do you fantasize and what about? Lots of things including some hunk giving me an enema, but also I reminisce about the times I have made love after earlier enemas. I like to set the mood and it might sound a bit crazy but I really enjoy putting on a CD and lighting a couple of scented candles in the bathroom.

Just some random thoughts...

Most ladies although they will seldom admit to it like a bit of anal stimulation.

An enema offers that in spades. Communication is key - discuss things like: I'd like this to be a fun experience that you enjoy.

ALWAYS use a gloved hand, lubing up the anus is KEY - take your time and massage using plenty of lube.

If this is not a 'usual' practice I'd try this: Tell her to take what she can until she feels the urge to expel - let her expel, re-fill the bag if necessary and start again - take lots of time. Even if this takes a few tries - that's fine.

Once she is filled with most of the bag put on a fresh glove, lube and massage her clit / vagina while she's holding.

Then go down on her clit while she's holding - most ladies will have an intense O when you do that.

Years ago I used this technique with a lady that had never had an orgasm, however the goal was to make that happen not just start enjoying erotic enemas.

BJ

The reason why I think there are few ladies at best on this site is because of all the FAKE women I have encountered over the 5+ years I have been on this site.

@ShamanE - it might be worth posting that the behaviour of some male members has been less than appealing to female members, and moderators have seen some of that today, with one predatory male member being removed from the site after a female member reported him regarding his conduct.. When they are treated badly by such toxic individuals, we often see the actual female members deterred from participating on the site. Often they just leave, wrongly believing nothing can be done.

I would also say that moderators should be contacted when fake female members are found, as we can't do it all by ourselves. Quite often we see male members complaining but doing next to nothing to assist us. It is in everyone's interests that the fake females are dealt with, but we tend not to get that kind of information.

So how about giving us some help? Wouldn't that be constructive?

It is not just that, there are far few, if any women on this site, and the ones that seem like women, but who really knows?

I have contributed much to this site, mainly with finding enema videos. And the moderators get so snippy and defensive, what a turn off. Part of the problem. The enema video genre seems to have collapsed altogether, who makes them anymore? Go ahead and threaten to kick me out for saying that there is no much exciting going on around here anymore... Cheeze louize

Why aren't women responding to this thread? This thread has turned into a banana fest, just like this site. Women, Where are you? come and save this site!!!

It is not just that, there are far few, if any women on this site, and the ones that seem like women, but who really knows?

There are women here, believe me. It's just that they often don't make as much noise as the males. Instead, they prefer only to read.

I have contributed much to this site, mainly with finding enema videos. And the moderators get so snippy and defensive, what a turn off.

Now hold it right there. I wasn't being snippy and defensive, I was inviting you to help us - if you can. I was telling you what the problem is regarding creating better conditions for female members to actually participate here. But if you aren't interested in helping us, I won't ask you again. Fine.

Go ahead and threaten to kick me out for saying that there is no much exciting going on around here anymore... Cheeze louize

I wasn't threatening to kick you out. Don't be ridiculous.

If any member has or see possible "fake females" or questionable members, let moderation know. As Drz said moderation can not do this alone. Members help, because fakes misbehave with other members more often, is needed in these types of issues. If you are not willing to help, then don't complain there is a problem.

Message sent @ShamanE .

I usually do an enema in a simple way. Standard bag, standard tip. It's no different if an enema was done in a hospital. Except for the excitement, of course.

@BigJane perfect scenario!!!!

Questions basically all boil down to “What turns you on (sexually) about getting an enema”?

Nozzle? Type (adult rectal, such as might be used with a regular bulb; douche, either the common fluted used with most douches, bulbous – larger end, or other; penis shaped – from a couple of inches to humongous; butt plug style – again from an couple inches to really big; or colon tube, from 15 inches or so on up? We most of the time like 90% of the time use the regular douche nozzle. We also have a colon tube we use sometimes. We also have some special nozzles but they don't get used very much. If you are taking a survey this is from four girls. Three of us live here and one lives here most of the time. We are normal ladies. I am a nurse, my sister is a banker, her girlfriend works at an auto parts store and one is a student.

Always fingers first with lube. Insertion? Stimulation of your anus (as in just when the nozzle is touching your butt and entering); feelings of longer “tubes” further up your rear? As far as longer tubes we noticed that it is different like when the water is going in it is much higher so there is not the urge to expell fast. But water is used while inserting the colon tube. It takes longer for the feeling of fullness.

Flow? First sensation of water, when you begin feeling or sensing fullness, when you start cramping or really getting uncomfortable?

When do you start getting wet? When do you start feeling “horny”? I can say this for all of us who live here. The wetness starts before even thinking about it happening. As far as being horny that would start before the enema and just thinking about it. Unless we are on our periods and not really horny before the enema starts but once it starts and we are being played with or masturbating then after it all starts we get horny.

What do you really like most about the experience? It is being open and embarrissed a little even if we all live here or all but one. It is a little embarrassing still if someone walks in on you. But that fades away fast.

Do you make love while holding or after expelling? I have only been masturbated and had toys used on me while holding, expelling, and after expelling.

Do you fantasize and what about? Nope because it is usually another giving so if we want the giver naked she will be. We can play while she is filling me even as far as facesitting. It's all good.

Bottom line, how can I help my lovemate be more amenable to participating with me in enjoying what I think is my ultimate kink? (Doesn’t that alliterate nicely…lol!!!) Have your lover help you. Have her insert the nozzle and masturbate you through the whole thing. Show her how much pleasure you get from it. I am explaining how I started. After I licked her and got her super horny and wet then I would insert a finger. Then a nozzle. I would watch her during the whole thing moaning and humping my finger and the nozzle. I did this for weeks and watcher her have major orgasms week after week until I got up the nerve to try it.

@Tabitha32 .Forgive me, but are enemas the "ultimate kink" or are they, and even more colonics, the "ultimate pamper"? Surely something which is so healthy and so pleasurable, should not be considered to be dirty? We all need to poop, some have difficulty with this. Feeling clean is so fantastic and may lead on to other pleasures. In humility.

@Tabitha32 Good hot reading your comment!!!! Same feelings here!

@Tabitha32

Love your descriptions so much.

I have read many of your posts and I can’t imagine a more sexually satisfying lifestyle than having access to three other women who enjoy the erotic aspects of pleasurable enemas.

Congratulations and keep them coming. (No pun intended.)

A few male members posts have been removed as the OP asks...

Okay, ladies, this one is for you!! I’m not sure whether it’s a “survey”, a need for some “stimulation”, or a request for help (probably this).

This topic is for the ladies to give their responses. Not the men.