Normal

Did anyone else grow up in a normal house and have an essentially normal childhood yet still ended up an ab/dl?

It seems like the popular psychological interpretation of AB/DL fetishism is that of a safety blanket or comfort or of people wanting to feel like a baby again with the implication that they weren't happy as a child. I've read this a lot on various websites etc and it just doesn't fit for me.

hmm... that sounds a bit mean, I don't wish to offend anyone, sorry if I have. I'm distinctly abnormal and proud of it it's just that my childhood was typical (I think)

What is "Normal" ?

Most people think they are "Normal", but most people do many abnormal things. For example, Make love but do not want to have baby, do an unhappy job and spend the earned money on some happy things, smoke even they know it harms, ...

I do think I am abnormal because I would not say I am Normal.

If you think about the advantages of wearing diapers, you can find many many advantages and reasons. I can say, I know the advantages of wearing diapers; therefore, if I hate wearing that good stuff on earth, I am stupid.

Most smart guys are "Abnormal", most normal people are poor or losers 😜

Heh, I've got to agree with all that.

I mean, lots of people trace their fetish back to an event or pattern in their childhood which doesn't happen to most people (ie those people who aren't ab/dl) and I can't trace mine to any event I can remember...

I had a normalupbringing untill 19 then it was alot of mediclaproblems that have not stoped for a long time now still going on in life but childhood was normal except for my ass woopings but hey i desrved them i was a jerk back then LOL!!!!

I agree with you Diaper7. What is Normal? What one thinks is normal. Another would say it was abnormal or bizarre. I think I'm normal living my life the way I do. I'm happy as a diapered sissy. Other people thinks I'm abnormal and bizarre,but I could care less anymore what those narrow-minded people think. The way I see it is if you are happy with your life. Who cares what other people think.

Get to were you're happy and feel good, forget the rest. And as long as what you do don't cause others harm. You here that allot in religion, God wants you to be happy" So, if you have a happy place....

Well a short and widely excepted answer to what normal is, would be, "what everyone else is doing".

If that is true Luvs. Then wearing diapers and being an AB or DL is normal, but society says it isn't normal and that it is weird. Does anyone here think they are weird because they like to wear diapers and be an AB or DL? As for me. I don't think I'm weird.

Hi,

I understand your question since we have a perception that our fetish is triggered from abnormal circumstances.

I had a normal family upbringing ie dad, mum, 3 siblings and good grades at school, however the feelings which involve us in this behavior are similar (in a lot smaller scale)to those who have had an abnormal upbringing which causes us to think that us having a normal life shouldn't be so.

Maybe if those not 'normal' had a 'normal' childhood they would not have been into this

I had a pretty "normal" childhood, I think. I have just always been attached to diapers.

-Sky

Non of us are normal. there is no such thing as normal, because if normal is real than the people who are 'Normal' would look, talk exactly the same.

Normality is an illusion. No group of people can fit every standard as defined by their society.

But for the sake of this subject, we can take a normal childhood to mean free of abuse or condescension from parents and caretakers, relatively free of trauma.

In this case, yes, I come from a normal childhood. My fascination for the diaper didn't stem from any kind of regression, as far as I knew. I just enjoyed peeing my pants. Even now, I'm what you'd call a normal adult. I have a job, academic aspirations and a good family. But I still like peeing my pants!

I grew up perfectly normal till the age of 7 when i first went back into diapers. my parents didn't and still do not know that i am a DL.

I grew up in a house where diaper wearing was the farthest thing from anyone's mind, until my accidents started happening more frequently. Then it was just a joke that my folks were going to put me back into diapers.

Now, I wear diapers 24/7 all the time. Oh, and I'm AB/DL.

babyalex

I didnt have all that normal a childhood...very late potty training and lots of accidents...

although i think divorced families are more the norm nowadays...

