Horrible, horrible - enemas mostly bore me!

And no, the title of this thread wasn't intended as a pun! It's just that a part of me distrusts excess, and there's surely an excess of enema (and related) posts on Zity. What's more, it's constant. I once estimated that 7 out of 10 posts on Zity (based on the 'Discussions Browse' listings) are on that topic. I think it's much the same still. A Moderator once told me that Zity started as, or evolved from, an enema site, so there are historical reasons for the number of enema-related posts here. 😃

I do wish, though, that Zity could be more of a general fetish site, and with more people inclined to post (in the Lounge category perhaps) on topics of sexuality in general and even matters of broader interest still. We all have our kinks and fetishes, and are proud of them! But fetishes can be indulged by talking about them in bigger contexts, or even by detaching from them for a while, in the congenial company of fellow kinksters!

By posting here I know I'm going to get flack! Fine, just so long as its mindful flack!

Finally, my 'alter ego', whom I call young Ken, also is no enema-goer (okay to call him that?). But he might be seducible that way. Which perhaps goes to show that we all have potential, and/or can be broad-minded!

- Ken

7 out of 10 posts are NOT about enemas.

SEE THIS:

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=statistics

Scroll down a bit to TOP 10 Topics by Views and

TOP 10 Topics by Replies

The link proves the proportion of enema posts is NOT 7 out of 10.

And no, the title of this thread wasn't intended as a pun! It's just that a part of me distrusts excess, and there's surely an excess of enema (and related) posts on Zity. What's more, it's constant. I once estimated that 7 out of 10 posts on Zity (based on the 'Discussions Browse' listings) are on that topic. I think it's much the same still.

I don't know where this perception come from. It certainly doesn't match reality.

A Moderator once told me that Zity started as, or evolved from, an enema site, so there are historical reasons for the number of enema-related posts here. 😃

No, it was a regular member who told you that, but I then told you the complete picture - that there were several constituent websites, one of which being erotic-clinic -

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=971832

Anyway, to leave that aside, it might also interest you to know that another one of the constituent websites that eventually became Zity.biz was eroticclinic.com (I'm not 100% sure of the exact URL - what I've stated might not be exactly correct).

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I do wish, though, that Zity could be more of a general fetish site ...

Really? Take a look at the top of the Discussions forum -

Age Play

Ass Play

BDSM

Diapers

Dominance and Submission

E-Stim

Enemas

Feminization

Help and Information

Kinky

LGBT

Medical Fetish

Sex is Fun

Sex Toys

The Club

The Lounge

Also, please look at the list of interest tags, which I won't reproduce here due to the sheer size of the list, but I'll provide a link -

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=tags

Is all of this not diverse enough for you?

My words were: 'l once estimated' that 7 out of 10 Zity posts were on enemas or related topics. On certain days, and at certain times, it does seem like that to me - still. Five minutes ago, l counted (on 'Discussions Browse') 9 out of 20 such posts (including a couple or so on rectal temps and one on diapers).

So l do think it's fair to say that about half of Zity posts are like that, and sometimes it's rather more.

In any case, get my drift. Zity could be so much richer and more diverse!

Happiness to all.

- Ken

In any case, get my drift. Zity could be so much richer and more diverse!

I agree.

I would love to see more people active with Bondage and Severe S&M.

PLAY HARD.

Personally, I am very into DISCOMFORT AND P A I N.

I am the DOMME

So post something kinky -- and it better be good! 😁

I agree. [...]

So post something kinky -- and it better be good! 😁

Hard to be kinky to order, Switchable! But just an hour or so ago l posted in Favourite Books (in the Lounge) a couple of assorted items: about a California woman who can readily stuff a melon in her vulva, and a porn actress praising sexuality for its diverse benefits.

More soon

- Ken

In the case that enemas mostly bore you I may remark, that no person is obliged to take enemas, for there exist several alternatives to cleanse the bowels completely in an effective manner.

Then get some more people to contribute to the other parts of the site! Webby doesn't sit around making straw man posts, you gotta get community members.

Thanks, complete bowel cleansing (post # 7 ). I was referring to the number of enema-related posts on Zity, not to actual enemas!

Happiness - Ken

I knew I was flying into flak, moliere (post # 8 )! 😃 Hmm. You make it sound easy! Maybe a classified ad in the 'Personals' page of a large daily newspaper might do the trick! People on Zity who know me are aware that I've put up scores of posts here on broad topics, including - for example - starting a thread that ran for a while called something like, 'Fetishes - in the big context!'

- Ken

I did what you suggested, Switchable (post # 8 ). See the thread called 'Sword-swallowing and other kinks'. 😳

- Ken

7 out of 10 posts are NOT about enemas.

SEE THIS:

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=statistics

Scroll down a bit to TOP 10 Topics by Views and

TOP 10 Topics by Replies

The link proves the proportion of enema posts is NOT 7 out of 10GGgFg

Great - thanks for posting link to stats - very interesting.

