Unable to orgasm except thru masturbation

I am happily married to sirensong and we have a fairly active sex life. We do enema play occasionally, maybe once a month (mostly her administering to me) as well as regular intercourse. Over the years, I have evolved to the point where the only way that I am able to orgasm is through manual stimulation. I can orgasm if I masturbate, and I can orgasm when sirensong masturbates me - but I can no longer orgasm through vaginal intercourse. I would like to be able to cum through intercourse, and she would love it if I did. I was wondering if any of you in 'zity-land' are experiencing the same thing?

With no disrespect to Sirensong does she feel as tight when you are in her as she used to be when you could orgasm in her? If you think she is still as tight, is her vagina lubricating more than it used to (not a bad thing for the woman, but might not be helping you orgasm.

Alternatively to the above, are you as hard when in her as you used to be?

Penile orgasm is partly dependent on all of the following; the grip, your firmness, your mind (excitement level), position and of course your partner.

I'd like to think I could give you more thoughts, but have never experienced your situation. I have always been able to orgasm in the vagina but am always slow to orgasm (if there as I have always concentrated on my partner's pleasure. For me, I've never been able to orgasm from a BJ.

That's the fun of life, we are all different!

I am happily married to sirensong and we have a fairly active sex life. We do enema play occasionally, maybe once a month (mostly her administering to me) as well as regular intercourse. Over the years, I have evolved to the point where the only way that I am able to orgasm is through manual stimulation. I can orgasm if I masturbate, and I can orgasm when sirensong masturbates me - but I can no longer orgasm through vaginal intercourse. I would like to be able to cum through intercourse, and she would love it if I did. I was wondering if any of you in 'zity-land' are experiencing the same thing?

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It might be worth considering whether this could be a medical problem with reduced penile sensitivity Or perhaps a side effect of medication. If so, then seeking a medical opinion would be helpful.

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I'm honored to be considered for membership! (Thanks Susie, that comparison never entered my mind.)

@andy_c , While I feel healthy, I'm on most of the medication that 60+ men are on, blood pressure, cholesterol, and (my favorite) Flomax. Thanks to Flomax and more permanently, a Transurethral resection of the prostate (TURP) which destroyed my seminal ducts as a normal side-effect of the procedure, I can no longer ejaculate. My urologist said it would make little difference, that I would still be able to have an orgasm (how the hell would he know as he'd never had the proceedure) ..... but it is different. The pumping feeling that I used to have is mostly gone, I would pump with extreme pleasure, 4, 5 or 6 times when I ejaculated... now its once or twice..... so I don't know - guess I just miss the good 'ole days, but there's no mess to clean up and no wet spot (unless it's sirensong's). LOL.