His Cock Should Be Your Responsibility

I'm of the belief that:

If you're being intimate with a man, whether being sexual, during sexual activity, foreplay, etc, the man should never have to take his own cock in his own hand. To me it means you're not doing your job. And if he's doing it out of a habit or a felt necessity, that's a problem he has that you, being a sexual partner of his, should help him overcome.

Has it happened to you, where the man you're with starts jacking himself? How did you feel about it? Did you feel that you should have been the one stimulating him ?

Thoughts?

Great topic. I agree 100 percent.

Seriously! Maybe if he’s still flaccid, he’s just trying to get ready for you! Think of it that way!

No! It’s our responsibility. My cock and my wife’s pussy are shared equally by both of us and are pleasured by both of us. We both handled my cock for arousal, insertions, orally anally or whatever. We both fingered her pussy and ass prior to insertion. We both masturbated together , that was hot. I jo’ed on her body while she rubbed my balls or fingered my ass and fingered herself. I did for her as well when she masturbated. She wasn’t required to be responsible for my arousal, nor me hers. We just did what the moment called for. Expecting one or the other to be responsible for your performance is a bit sexist. It just worked for us.

Expecting one or the other to be responsible for your performance is a bit sexist.

The point I'm trying to make is that your partner should not HAVE TO get himself or herself off, if you're there. If they want to, that's a different story. But they shouldn't have to feel it necessary in order to get off.

Of course the "different story" being, that if they feel the need to get themselves off vs letting you do it, I'm suspicious that it may very well be because you just don't have the right touch, and i would be suggesting parenthetically that it should be something you would want to work on.

I mean, isn't the point of being with a partner to pleasure each other? And isn't the point of pleasuring oneself because a partner is not around ? I mean, there's nothing wrong with partners playing with themselves as part of the session. But if it is necessary for them in order to get themselves off, then quite frankly, I have to say that I find that pretty pathetic.

And as far as your little "sexist" label, I was also thinking of men being with men. I for one don't like when I'm with a man and he starts stroking himself. I immediately take over, either with my own hand or with my mouth. In fact, a man I was with yesterday started stroking himself at one point. Which is what precipitated me creating this discussion thread. Because I take ownership over pleasuring my partner. I see that, and my mental reaction is "Hey, that's MY job". And the point of this thread was seeing if others can relate to that sentiment. Which obviously you don't, and that's okay.

@Jtmac said

I'm of the belief that:

If you're being intimate with a man, whether being sexual, during sexual activity, foreplay, etc, the man should never have to take his own cock in his own hand. To me it means you're not doing your job. And if he's doing it out of a habit or a felt necessity, that's a problem he has that you, being a sexual partner of his, should help him overcome.

Has it happened to you, where the man you're with starts jacking himself? How did you feel about it? Did you feel that you should have been the one stimulating him ?

Thoughts?

The sentence I took issue with was "To me it means you're not doing your job". I get the intent that your partner should be arousing you, but it's a joint effort and if you or your partner doesn't become aroused you shouldn't blame them. I should have used the word "selfish" in place of "sexist" as I think it is selfish to expect your partner to be responsible for your arousal. There were times (very few) when I or my wife were not in the mood for sex. Sometimes we accommodated each others, sometimes we didn't. Soetimes we tried and weren't successful. No-one was to blame or made to feel inadequate. We sometimes started masturbating ourselves as a trigger and turn on for each other. Maybe I read more into your statement than what you intended.

No! It’s our responsibility. My cock and my wife’s pussy are shared equally by both of us and are pleasured by both of us. We both handled my cock for arousal, insertions, orally anally or whatever. We both fingered her pussy and ass prior to insertion. We both masturbated together , that was hot. I jo’ed on her body while she rubbed my balls or fingered my ass and fingered herself. I did for her as well when she masturbated. She wasn’t required to be responsible for my arousal, nor me hers. We just did what the moment called for. Expecting one or the other to be responsible for your performance is a bit sexist. It just worked for us.

I agree with this. There are going to be times when the other person isn't in the mood and you are. Deal with it, it happens