Giving 1st Soapy Enema to Spouse or Girl Friend

Pretty sure this has not been discussed.. It was always one of my dreams to find a woman who would let me give her enemas. Eventually finding that, I should have been forever happy...right? Nope, seems I then wanted to find a gal who was into soapy enemas. Suffice it to say I did find a few, however short those encounters were.

Dr Bonner's or Ivory would be the best to use. They are likely to be the most pure. If it's her first time don't make it to strong and over do it. Pain will make no gain with her..and will likely be a turnoff. Try some Dr Bonner's peppermint. It's usually pleasurable if you don't force it. Set aside an hour or more time and give her a coffee enema with a retention nozzle. Do it very slowly and rub her down all over with a warm lotion. She will like it. 👍

I am still searching for a female that lives close for discreet meetings and enema enjoyment. Have met one on this site that hopefully we can meet someday, but there is a distance problem. I sure wish she lived close, as I know we could have fun times together.

I sure wish she lived close, as I know we could have fun times together.

Don't we all wish that!

I have given my wife several enemas over the decades, the last one over 20 years ago. She recently had surgery and I had hoped that constipation would set in. It did but she got on miralax and while I came close to breaking the bag out, it didn't happen. If I were you I would be happy with what you have, but some girls can deal with soap suds without too much of a problem. I hope you don't ruin a good thing.

It was always one of my dreams to find a woman who would let me give her enemas. Eventually finding that, I should have been forever happy...right? Nope, seems I then wanted to find a gal who was into soapy enemas. Suffice it to say I did find a few, however short those encounters were.

Aren't you a greedy little thing wanting more and then more. 😜 .

Be patient. Be kind and loving while starting out with plain water enemas. Added ingredients will only complicate the experience. Especially if it is a first time or even a beginning receiver. Be happy enough with what you already do have, but don't stop hoping for more.

I know my sub would just love to put a hose in my ass, slowly put water in my belly, watch the bag empty, and fuck me while it is happening. But my knowing that is not enough to get me to let him do it...just yet.

Aren't you a greedy little thing wanting more and then more. 😜 .

Ha, yes and funny/sad that I'm never satisfied once I get something I want sexually. I see I should have written my post better as it seems like I'm still waiting to give someone that soapy enema... but I was lucky and achieved my goal of finding and having at different times in my life, not one but two soapy enema virgin gals and got to give them their very first Ivory soapy enemas!

I know my sub would just love to put a hose in my ass, slowly put water in my belly, watch the bag empty, and fuck me while it is happening. But my knowing that is not enough to get me to let him do it...just yet.

Key word there seems to be "yet". It sounds to me like it is only a matter of time. Didn't he enema you when pregnant? It seems I read that somewhere.

Key word there seems to be "yet". It sounds to me like it is only a matter of time.

Not very soon at all. But I try to not break his heart because one day it might just happen.

Didn't he enema you when pregnant? It seems I read that somewhere.

He did. But there was no sexual activities involved. Hence why he got even less enjoyment and seemed disappointed to have to do them. They became very clinical by the second child.

I know my sub would just love to put a hose in my ass, slowly put water in my belly, watch the bag empty, and fuck me while it is happening. But my knowing that is not enough to get me to let him do it...just yet.

MissStress,

As you probably recall, I've always found you an intriguing very sexy couple and love reading about your enemas and sex life. I'm always glad to read about you both getting different kinds of enjoyment when you give him enemas, especially big ones. It's very similar to my ex-wife being Domme and giving me large prolonged enemas as her sub after subjecting me to all our other kinks (rubber suits, hoods, gloves, sneakers, gas or diving masks, bondage) to arouse me intensely even before starting my enemas. We both loved it.

But I honestly keep hoping that you'll give him and I truly hope yourself some great satisfaction when you let him enjoy filling your belly and fucking you during your enema like I did for my same ex after she revealed getting enemas from me was a lifelong dream of hers. And she really did love them and having orgasms while full of them. Obviously mine was asking for it whereas I recall you really don't like enemas or has that changed at all for you if he were to give them to you? So I'm honestly curious as to what's keeping you from trying it - 1) so much real dislike of enema feelings that you wouldn't even enjoy it at all even as part of arousal and sex? (Obviously your sub and I love them, but what exactly do you not like?) 2) desire to remain as Domme and keep him totally submissive? 3) other causes?

Thank you for reading,

Eric

@ericmacson I will message you the answers to not derail this topic any more than it is.

@MissStress: Aren't you a greedy little thing wanting more and then more. 😜 .

So once I began giving soapy enemas to my gal, I then got the idea of using Vicks instead of Vaseline to lube her anus and nozzle. I loved the way the scent of Vicks could be smelled outside the bathroom door while the soapy enemas was doing it's job...

@ericmacson I will message you the answers to not derail this topic any more than it is.

I'm obviously not a good judge of what derails things. Thanks for the note. Thanks for the straight, informative and interesting answer. I hope you both have a great marriage and keep having fun together. I wish i was as good at it as you are and I don't mean the kink. That's the easy part. 😊

All the best,

Eric

I won't go into all the TMI, but the first time I gave my husband an enema, we'd been married a couple of years. We were both in our mid 20s. My first experience giving him an enema, and it was legitimate because he was constipated that he didn't tell me about for about four days, was a combination of high anxiety on my part, refusal at first on his part, a minor fight, resolve on my part (we're going to do this), whining on his part, then I got him to relax, even though I was afraid that I might hurt him. He was being a bit wimpy, but I worked through his cramps without too much discomfort, and when he gushed out alone in the bathroom, I was so relieved, and so is he. I made him a cup of chamomile tea and he slept the entire afternoon. We laughed together about the experience that evening. He has never been in love with enemas ( although he definitely likes giving them to me when needed), but that broke the ice, and he since it's been at least a semi-willing patient over the years in rare times when he has needed help down there.

I've read your posts over the years and I have to say your attitude on enemas is refreshing. The nurse did you a big favor by showing you the way when you were injured and made sure your husband knew how to keep you moving. I grew up getting enemas and hating them butt got fixated on giving. I hate them to this day and will do anything to avoid one. This includes lying to the nurse that I had a movement when hospitalized. I really love to give them though and in that respect your husband is a lucky guy.