Rude Doctor

One of my friends went to gynec today. She is trying to get pregnant. It was only second time she saw a gynec. She thought the Dr will do a pelvic and asking to get a TVU etc ( for fertility issues) so when she changed into gown she didn't remove her bra. Even the nurse didn't say anything. But when the doctor examined her. She started with breast exam and asked to undo her gown from top she saw the bra and she literally screamed at my friend. "Why are you still in bra. Why didn't you take it off. Are you a young girl that you have to be told this. She almost pulled her bra off.

When my friend called today she was almost crying so I can understand how she may have felt in front of the doctor. I mean the doctor should have been very polite looking at the nature of her job. She is going to examine the most intimate area of the patient. Not everyone is comfortable with it especially in my country. And owing to the current situation my friend has been extremely tensed in going to a hospital.

On top of this getting scolded was totally unacceptable. I told her not to go to that Dr again.

What would you have done?

That's terrible and should not ever happen. Respect leads to trust, but disrespect causes trauma.

I had a similar thing happen a few years ago, although it was not quite as offensive. I was in the hospital in a gown and had not yet removed my boxers. A physician's assistant came in the room and just ripped them off without asking. I was in a great deal of pain at that time, otherwise I might have been embarrassed.

There are many health care professionals with a terrible bedside manner. They can be the best doc in the world but if they make the patient uncomfortable they might as well be the worst. I would find another Doc.

Who cares if they are rude, if they know their stuff? I could care less.

I wouldn't want some gushing, patronizing doctor who wasn't any good.

I have posted in the past that I want the best trained, most experienced, thorough doctor I can find. I don't care what their sex or age is and they do not need a great bedside manner. They are my physicians, the protectors of my health. They do not have to be my friend.

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There are many health care professionals with a terrible bedside manner. They can be the best doc in the world but if they make the patient uncomfortable they might as well be the worst. I would find another Doc.

I do not consider "making the patient uncomfortable" the same as being rude.

Being rude is not a big turn-off. Making the patient uncomfortable or unreasonably excited is worse.

If the doctor was well qualified, I would most likely stay with him or her.

I would overlook their personality traits.

I agree that the Dr should be knowledgeable.Thats above everything else.

But in this case,the Dr could have just said please take the bra off. Getting examined intimately can make anyone anxious. She could have just simply asked to take it off. What's the need to scream and pulling it off.

Wearing a bra under the gown isn't a crime

Moreover if the dr was so specific about "nothing underneath the gown" the nurse could have told.

I don't blame the nurse though

Even where I go, I am not told "take everything off" every time

This is the Reason why I never ever go alone to see any Dr. My husband would have interfeared with such manners.

I would have walked out and then filed a complaint with her licencing body.

I would have walked out and then filed a complaint with her licencing body.

Here, that complaint would go right into the circular file.

I have known many doctors who were abrasive, crude, or rude. Some were excellent clinicians / surgeons, others were not. I understand the frustration, though. I prefer my docs to be expert and I put up with the occasional bedside manner that is not what we expect.

On the other hand, maybe that doctor was having a bad day and I would rather he express it by his words and not in the care he gave to my medical issue.

If I had to guess, I’d bet this doctor was from a different culture than US. I work at a teaching hospital and about 25% of the doctors are from other countries.

If I had to guess, I’d bet this doctor was from a different culture than US.

Yes please rightly guessed. This happened in India.

But this doesn't mean that doctors are rude here. My neighbour who is a gynecologist too is a gem of a person. She has helped me out with my health issues even staying back for the night. Even the gynec and all other doctors in the hospital I go to are professionally very good with great bedside manner.

Here, that complaint would go right into the circular file.

Sorry to hear that you have substandard medical standards.

Sorry to hear that you have substandard medical standards.

Rudeness is not a medical standard. It may be un-called for, it may be impolite, and it may be wrong, but in no way does it affect the completeness or accuracy of the examination, diagnosis, or treatment. The medical standards here are very high and I know that all of the medical professionals I have seen, or been seen by, adhere to them, even if the bedside manner of one or two left something to be desired.

I do not consider "making the patient uncomfortable" the same as being rude.

Being rude is not a big turn-off. Making the patient uncomfortable or unreasonably excited is worse.

If the doctor was well qualified, I would most likely stay with him or her.

I would overlook their personality traits.

I don’t care how good they are. If they are rude, disrespectful or authoritarian they are fired. I’m done with pandering to doctors who behave like that.

Sometimes being firm and straight forward comes across as being not compassionate or brusk. Sometimes you don’t like to hear what you should be listening to and you take it as abusive. I've seen docs I don’t like who are very competent. But I would get tuned off if I feel they are talking down to me.