Maybe it came from bieng the oldest of six but I just loved looking at the different plastic panties hanging out on clothlines back in the 50's or watching babies getting their diapers changed or even girls playing with dolls and changing it's diapers but I think that I have always wanted to be a baby

It must be hard to really define normal

Like most replies here I consider my upbringing very normal. I was rejected however in small ways but over a long period of time. By the time I was 8-9 I considered myself invisible. My the time I was 15 in desperation I had swallowed a great big handful of pills. So I had my own challenges. But I think those around me were a=only behaving in generally accepted ways. Lets call that 'The Normal'.

I think the question is a great one. Specifically because the psyc. that is avail is of the opinion that something must have happened to trigger this behavior. The Normal does not desire diapers. That is true. But doesn't validate anyone. The Normal wears cotton briefs and looks for a 'stranger' in a night club. I wear a diaper and stop for the groceries for my family after work. I guess what I'd like to say is that normal has a generally accepted perception of being good. But we all know it doesn't equal good. It's just the common perception. AND since our brain is logical the inverse is a perception as well. Not The Normal equals not good. Even for those who don't admit it od don't agree with it, it is the social dividing line. You stay on that side and you're ok. Venture over the other side and you are Not ok.

oops rambling again. sorry but it your still reading you'll see me do this a lot...

I Also saw a post that said they thought of this as a preference. I agree with that hole heartedly. I mean I often pull on my briefs and sometime I feel like pulling on my diaper. Its like a preference for cream in your coffee(or tea for the wonderful Brits reading). You like what you like. Simple as that.

The closest I saw to any explanation that I agreed with was a psyc. article describing their theory of bonding. At some point all of us, for whatever many and varied reasons, bonded or attached to our diaper. We are just too stubborn to give them up. We want them and thats pretty much it. Some people attach to money, some to other things, most think they should have attached to people.

Way More Than Enough for now. Sorry to be so long winded.

My upbringing would probably fit in almost anybody's definition of 'normal'. In fact that it was so 'normal' that it is probably abnormal.

I had a mom, dad, and older brother. We had a dog, went to church (not every week, but enough that I knew what it was about), I played baseball and football, and most importantly I wasn't either physically, or emotionally abused by my family. In fact, my family has been extremely supportive, and we are still very close.

I actually grew up in an almost Mayberry environment (that is long story, but essentially it was an isolated small town where everyone knew each other). I also didn't really wet my bed much later than usual, but was potty trained later than what most people would consider normal (almost 4).

Yet, despite the extreme normalcy of my upbringing, I never really felt 'normal'. I've had leanings towards diapers almost since I stopped using them. I've become fairly successful in my adult life, and have a lot of good friends who respect and trust me, but have always fought self-confindence.

But I don't think my AB/DL desires have much to do with my upbringing. I was the youngest child, and my parents gave me a fair amount of attention (not over attention, but more than my brother). Even though I didn't have bedwetting issues when I was younger, I wasn't potty trained till nearly 4 years old. Maybe it was because I was allowed longer than usual in the 'baby' mode that made me the way I am.

Like i said qwhat is normal cuz everyone seems to think that their up bringing was normal inm not trying to cause a fight i am thinking that everyone's opinion of normal is different if im correct?

"Normal is what everybody else is doing" "Individuality is OK, as long as we're all doing it together" 😄 😄 😄

That's just a funny line I remember from an old TV show. But, it holds some truth as to how some people view things.

Maybe this is too cinical of me,but I think nowadays it is not so much parents or school that tells us how we should be, it is television that is the main culprit. 😮

History repeatedly shows that when anybody tries to take over a country the first place they aim to get control of is the television/radio and newspapers. For example What happened with President Gorbachev.When there was that Coup!

Television tells everybody what is fashionable to wear,eat,drink,how to be a perfect lover ,what to believe,who our enemies are.etc.and the so called normal population gulps it all down and copies the tv stars.The day you see the weather girl on CNN walking about with just a diaper on everyone will start wearing them you just watch 😎

I think that I am perfectally 'normal'. 😃 I have a medical problem caused by long term diabetes and I pee all the time and just can't hold it! :'( I wore catheters and a leg bag for a long time until I started getting sores on my pee pee :'( :'( : I wore diapers until the sore healed and found that I liked the diapers. I am now a diaper lover and would not change even if I could. I truly do love wearing diapers and plastic panties with a onesie to hold up my soaked diapers. I can even understand why others that don't have a 'need' like to wear diapers. I feel very confident, comfortable and secure when wearing a diaper and wear a diaper 24/7. WE are 'normal', society is out of touch! 😜

I grew up in a reasonable house with both parents. I was spanked when I did wrong (and it worked), never had any really traumatic events occur (I was well adjusted). I had/have ADD and constantly got in trouble in school, not necessarily for being below avergae intelligence but for being above average and not "applying myself".

