RT from parent in front of SO

I think the ultimate embarrassment would be getting an RT from a parent and having a significant other walk in. Has that ever happened to anyone?

@rtobsessed said

I think the ultimate embarrassment would be getting an RT from a parent and having a significant other walk in. Has that ever happened to anyone?

Do you mean a 50+ year old parent giving a rectal temp to their 25-30 year old adult child and having their 25-30 year old significant other walk in?

Why would this be embarrassing?. Would not the significant other have seen their partner naked before?

Why would anyone old enough to have a significant other need a parent to take their rectal temperature?

Did you think this one out before you posted it?

There's more to that situation than the nudity, but at that point I imagine there's already something else going on between all the involved parties. The hypothetical was probably directed more towards a high school age relationship, as supremely unlikely as that would be nonetheless.

There's more to that situation than the nudity, but at that point I imagine there's already something else going on between all the involved parties. The hypothetical was probably directed more towards a high school age relationship, as supremely unlikely as that would be nonetheless.

I rather doubt any high school age relationship would involve a couple that were "Significant Others."

The whole premise does not ring true.

If a date saw my mom checking me then yeah that would be embarrassing. But probably not for a steady boyfriend as long as he didn't hang around and watch.

@SwitchableSusie @rtobsessed

Susie, maybe not for you, but for some of us it would be a completely different situation being naked ONLY with your significant other, compared to involving a third person, ESPECIALLY a parent.

Asking if rtobsessed thought her question through is a demeaning response. You could simply ask her to explain her point of view because for you it’s not clear.

Susie, we all have different fantasies etc. The situation rtobsessed described may not be interesting or embarrassing to you, but it may very well for her, and we should all respect this.

To rtobsessed : This is a very valid point that you brought up. An SO can be a step-parent, a single parent's boyfriend/girlfriend, or for some married couples who live with their families out of economic necessity, especially during these times, that's a potential reality, that privacy could be an issue. Most of us have probably experienced this. Thank you for your post !

I don't know if this qualifies for significant other, but my high school girl friend saw me getting my temperature taken. I was home sick from school and she came over after school. My mom came in to take my temperature, as she did every 4 hours. My girl friend asked if I wanted her to leave the room until it was finished, and my mom said that I didn't have anything she hasn't seen before, so she watched the whole thing.

This whole concept doesn't work for me but might for some. I got rectal temps but only until I knew enough to hold a thermometer under my tongue. The thought of getting a temp in my teens that way just would have never happened. As the oldest of 9 though, there were always toddlers around that did get it that way. I think it would be very embarrassing to have it done though.

@Fontana said

I don't know if this qualifies for significant other, but my high school girl friend saw me getting my temperature taken. . . . . .

No, A high school girlfriend does not qualify as a Significant Other unless you married them or continued seeing the person for at least a few years after graduating high school. My husband and I have been in love since we met when we were 11. There was no way we were "significant others" until we were adults after college.

The vast majority of the time high school boyfriends and girlfriends are little more than people you try to learn how to have a relationship with and they are little more than crushes. The key word here is SIGNIFICANT. There is rarely anything at all, significant about a high school friend of the opposite sex. Losing your virginity to them does NOT make them a significant other.

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@ChrisRT said

Susie, we all have different fantasies etc. The situation rtobsessed described may not be interesting or embarrassing to you. . . .

This was NOT written as a fantasy or in the fantasy section of the forum. It was written as an actual event.

The vast majority of the time high school boyfriends and girlfriends are little more than people you try to learn how to have a relationship with and they are little more than crushes. The key word here is SIGNIFICANT. There is rarely anything at all, significant about a high school friend of the opposite sex.

I would consider a girlfriend to be significant if I was getting into her panties. She might not be significant in the long run but she would be while I was tapping it. I never had that problem because I don't think I had one date in high school. I was very shy...

I would consider a girlfriend to be significant if I was getting into her panties. She might not be significant in the long run but she would be while I was tapping it. I never had that problem because I don't think I had one date in high school. I was very shy...

A girlfriend may be significant in your life but that does NOT make them a Significant Other.

That does not make them a Significant Other. What makes a high school girlfriend SIGNIFICANT???

A significant other is a person with whom you build an enduring mature relationship with.

I had lots of boys into my pants in high school and I took full advantage of them as I was also in their pants. NONE of them were significant others--including my husband at the time. High school sweethearts are little more than people with whom you have relationship rehearsals for adulthood.

@SwitchableSusie

As others have said, the fact that this is not a fantasy for you does not mean that isn’t for others.

Your arguments over the use of the term “significant other” are literally just picking at semantics, but fine, let’s play. Here are some definitions of significant other.

Google: “a person with whom someone has an established romantic or sexual relationship”

Merrim Webster: “ a person who is important to one's well-being especially: a spouse or one in a similar relationship”

Urban Dictionary: “Your mate, spouse, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, steady and/or lover. Used when you don't want to be too specific, or when the details are nobody's business.“

Wiktionary: “ One's romantic partner, regardless of marital status or gender”

I used the term instead of partner. I don’t understand why you’re giving it this level of scrutiny. Whether intentional or not, your comments are coming off as extremely nasty and aggressive. Remember that not everyone has the same kinks and fantasies as you, and what seems completely benign to you may be a turn on for others.

