Yes, I really Am Incontinent

One member of this forum has sent a number of personal messages, but I have not responded. Please do not be insulted, but I will not answer questions except in a public forum. It is my way and I do not intend to change it. No personal responses.

In the last message I was asked if I was really incontinent, and the answer is yes. At night I bedwet about 4-5 times a week. During the day, I have some control, but I often do not have enough warning to make it to the toilet unless I am fairly close. Therefore I now wear diapers 24/7. I would much rather have someone know I am wearing a diaper than have an accident.

In my family, there are 5 of us, we all have small bladders. I have one younger sister (16 now) that does not have the problem. She has been out of diapers since she was 3, except for long trips, etc. At 7 my mother stopped having her wear diapers for that because she had not used the diapers she was made to wear for the 2 years before that. She did not mind wearing them, but neither mom, dad or her felt that she needed them. When it became her choice on whether to wear diapers or panties, she chose the panties. Only once when she did not feel good did she ask to wear a diaper. She had no accidents and so she never asked for them again. I was 13 at the time, and it was before I became completely comfortable with my diapers and I will admit, I was jealous. But I did not want her to have to wear them if they were not needed.

In my home, wearing diapers have been considered a normal thing. We just understood that if we wet, we wore diapers. We had to be dry for 2 months at night before it was considered safe to go without a night time diaper. If we had more than two accidents in a month, we had to go back to diapers until we were reliably dry. It was for practical reasons, not punishment. If we had daytime accidents, we had to go back to daytime diapers for a week if we had more than 2 in a month. We always had the choice of wearing a diaper at other times if we felt we might have a problem. It was not considered an accident if we wet or soiled the diaper on those occasions. Both mom and dad were bedwetters into their teens so they are very understanding.

I wear diapers because it is the sensible thing to do. I am just thankful that I am comfortable with it now, and fact I enjoy them at times.

Well carla i know your pain kinda !!! so for your troules in life imgiving you a point for it. hope it helps brighten your spirits. We still like ya no matter you underwear panties or diapers. So cheer up and have fun. Im like you i hated needing them but grew to love them somehow. I think its the comfort of knowing im not going to wet my pants in public or in front of someone. i dont wear during the day anymore thank god, got better at least during the day time. but night time diapers are for protection just in case not alot but every now and then ill have a slip up and it brings peace of mind to know im not going to wake up in a wet bed 😁!!!!

Hi carla, I too am incontient and wear 24/7. There is not much I can do about it so I just deal with it. I am married and my wife is very understanding about my problems, which I supose make me very lucky to find someone like that, but it took a long time. Remember you are who you are and if you are comfortable with that you don't need to justify yourself to any one, especially some of the more anoying people on the board. take care

Jay aka durgan87 😃

Ha Carla ,I wanted to let you know that I am truely incontinent to and have been in baby diapers all my life.I could not imagine life without diapers.I wear 24/7 365.

I started off Being a DL but now I have to wear. It just came out of the blue and I started having accidents all the time. I absolutly hated it so much because now I didn't have a choice now I had to wear them and in public. It was very hard starting out and it really did not make me feel like a man anymore. But I am finally am comfortable with it and excepted it. I realize that 99.9 percent of people wouldn't even notice. The only time some one ever caught me was changing in the family bathrooms, because the stupid lock didn't work. That has happend to me twice. The first time I got caught I was at the mall and I had a accident so I went into the family bathrooms to change. They are right inbetween the reg bathrooms and when you open the door there is a big room and two doors to two seperat bathrooms. Well I went in and one was out of order so I went into the other and changed. I heard the outdoor open and didn't think anything of it until a lady opened the door and I had my wet diaper on the floor and I had my shirt lifted up so I could clean my self and she saw everything she closed the door really quick with this shocked look on her face. SO I could hear her talking to her friends about what happend and I got really embarrased. I got cleaned up and a new diaper on and I walk out and there was a line of girls mostly my age in line to use the bathroom becuase they closed the female bathroom to clean it. I was so embarrassed and blushed really bad becuase they were all smiling at me and to make things worse the trash can was full so they could see my wet diaper on top when they went in there. The other was some really young mom came in with her kid and saw me this time I was just pulling my pants up so she just saw me in my diaper. SHe appologized to me like a billion times. I hope they get the lockes fixed. I just decided that I wasn't going to care what others thought anymore. But besides that the people that did notice were other people that had to wear them too. Sorry so long. but we can't let them win. If they know it bothers us they might bother some one else who just can't handle it. We got to stick together.

Do you ever get tired of being incontinent?

Yes I do get tired of it. Although I sm a DL I do not like being Incontinent. I have learned to except it and deal with it but there are times when it gets to me. My girlfriend loves me dearly even though she knows I am a DL and Incontinent. But me being in a diaper isn't the biggest turn on for her ether, some times that can get to her and me. I don't blame her and she doesn't blame me. She knows it is a med thing. Plus the minor enconvience having to wear on can be.

I don't mind being incontinent at all. It never bothers me.