I dream of having the courage to tell her I need enema play

I wish I had the courage to open up and let my gf know I love enema play. For that matter, she still doesn't know that I love to cross dress and to wear diapers. How does one open up and start to let her know just how much joy it would bring to be the recipient of a nice slow sensual enema?

I would let her discover something “mild” like the enema bag or an article of clothing that you like to wear. I would not go all out until you see how she reacts. Don’t freak her out by coming into the bedroom in full makeup, diaper carrying a soapy enema bag. That’s a bit of a culture shock.

Something mild bight be a bottle of enema soap, an enema article on the net “accidentally” left on the monitor and so on. You know her better than I do so you should know by now about what to not do.

Welll, I'll try it as soon as the courage level is at its highest. 😃

Your best bet here is to be open and honest, she'll probably find out sooner or later. And who knows, you might get a very positive response 😄

This article and website may have some relevance:

http://elisesutton.homestead.com/page3.html

The title of this article is "How To Introduce Your Wife or Girlfriend To The Female Domination Lifestyle" written by Elise Sutton, who has lots of expertise in the arena of female superiority.

I also have the problem of telling my girlfriend I like enemas and more. Just wish I had done it when I met her!!

Very good and interesting article 😃 😉

I let my wife catch me doing an enema and was ready to tell her I needed one. I had a stomachache, she did not seam to mind . I had just got her used to the fact of me wearing panties. Just come out and tell her . I do not know how long you have been together .She found out after about 4 yrs for enemas and 32 yrs about panties!! Good luck

It tends to be the submissive husband of your dreams, not hers. The hardest thing for me is keeping my mouth shut and letting my wife direct the play. If you can do that you will have your dreams come true, maybe not ezackly the way you envisioned but true and best of all REAL. For starters see if you can get in some talk of fantasy or tell her you found a cool thing on the net and point her to whatever that is. The other suggestions about patience are very good, remember this is a love thing! jeeter

I have been fantasizing about this for years and as of yet haven't had the courage to bring up the subject. I am hoping to get lots of female perspectives on this website on how best to approach the subject.

What I am trying to figure out first is what attracts women to be interested in giving or receiving enemas? Any thoughts?

I have been in the same situation with my first wife,finally after ten years,I told her everything about how I got started with enemas and how much I enjoyed them.The first words my wife said was,''why did you wait so long to tell me,and can we do it together''

The best way to handle your fear is to think of the worst thing that could happen if your gf rejected your love of enemas.You could start off by inviting her to help you take your enema and see how she reacts,if your lady dos'nt freak out,you're half way there.This whole idea of having your lady accept enemas might be a slow process,then again maybe not,but you'll never know until you try.To do nothing will only will only keep you dreaming.Let the good times flow.w/m72yrs/W.MA

What I am trying to figure out first is what attracts women to be interested in giving or receiving enemas? Any thoughts?

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My husband introduced me to it. Basically I was introduced in a very matter of fact way. He asked me if I would allow him to show me. He explained to me that he would enjoy anal sex more and he also told me that he would be willing to allow me to do the same for him (hint hint).

My first experience was very positive. For me it is the ultimate in both submission and control.

As for giving, again, to me, it is submission. He is Mr. Macho.. and his willingness to particpate is a real turn on for me. I don't know if he knows that for me it is more pleasure than it is prep. Since he introduced it to me, I suspect he had either self administered or had someone particpate before. I have never asked but, since I had never given before, it was helpful for him to tell me what he was doing as he went along.

I still enjoy the "instructions" and often it makes the whole experience even more gratifying.

Good advice. I have never been shy approaching anything else in my life. Why this? Perhaps because my wife and I have such a wonderful relationship and I don't want to screw it up.

You are right though. Now is the time--and I will start tonight... fill you in on the results soon.

Thanks for your response.

It not easy to tell someone you care about that you in and need enemas so just take it easy

It took me a long time to talk to my wife about my love of enemas.I never convinced her to take them however she will give them to me on request.We also progress to a strap on dildo and that is another story on its own 😃 😃

My wife of 35+ years is the true love of my life. I'd do anything for her. She's an R.N. and because of that she has to give many enemas. Over the years she has told me that she'll help me from time to time but she won't go so far as to get the enema ready. So, I get it ready and tell her and she'll give it to me ... every once in a while. I try to not have her do them for me too often. I don't want her to cut them off altogether. I have a fountain syringe, a combination and a douche bulb. When I get really desperate I'll get the douche bulb and the fountain or combo ready and have her give me a mineral oil enema with the bulb and then several rinses with the bag. She seems to know that I enjoy the enemas but has no interest in getting them.

Tell her ur conistipated for long time and u need good cleaning

If she is an RN, I am surprised you have a problem with telling her that. Especially if she gives enemas regularly!

Ask her!

Easy to introduce a partner to enema play:

1) bring up the subject in general ("I heard that some people..." / "I knew someone who...")

2) observe reaction.

A) Freaked and judgmental? Back off the personal, and stay at a very general level, and just educate them for the time being.

B) Positive? Get a bit more specific ("maybe we should try it, wink?") Go back to 2 and repeat!

The above method is also great to broach erotic modeling, and many other things. I recommend it to my models. It has been field-tested, and works great! 😃

The biggest "problem" with the "easy" method suggested above is that it doesn't always work as intended, and it is more suitable when checking out potential partners 😉. The best approach to get a partner into "something", including enemas, is an individual approach depending on the relation and knowledge about his/her interests you already have. By the way, even if you get a freaked/judgemental reaction at first it really doesn't mean it is a lost case at all!

Interesting thread; I'm scared to death myself as my gf hinted that such things as enemas was "perverted" or some such pejorative so it might take some doing or it might just be one of those things kept secret. We really don't know everything about another person do we, maybe we shouldn't.

A lot of "scared guys" is what I'm hearing in this thread... I say, don't be scared: provide a little education first, then be bold - women typically love confident guys who lead sexually!

In casting prospective models (usually first-timers) for my films, I can't tell you how many times I've heard stories like, "I have a pair of handcuffs in my drawer; I wish my boyfriend would use them on me..." I've learned that a lot of guys are rather shy about tying up their girlfriends or lovers! Perhaps they wait for their girlfriend to ask - but often that's not going to happen! A key element of their desire is for you to TAKE THE INITIATIVE!

I know that this thread is about enemas rather than bondage. But the concept is similar - I've met oodles of women, and most of them prefer guys who aren't timid.

Enemas are less understood than bondage by most people, so be ready and be quick to interject brief explanations as needed.

Just do it, and PROJECT CONFIDENCE.

You're not the kind who asked before that first kiss, are you? 😉

A lot of "scared guys" is what I\'m hearing in this thread... I say, don\'t be scared: provide a little education first, then be bold - women typically love confident guys who lead sexually

That's perhaps a fine approach when you are not married. Then at worst you loose a partner and start over again.

But when married there is more at stake. And being bold and confident does not necessarily translate into more acceptance or accord between husband and wife. There are far too many factors at play in such a relationship to think it work on principles that may be fine for dating and tentative relationships ...

This will only work if there is something there on the part of both. Otherwise you might end up with nothing but grudging acceptance and a growing resentment.