Merrim Webster: “ a person who is important to one's well-being especially: a spouse or one in a similar relationship”

I think this is the correct definition. A SO is a partner that you have a long term commitment with. High school sweethearts and sexual partners may be significant and a “partner” at the time - but they are not SOs.

I don't see why the use or the term " significant other" instead of ''partner'' or ''girlfriend/boyfriend'' could be a problem. I find it nice to see a poster use some kind of sophisticated language on this site. As English is not m'y mother tongue, I learnt an expression today as I see it is refered to in reference dictionnaries.

To come back to the point, I can imagine that a teenager would be shocked to see his or her sexpartner having his temperature being taken by one parent, and the sexpartner to be shocked to be seen in this situation, feeling ashamed, not to say humiliated .

And I clearly understand that a teenager would not like others to know that he/she still has his/her temperature taken rectaly by a parent and wants it to be kept private, as his/her ''secret garden''

Several posts have been removed due to this becoming heated.

I don't think the definition of 'significant other' particularly matters as regards the question. The OP describes a hypothetical situation, however likely or unlikely it might seem to members that it might actually happen. Let's keep to the question that was asked.

Thanks @rtobsessed for bringing up this interesting theme. I’ll take some liberty to expand it a bit.

I was 10 or 11 and home from school the last time my rectal temperature was taken for real. Mom couldn’t find the oral thermometer so had to do it rectally. I protested a bit, of course, so she covered me after inserting to give some privacy. However, she did mention it to my little sister, who came into my bedroom and stayed the whole time the thermometer was registering. I was embarrassed and thrilled at the same time.

More generally, I often fantasise about having a woman friend (or even one I don’t know well) present when a nurse or partner takes my rectal temperature. There is something deliciously humiliating about having such an intimate procedure witnessed by someone who normally shouldn’t be in a position to see me naked.

The post is informative and interesting. We are here to learn and share. I think that most posters would agree with that principal. There's always going to be someone who wants to rain on your parade. Unsubstantiated attacks prevent dialogue from happening. That's why our society has failed. It's a few who ruin it for many.

OMG… the idea of my mother or father walking in on me and my bff when she pretended to take my temperature (she usually used a cotton swab)… too awful to contemplate. But now the thought is in my head! 😬

As a teenager, I was once caught by my father taking my temperature in secret. That was very embarrassing. I can only remember a third person coming to the hospital.

When we were engaged, my future husband was staying with us, while his place was being painted. He came down with a head cold and my mom, a pediatric RN, told him to get ready for bed. He slept in the spare room. Mom told me to get the thermometer and Vaseline from the bathroom and bring it in. Michael turned beet red when mom pulled down the covers and told him to lie on his tummy. I found it fascinating when she pulled down his pj's and briefs and inserted the thermometer. this has been repeated a lot throughout our marriage!

Ruthiney...... Your mother did the honors she broke him in she took his cherry (anal)

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Joseph, my future husband found out the hard way that mom was a nurse who always took rectal temperatures. After 30+ years of marriage, it's still bare bottoms up for temperature, here!

Certainly not. From a young age I was made to insert the thermometer rectally myself. So if as a teen I had been allowed to bring a girlfriend home (hmm) and I had been sick then mom would definitely not have done the honors.

Well, at the time she wasn't a SO, but my mom was babysitting a neighbor girl when we were both around 9-10, when she decided that I needed to get my temperature taken because I was all warm and sweaty from playing outside. Mom called me into her room and had me lay on my tummy while she inserted the thermometer in my butt. I was laying there for a few minutes, talking to mom while she was taking my temperature, when suddenly, my sister, and our friend, Ann, barged in. My sister was always the "Instigator " and it didn't surprise me that she did that. I do remember that instead of kicking her out of the room, mom spent a few seconds talking to her while I lay there with the rectal thermometer firmly poking out of my cheeks. I could see Ann staring at all of it, and I got embarrassed. Later on, the three of us were playing and the temp taking scene came up again. Instead of teasing me, Ann admitted that she also had her temperature taken that way too. We wound up playing Doctor/Patient/House together quite often after that, and eventually dated in high school.

En Anglais Bams?

My mother took my temperature when I was in middle school in front of my aunt and her two daughters.

We were on vacation at her place.

One day I didn't feel well, I was vomiting and I was a little hot. Everyone was in the living room.

My aunt brought a glass thermometer back to my mother, at that moment I had a knot in my stomach because I know what is going to happen.

My mother motioned with her head for me to get up because I was half lying on the couch.

She started shaking the thermometer, when I got up I sat next to her hoping to take the temperature under my armpits. But my mother took me on her knees, I started to protest in vain. She pulled down my pants and panties and stuck in the thermometer. She never used lube. I was in this position for 5 minutes. It was a total shame.