The link proves the proportion of enema posts is NOT 7 out of 10.

No it isn't, but it is a pretty good portion. In the top 10 by replies it is 4 out of 10, with 2 of those other 6 being rectal and asshole related.

In the top 10 by views it is 5 out if 10, with one other discussing anal toys.

We enemates were attracted to this site while searching for enema-centric related sites which are extremely rare. Anyone who wants a more diverse site should consider establishing their own site of their dreams.

Anyone who wants a more diverse site should consider establishing their own site of their dreams.

Another way of seeing the same thing, easy123, is this: Zity could be so much richer, and serious (less shallow?), and, yes, more diverse, than it is. That's all. Don't be offended.

- Ken

No offense, @kenneth177. Just my opinion. 😕

It seems there are some who need to explore Zity.biz more thoroughly. Although there is a significant amount of Enema content, so there is a very large amount of other material, such as Medical Fetish, which is what attracted me here in the first place. The Enema content is of no personal interest to me at all, yet I still noticed its existence along with other areas. I know some individuals wish there was more new BDSM content being added than there currently is, and I don't know the reason this area seems to be quiet just now. Perhaps those with the interest are just too busy actually doing it! Who knows?

The point here is that the site is already diverse. It is simply that many individuals concentrate on a single subject area and (perhaps) their vision is blinkered regarding other topics, but that doesn't mean that other content is minimal.

Seriously, take a look around. The site is safe away from the enema threads - no harm will come to you. 😁

@DrZ said...the site is already diverse. It is simply that many individuals concentrate on a single subject area and (perhaps) their vision is blinkered regarding other topics, but that doesn't mean that other content is minimal.

Seriously, take a look around. The site is safe away from the enema threads - no harm will come to you. 😁

He is absolutely correct. My own thread, which is titled "Enema so intimate", actually has much more content than just enemas. I started writing more when we added enemas to our sexploration, hence the thread title and location. It is full of our other play sessions too, including gyno exam play and D/s (light BDSM) play.

I chose to post all our sexploration play times here in one thread. It makes it easier to find later. Like a kinky online diary of sorts.

Fn

Hmm. Round and round (or down and down, in a spiral) we go! A simple friendly, objective critique of Zity's lack of range and depth - compared with what it might be - comes up against people who take personal offence, and one moderator in particular who is noticeably over-defensive (in my view) of such attempted critique. I stand by what I wrote in post # 4 :

My [previous] words were: 'l once estimated' that 7 out of 10 Zity posts were on enemas or related topics. On certain days, and at certain times, it does seem like that to me - still. Five minutes ago, l counted (on 'Discussions Browse') 9 out of 20 such posts (including a couple or so on rectal temps and one on diapers).

I was wrong in recalling my previous estimated figure. It was 6 (not 7) out of 10 posts. In any case, that was only ever meant as a rough approximation, with an admitted degree of poetic licence to accommodate the emotive element of my modest protest.

A re-count of actual numbers earlier today (see above) suggested that the correct figure is more like 5 out of 10 (for that time of day). And I'm grateful to MissStress (post # 13 ) for confirming that approximate figure.

The - only - point is, or should be: the nub of my post was its claim that there's an unduly high number of posts about enemas on Zity, compared with what the site's potential (re all fetishes and kinks) might seem to offer.

I'm perfectly aware of all the other stuff on Zity. I'm not blinkered. But my point remains. Act, react, or ignore - as you please.

Cheers now - Ken

A simple friendly, objective critique of Zity's lack of range and depth - compared with what it might be - comes up against people who take personal offence, and one moderator in particular who is noticeably over-defensive (in my view) of such attempted critique.

A re-count of actual numbers earlier today (see above) suggested that the correct figure is more like 5 out of 10 (for that time of day). And I'm grateful to MissStress (post # 13 ) for confirming that approximate figure.

I wouldn't say that taking a snapshot of unread topics is going to give you an objective view of the site's overall composition. How things look at one particular moment in time is not what I'm talking about. The overall statistics for the site, how the content has built up and grown over the years, tells a different story.

I also don't think that debunking an overly narrow characterisation of the site is being over-defensive. I stand by my comments.

Kenneth. this site is what you make it. if enemas aren't your thing, then post stuff on what interests you. That is what makes this place special. there is a wide variety of kinks and topics here.

I find myself in places here that did not think I would be interested in at all sometimes. and that's a mouthful!

@kenneth177 said:

A simple friendly, objective critique of Zity's lack of range and depth - compared with what it might be ....

Members are going to gravitate to talk about kinks they are interested in. Zity has a broad range and depth of topics (are they called tags now?) to accommodate damn near any fetish someone might have (within rules). Do you have any recommendations how to increase range and depth of the posts/discussions from the members? Encourage members to post or explore areas they don't have an interest in - run an ad on Craigs list to recruit members with non-enema fetishes (ok - not seriously)?

