Does sex of the doctor matter?

Does the sex of the doctor play into choosing who you go with? I always prefer a female doctor or NP over male.

I always choose a male. I read an article years ago in some men's health magazine recommending you pick a doctor the same sex as you and 5-10 years older so that they've just gone through any age-related stuff themselves before you do. The example they gave is that if you're 50 and your doctor is 55, and you say your butt hurts after sex, he will assume you mean sore muscles from thrusting and suggest an anti-inflammatory, while if you said the same to a doctor who is 35, he'd suggest you use more lube.

Growing up and especially as a teenager, I only wanted a male doctor and often dreaded any female nurse, never had a male, seeing me naked or giving me a shot or taking my temp. Now, I might be okay with a fem doctor given maturity and less fear of having a spontaneous erection during the exam that could happen as a teen or young adult. Sometimes I think that I would prefer going with others for an exam so as to have companionship and something in common, especially during the more intimate aspects of the physical.

I read an article years ago in some men's health magazine recommending you pick a doctor the same sex as you and 5-10 years older so that they've just gone through any age-related stuff themselves before you do. .

For some reason, happenstance I suppose, all of my long-term care doctors - GP/oncologist - were around my own age. The oncologist was female and our birthdays were just a few days apart (my wife worked in the same hospital and supplied such interesting, but useless bits of information).

I liked it that way.

Now of course being along in years, most of the doctors I end up at for consults are usually even younger than my son. What to make of that? When they are female, and many are, there is nothing better as far as I am concerned.

The example they gave is that if you're 50 and your doctor is 55, and you say your butt hurts after sex, he will assume you mean sore muscles from thrusting and suggest an anti-inflammatory, while if you said the same to a doctor who is 35, he'd suggest you use more lube.

That is ridiculous. Any doctor would ask you to describe the pain rather than assume anything.

The example they gave is that if you're 50 and your doctor is 55, and you say your butt hurts after sex, he will assume you mean sore muscles from thrusting and suggest an anti-inflammatory, while if you said the same to a doctor who is 35, he'd suggest you use more lube.

That is ridiculous. Any doctor would ask you to describe the pain rather than assume anything.

Your quote was from a gay guy. What else do you think he would say? 😁

As you stated, a real doctor would ask you to describe the pain and its circumstances.

Since I would be seeing the doctor for medical help, all that matters is whether he or she is the best I can find. If I had in mind looking for a sex partner, then gender would be important. Frankly, this seems like a silly question, unless it was asked with a PLAY doctor in mind! And of course, in THAT case, getting medical help is obviously NOT the reason for the visit.

Since I would be seeing the doctor for medical help, all that matters is whether he or she is the best I can find. If I had in mind looking for a sex partner, then gender would be important. Frankly, this seems like a silly question,

If you look through other threads and posts in the past, this question has been asked with different words.

That is of no account, but what you can see in many answers is, that it apparently does matter to many members which gender their doctor is. This it would seem because of matters of modesty or for fear of being sexually aroused in the presence of a doctor of the opposite gender. This last for men of course.

So far from being a silly question, though it should be of no matter at all if you are seeking competent medical help, there are people for whom it does matter after all.

I would think it would more so for Med-fetters, for me a large part of the fun is embarrassment. I think being naked and at the mercy of a female doctor is much more exciting than being for a male doctor.

Doesn't matter to me at all. Was really sick a couple of times, one time I had pneumonia and pleurisy at the same time. The pain was so bad I thought I was having a heart attack and checked myself into emergency room. Ran a bunch of tests and said no heart attack but wanted to keep me overnight for stress test the next day. Told them no, I'm not staying overnight to run on a treadmill the next day. Well 3 days later it got so bad called my Drs. office and they said I sound terrible and get in there that afternoon. While I was waiting in lobby, excruciating pain again, was begging the nurse to give me something for the chest pain, I could barely walk back to exam room. That's when I found out that's what I had. Dr prescribed anti-biotics and pain meds and next morning was feeling a lot better already. So bottom line here is, doesn't matter, when I'm sick, just get me well as soon as possible.

For me, the sex of the doctor is not important. What is important is choosing a provider who is good at what they do.

For me, the sex of the doctor is not important. What is important is choosing a provider who is good at what they do.

I had had medical practitioners of both sexes and every one (but one) has been chosen based on his or her expertise and competence. That one was the only primary care in the county and I was very happy when I moved. While it also helps if the doctor is a good communicator -- and I have been lucky in that regard -- when dealing with my health or life, the sex of the doc is the last thing I would look at at.

While I see many specialists I don't really care about their sex. I don't have any female doctors but they usually see me once then turn me over to a Nurse Practitioner anyway. They are all females.

My GP is and always has been male. I prefer that when poking around in sensitive places. At this point in my life I think I could probably deal with that but haven't had to yet. My new doc is about 40 so he should be good until I am near 100 or assume room temperature, whichever comes first.

