This ones right up my canyon.
Nozzel long and bumpy medium or large bore faster fill less presure long makes it easier to take. my fave. Ball Style Sealing Silicone Enema Douche Nozzle (siliconenozzles.com) I stick it in till there is just hose outside and my hole closes over the top of it.
Excitment Anticipating the enema watching the bag fill and the air being sent out of the hose. I lay down and close my eyes then feel the finger lubing me Usualy sets me off . The insertion is a minor part of the experience .
Flow I do 4 quartz I feel presure a little after 3. At 4 I feel I have to go but enjoy the sensation and hold it in till it settles or I nearly erupt. Cramps are not a thing unless its done wrong the bag not totaly filled or the hose not filled with water first leaving air in the system.
Geting wet wile the bag is being filled sometimes later handling the nozzel.
Like the most. The sound of the water going in to me and feeling myself expand. The release when I am a lone just let it rip out blasting farts and gloop going AWWWWW ! Its embarasing with company.
It is just recently I accepted having company wile doing my enema. It was allways a solo experience for years before that uunles it was for a sceen in the play room.In the play room it is a control experience not the same as a plain gentle enema to poop or relax. Now I do it with my girl friend we do it together and recently like just this week had my Husband/ Master in the bathroom chating with me about geting a new satelite dish and actualy felt comfortable doing my enema with him there and evacuating infront of him. Before I would ask him to leave . Like I filled the bag and everything with him there and felt totaly normal. I feel proud of myself for that. It may become a together thing.
Making love .Wile holding I like light stuf just making out no penetration. After I have evacuated a good long fuck up the arse feels great. Wile holding I am not aposed to a vibrator in the cunt or a visit by MR Hatachi.
Fantasy I realy just drift into the experience. A lone I like music and a blanket if its cold . I can lay there all warm inside and out for a long time all relaxed some days. Even nap filled up.
It is realy up to your love mate. Some people just don't like having an enema or prefer doing it alone. Let her make the sceen. Posibly if she has more control like the choice of equipment it may be more of a safe experience. A little romance can go a long way. Please sweetie let me stick this up your arse anfd fill you with water pleaaaase! is not much of an enticement. Sort of sounds bad of me but well bribes can work wonders against inabitioins. I turn a little red admiting this vonerability.