I would get completely hammered if I tried to inject myself into a conversation of heavy duty BDSM - like Susie said - "It better be good" - well mine wouldn't be!!! 😄 But I do like to read - and sometimes comment - on posts on heavy duty BDSM, Gyno (@DrFN writes some good ones!!) etc. - as an observer, not a contributor.

Zity has a broad range and depth of topics (are they called tags now?)

No. Each discussion thread (or topic, to use the other term for it) has tags for subject classification. But the word 'tag' is not another term for thread.

Zity has a broad range and depth of topics (are they called tags now?) to accommodate damn near any fetish someone might have (within rules).

Topics are what is being discussed on Zity.biz. Tags are how they are sorted, divided, or organized.

I had to correct my mistake before some one corrected me.

I do wish, though, that Zity could be more of a general fetish site, and with more people inclined to post (in the Lounge category perhaps) on topics of sexuality in general and even matters of broader interest still.

To do this you need to write about it yourself. Do it.

What it is... is what it is. There's numerous topics on here often discussed which I cannot relate, having never tried nor had any interest whatsoever, but it's still a pretty cool site. As already mentioned by others, either start a new topic that interests you or browse through a ton of old discussions and leave a reply, which might keep the topic active for a while with other members responding. That or drink a couple beers like I usually do when browsing here, as it helps to make any discussion of little interest become more interesting. Oh, and don't leave an offensive reply to a topic that deprecates others kinks. You'll likely soon receive a not so nice message from the webmaster here, as I did almost four months ago and not long after I'd joined this site.

Sorry to add to your disturbance, but because enemas are just one of my kinks, I have enjoyed ZB for a number of years. I feel safe here and I have found a wonderful. rewarding place to share. Living alone sometimes is difficult, especially when you have sexual needs that you need advice about. The fact that both men and women share things kinky and sometimes risky is very exciting. Don't blame the site. Perhaps the real issue here is the complainer? Thank you all on Zity. MRay.

Sorry to add to your disturbance, but because enemas are just one of my kinks, I have enjoyed [Zity Biz] for a number of years. I feel safe here [...] The fact that both men and women share things kinky and sometimes risky is very exciting. Don't blame the site. Perhaps the real issue here is the complainer? [Post # 27 ]

Could be, although said complainer (he's been told) is a person of catholic tastes and fairness in most things. As an Aussie, he believes in 'the fair go'! For the record, that complainer is me. 😃

He is against being misrepresented, for one thing. My position re enema posts was, and is (post # 19 ):

that there's an unduly high number of posts about enemas on Zity, compared with what the site's potential (re all fetishes and kinks) might seem to offer.

That's all. Did you know that 75% of people have a sexual fetish (https://www.bustle.com/articles/190171-how-many-people-have-a-sexual-fetish-its-more-common-than-you-think-but-its-still), and that there are literally hundreds of fetishes? Fifty of those fetishes are listed here: https://thoughtcatalog.com/sylvie-quinn/2018/05/sexual-fetishes/ Many more are listed and described in an entertaining Australian paperback, 'The Odd Sex' (2001) by Dr Stephen Juan. And yet, you'd hardly know that there is such a range of people with at least one of those fetishes if you were to rely on Zity for your survey of what's available! (Smorgasbord, anyone?) You'd think that enema fetishes just about covered it.

A couple or so of the responders (e.g., posts # 21 and 25 ) seemed to suggest that I haven't done anything to try to change things here. Take your finger out, Ken, they seemed to be saying. Ozzy10 (post # 21 ) put it nicely: 'This site is what you make it.' That, in spite of how I've written 495 posts here on multiple topics, including fetish-formation in general and many other things (including some book reviews), as well as made 375 comments and put up six albums.

I'm happy to have started another thread called 'Male identity: boys being boys becoming toxic adults?', which started after I read a news item in which the APA (American Psychological Association) was taken to task for being too narrow re what is 'in' and what is 'out' in raising male kids these days. News items pertinent to broad Zity concerns are quite frequent, I suggest, but someone here has to be the one to spot them each time and alert the rest of us.

- Ken

P.S. My thanks to MissStress (post # 13 ) for seeing the gist of what I was trying to say in this thread, and pretty much agreeing with it!

Well, Kenneth, good job working to get things going. Speaking personally I'm usually not going to comment on something I don't know about unless it interests me enough to ask a question (ignorant comments make me look stupider than I am, which is not a fetish of mine 😉 ) and I also try to avoid making comments that don't add anything (not always successfully). I imagine many others are of the same mind.

Keep posting and eventually we'll get a wider variety of fetishes represented as other people stop by, see "hey, they are actually talking about that" and add a bit.

Wow @kenneth177, your links in post 28. Very enlightning. I've been around awhile but I guess I have lived inside an innocence bubble.