As a male I have no preference as to the gender of my doctor. I only want someone who is competent and somewhat easy to speak to. I would think that most females would prefer a female doctor. Back in the day most gynecologists were male and patients had no choice, but today that is much different, and I think females are more comfortable with a female doctor.

Back in the day most gynecologists were male and patients had no choice, but today that is much different, and I think females are more comfortable with a female doctor.

Some are but I've seen lots of posts where the ladies say female doc's are too rough and they prefer a males touch.

If I can choose, I prefer a female doctor, given that she's equally good as other doctors around.

I just feel more at ease talking to a woman about certain things... or disrobing in front of a woman..

I also feel like they usually take more time and listen better, but that's just my experience and I don't want to generalize it.. I've had good male doctors too.

Also, if I should ever become erect in front of a doctor.. I would much rather like it to happen in front of a woman..

I know it's strictly professional... but the thrill is still there..

Back in the day most gynecologists were male and patients had no choice, but today that is much different, and I think females are more comfortable with a female doctor.

But a lot of ladies just do not like doctors who are women, some of them are unpleasant or they are rough. I would not like to have to get a doctor who was a woman. My private gynecologist is a man and he is very good.

But a lot of ladies just do not like doctors who are women, some of them are unpleasant or they are rough.

I’ve said it elsewhere and I’ll say it again here. Women gynecologists can be so much rougher than men, very ‘oh just take it - I do!’ I had only one gentle woman doctor. She stopped practicing and I basically stopped going til recently. The men are gentler. Yeah, it’s a bit nerve wracking to be naked but it’s nerve wracking anyway. You might as well have someone inclined to be gentle handling you....

I much prefer male, for the reasons already stated. My GP is female and I'm not inclined to change as I've been with her so long and don't have the emotional energy to start over with someone else, but she will never do an internal on me again - she's very rough.

I now request a male when being referred to a specialist.

I’ve said it elsewhere and I’ll say it again here. Women gynecologists can be so much rougher than men, very ‘oh just take it - I do!’

My wife has said the same thing. She much prefers having a male GYN and GP. In addition to bring gentler, she feels that they listen to her concerns and questions better.

For myself, I’ve had female physicians more often than I’ve had men, but I don’t have a preference either way.

I have been seeing a female GP for more than 10 years. When I have told this to several of my male friends , most say something like "I don't want a women groping me that I'm not going to have sex with"

It does/did matter for different reasons at different times.

As I had been homophobic and not too fond of men touching me, I went with a young female dentist, as a 1st active professional health care choice. But I had to deal with my employer's (male) plant physician for annual physicals, and didn't need my own primary care because i was always in perfect health.

I went on to choose female gastroenterologists, a dermatologist, and eventually a primary care. But here's where I think it matters now....

My female primary care kind of insists i wear a gown, even though they tell me to keep my underwear on also. Even though I mentioned that I'm "old school" and didn't really think a gown was necessary. And also, she doesn't include genitals and hernia as part of the routine annual exam.

Now I'm thinking that if I were to instead have a male primary care, he would likely be cool with waiving the gown, and may include examining genitals &/or hernia as part of the annual physical (and I've since become comfortable with men touching me).

So in that regard, i would say the sex of the doctor would probably matter.

But does it really matter if I wear a gown or not, or have hernia/genitals included or not?

In the grand scheme of things, no. However, i would enjoy the experience more.

Perhaps if I had a male dermatologist, he would have checked my genitals during at least one of the "full body" semi annual skin exams that I have. So again, the sex of the dermatologist may matter in the thoroughness of the "full body" skin exams as well.

Definitely prefer female for GYN exams - although if I was delivering a baby either would be fine

I prefer male doctors

I don't give a good goddamn what sex my doctors are.

I want somebody who is very well trained, experienced that I can trust who knows what they are doing.

As it turns out, my internist, gynecologist and dentist are all male. They were all hand picked for me, are all excellent practitioners and I have been seeing all of them for years.

I prefer female doctors. I believe they take the time and listen. Not too mention, the female doctors I’ve been to have been surprisingly complete: rectal exam, feels like extended penis/testicle exam and skin exam naked. The skin exam has been more than a scan of the body, she’s has ask me to bend over, standup, ect. This has happened more then once and by multiple female docs.

I currently have a female doc (GP) because my male doc retired and she replaced him. I just want good care. God bless my heart surgeon (male) who put me back together after my accident. Ive had males and females and the care is the most important factor.

Not really. Had a female and male pediatrician growing up. My female pediatrician was more thorough the only real difference.

No,as long as they know what they are doing thats fine with me

As far as having a primary care physician goes I definitely would prefer to have a male physician. Being that I’m just more relaxed to discuss male issues with a male doctor. When it comes to a specialist I don’t care whether they are male or female. Their ‘specialty’ is what counts.