How does a man find an anally receptive woman?

The answer is at once simple and complex. The simple answer is to be Prince Charming to a lonely woman. The complexity is that many wonderful women are lonely victims of the almighty Masculine Ego. Overwhelmingly, men seek out petite beauties as trophies to show off to their male friends.

In my personal and work lives, I have observed the ruthless shaming of non-conforming females, from childhood through old age. Most often, the cause is obesity, but it can be race, language, social class, or any characteristic that makes people, especially males, pick on them. From the onset of puberty, most overweight girls are starved for boys' affection and enter a downward spiral of plummeting self esteem. In their twenties, they often give up on ever being attractive and stop trying.

But they never stop wanting the love of a good man -- AND the life that comes with it. A reasonably eligible ass man who befriends a homely, overweight single woman will often notice a change for the better in her appearance and flirtatious amicability. If this man is you, this is where things get very complicated. I've said here and on other sites that anal is not for swingers; it's for committed, monogamous couples. Before you bring up the subject of anal sex, be sure you want to "get serious" with her, not just use her and then break her heart.

Keep in mind that she may have a history of being anally used. There was an academic study a few years ago that found obese teenage girls much more likely than other girls to have had anal sex. The apparent reason was to make themselves desirable to boys who were really just using them. How you deal with that history is up to you. She will need a lot of reassurance that you're not history repeating itself. One reassuring act would be to start introducing her as your girlfriend, and letting her reciprocate.

And the final complication. When your insecure friends snicker about your new girlfriend, tell them to shut up.

How does a man find an anally receptive woman?

@TexasJack said

The answer is at once simple and complex. The simple answer is to be Prince Charming to a lonely woman. The complexity is that many wonderful women are lonely victims of the almighty Masculine Ego. Overwhelmingly, men seek out petite beauties as trophies to show off to their male friends.

In my personal and work lives, I have observed the ruthless shaming of non-conforming females, from childhood through old age. Most often, the cause is obesity, but it can be race, language, social class, or any characteristic that makes people, especially males, pick on them. From the onset of puberty, most overweight girls are starved for boys' affection and enter a downward spiral of plummeting self esteem. In their twenties, they often give up on ever being attractive and stop trying.

But they never stop wanting the love of a good man -- AND the life that comes with it. A reasonably eligible ass man who befriends a homely, overweight single woman will often notice a change for the better in her appearance and flirtatious amicability. If this man is you, this is where things get very complicated. I've said here and on other sites that anal is not for swingers; it's for committed, monogamous couples. Before you bring up the subject of anal sex, be sure you want to "get serious" with her, not just use her and then break her heart.

Keep in mind that she may have a history of being anally used. There was an academic study a few years ago that found obese teenage girls much more likely than other girls to have had anal sex. The apparent reason was to make themselves desirable to boys who were really just using them. How you deal with that history is up to you. She will need a lot of reassurance that you're not history repeating itself. One reassuring act would be to start introducing her as your girlfriend, and letting her reciprocate.

And the final complication. When your insecure friends snicker about your new girlfriend, tell them to shut up.

OMFG

How fucked up can you get?

You would exploit [lonely] women who you can take advantage of because they might genuinely be in need of a friend, and in being friendly, but with an agenda, you convince them to do things they might not otherwise want to do, but they succumb because they need friendship?

If I posted what I thought of you, my post would be deleted by the moderators, even though you deserve to be torn to shreds in the forum.

Let me tell you how to find an anally receptive woman. Be nice to her, communicate with her, be warm and friendly and genuinely care for her. Make her feel respected, important and happy to be in your presence. I have done anal with a number of boys and men I wasn't serious about simply because I enjoy doing anal, not because it is a sign of exclusivity, a serious relationship, something I was coerced or bribed to do or anything else for that matter. If you played your cards right, you could find someone like me [who seriously has a great well toned athletic body] who would let you do things to her body that you could only dream about, but someone like me would never have you because as you just demonstrated, your true colors and intentions would show through before we ever got that far.

Susie --

Swinging works for you and yours; monogamy works for me and mine. Different strokes for different folks, as my generation used to say. I befriended a lonely woman, and after a couple of years as friends, we fell in love. Best thing that ever happened to either of us. With Carla, from 1978 to 1980, I followed your advice about how to be friends with anyone before ever thinking of her as anything else. Go ahead and have the last angry word, and then let's move on to something else. Our life experiences have been too different for us ever to be simpatico.

Respectfully yours,

Texas Jack

Swinging works for you and yours; monogamy works for me and mine.

I wasn't talking about swinging.

I was talking about being open and honest about what people are looking for in their relationships, not having covert or surreptitious agendas as a reason for starting or controlling a relationship.

That was an interesting ride.

That was an interesting ride.

No kidding. Do I dare ask your opinion.

Don’t get the purpose of the original post. A blog? It explicitly exploits disadvantaged women. Later post explains his relationship with one. Why?

No kidding. Do I dare ask your opinion.

I'm disappointed that Susie didn't post what she wanted to because it would get deleted.

Don’t get the purpose of the original post. A blog? It explicitly exploits disadvantaged women. Later post explains his relationship with one. Why?

I'm disappointed that Susie didn't post what she wanted to because it would get deleted.

"Are there any groups I have not offended?" Fifties & sixties comedian Mort Sahl.