I had loving parents, and good friends (but there's one I blame for interesting me in BDSM).

In my daily life I am a normal college student. Sometimes I just like the feeling of a wet diaper between my legs.

I had about as normal an upbringing as anyone else. Not abused, not humiliated, and not diapered after the normal age. I have never been able to pin down what the cause was. But after 48 years and a few years of therapy I realized that everyone has something. What sticks in your brain and causes you to trip your trigger on some obsession is a mystery. Accept it and move on.

There is nothing wrong with a diaper fetish. There is something wrong with letting your fetish overwhelm your life where you don't live it. And there is probably something wrong with a deep seated feeling that you are somehow not normal because you happen to have this fetish. Not intending to offend with this post, just making an observation.

I grew up in a normal household (middle class family, parents both had jobs, lived in a house, 1 sibling, small town where everyone knew about everyone else). "Normal"

I didn't wet the bed and wasn't forced to wear diapers. Even though I grew up in a boring "normal" family and town I still got into diaper play.

I too had a "normal" family and upbringing and lead a "normal" life. But I have recollections at age 4 or about then of being put in diapers at night, and seeing them well messed when I woke up in the morning. I think I was given some medicine at night time but don't remember any details, but based on the results it must have been a good dose of a laxative. It was the time I started allergies and my mother had advice from a nurse friend. When I began to ask for them it all stopped. Sadly. But making up for lost time now.

I wonder how many of us had similar experiences but at an age too young to recall. Diapers are a supreme pleasure now especially at night, but no one knows about it.

If you are truly happy in your life and that may include diapers and other things and you do, or wish no harm to anyone and you support yourself and others around you, then you are better than normal! 😃 😃 😘

I grew up in a normal house with a normal family who did normal things just like everyone else. The only difference between our family and most others I knew was that I was a chronic bedwetter. I am certain that this has a direct bearing on my love of nappies and all things wet. Move on 40 years and I can't say is was too worried when my urologist told me my incontinence was incurable and I was refered to the continence nurse to help me live with the problem.

Geeze, Is there such a thing as a "Normal" childhood. I don't think it's possible to have a "normal" childhood. Firstly because no one got the book on how to have a normal childhood. Even the books that were written like one by Dr Spock have come to be seen as epic fails. LOL.... Society itself doesn't know what normal is.....

We all have different personalities. Some if it has to be from aspects outside family life such as genetics. So with parents still quite youthful themselves, it's practically impossible to create a "normal" childhood for them.

I always felt that I had a normal childhood. Loving parents, reasonable discipline and a genuine family environment. Even in that environment I emerged with some scars. I think it's inevitable. Therapy later in life due to overwhelming stress and an ensuing breakdown uncovered all sorts of emotional bumps and bruises. ABDL? Well. who knows. Like I've said in other posts I believe it is largely "if it feels good do it". What I mean is, when we a little and our brain is empty there are things that feel good and things that don't. Wetting your diaper feels good. Diaper rash doesn't. Mommy feels good. Daddies beard doesn't. We imprint on these things and even apply them to our unconscious picture of what we are sexually. It's been shown that even infants are sexually aroused. So, it's not too hard to believe that some of us have been imprinted by these preconscious sensations and have applied them unconsciously to our personality. Then later in life they come floating up like some ghost. As we grow and age in childhood the physical changes in our body create opportunities for these hidden aspects to surface in our personality. For me it was as nearly uncontrollable desires to play with diapers. (WHoowee do they ever feel good!!!).

So normal or not, shi* happens. For us it's diapers. YAAAY!!!!