My purpose was clear, to encourage frustrated men to broaden their horizons and put friendship before romantic love. You found my comments offensive. I get that. Allie80, I apologize for asking your opinion. The woman you all seem to think I heartlessly exploited has been my friend going on 42 years, the great love of my life, going on 40 , and my wife for 36-plus. We're also business partners and still red hot lovers.

Pure fuckery.

Pure fuckery.

I have to add "fuckery" to my vocabulary! 😄

How does a man find an anally receptive woman?

Simple answer for me was during hot sex reaching around to touch her anus and see what kind of response happens. I've gotten no's, to others quickly cumming, to one who reached back and began pumping my ass with her finger, making me cum in a flash. It opens the door to talk about it afterwards.

@Ms_Lila

I've added DUMBFUCKRY to my daily life, as in I'm sick of your/ this DUMBFUCKRY!

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My purpose was clear, to encourage frustrated men to broaden their horizons and put friendship before romantic love.

Certainly not to me.... that skipped right over my head.

I'm fat (losing weight, but still fat) and this post makes me feel unspeakably sad. Like, I want to cry sad. I give @SwitchableSusie credit for knowing what she'd say, even if it would be deleted.

It seems to me like TexasJack has his causes and effects wrong about why fat girls are more likely to take it up the ass (may I be that blunt?) They don't do those things because they're fat. They're fat because those things were done to them, likely during childhood, and they developed disordered eating habits as a result. Certainly this isn't the case with all fat people, nor is it the case with all people who were sexually abused, but research has shown a link between the two.

I'm not looking for a relationship with a man right now, and it's partly because I've become wary about men using me for sex. As gross as what TexasJack said, it shows me I'm not wrong to have that concern.

We need a Zity dictionary. It would kind of be like a Wikipedia style dictionary. For instance under S:

SLARG (acronym) Slow Lethargic Anal Retentive Goldbrick (descriptive adjectives string that makes an noun) Usage: I want that SLARG out of here now, drop him off at the nearest port and give him train fare to go back to live with his mother!

If you all like this idea, perhaps I'll talk to @Webby and try to set it up...that is if Wolfie doesn't accuse me of DUMBFUCKRY for this proposal 😕 .

What say you Zity mates?

@Sailing_Master

I think that's an outstanding idea! So many different things come to mind.

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@Sailing_Master

I also think it's a good idea --- there are some very clever - and creative people here.

Don't know. Out of the nine more longer-term relationships that I've had in my life, and a handful of one night stands, I never had a lady outright tell me she was anally receptive. I never pushed any of them to have anal either. If a guy happens to meet/find a willing female that's into it, I guess you got the bonus plan. Anal doesn't make or break a relationship in my book. There's many other more important aspects and fun things you can do together to have a great, meaningful relationship.

I lucked out. We started out as friends. Sports buds. After a year our relationship turned romantic. We never brought anal up or discussed it prior to having sex. The second or third time we had sex she pulled out a butt plug, smiled and handed it to me along with some KY. Anal play progreased rapidly after that.

The plug was a plastic Tee Shaped plug - about 1 inch diameter - early 80’s.

Thanks GWAP. We both lucked out, you more than me, because your future wife took the initiative. I had to risk rejection, when I 'fessed up my anal eroticism. Forty years later, poor exploited Carla is waiting for me to serve us lemon-pepper marinated grilled chicken with basmati rice. I think the rice just finished its 18 minutes on simmer.

OMFG

How fucked up can you get?

@SwitchableSusie, have you got your answer yet?

If you're into anal it's a good idea to know how a potential mate will react to your interests before you get married or into a committed relationship.

Just ask me.

Just ask me.

😈❤️🍑🌡

I had an Asian girlfriend when I was in my twenties. I had great control with my vaginal penetration of her by only ejaculating a little and making her reach climax everytime. After about two or three climaxes she was much relaxed and being in love she was receptive in me giving her anal sex. I was gentle with her and patient with my penis entering a little bit and and pulling it out of her anus. Eventually my penis was right inside her rectum and I could see that she was enjoying the penetration with the smile on her face. It felt so good and snug for me and to finally ejaculate my final load of my semen inside her rectum. It was beautiful sex with a female who enjoyed anal sex after vaginal sex

Chelle300 I would but it is a long way between Queensland, australia and ohio.

I find that it works when you endlessly bombard the gal with messages and comment with the words “Yummmmmy”, and “Delicious ” on her pics.

Not!

😂😂😂😂

If you’re intimately involved, then you should feel comfortable to just ask. If they respond well to finger/thermometer penetration, it’s probably a green light for anal sex. I’ve told some girlfriends that I wanted to turn them over, and go up their hot ass. It generally worked out. I respected the wishes of those who refused , but that was usually a relationship killer. If someone is boring and predictable in bed, then they’re likely that way in general.

"How does a man find an anally receptive woman?" Perhaps this question is not entirely correct. What are you looking for? An object to live out your anal fantasies? Or another person with whom you are primarily concerned with trust and love? In my experience, anal sex is always the result of a slowly growing intimacy, a compatible and sensitive sexuality that has been adjusted to each other, which has built up more and more over time, until at the end there is the desire for this special kind of union that reaches the peak meaning intimacy. Anal sex is not for a quickie, not for a one-night stand, not for bucks looking for quick gratification. Therefore, first find a real partner and then discover how far she wants to go with you.