Right, heres an update, tried to get some sense out of amazon, but i had problems getting into site and had to re register, got to chat with an indian man, who couldnt trace the order as i now have new password etc, so gave up on that, now looking for credit card statement for that period.
Anyway, i got pretty fed up, so had another look at the problem, the rubber bag has a small male male plastic adapter that goes into bag and hose connects other end,.........this is where it leaks, so i removed the plastic adapter, cut a wider rim off the hose, took a pair of pointed pliers and got my hand and pliers into bag, poked pliers out of hole at bottom of bag, grabbed the hose and forced it into the bag, it was a very tight fit, but i did it, filled it with water ........hey, no leaks !
supposed to be a 4 quart bag, poured 4 in and looked like i could have put in 2 more ! so the leak is solved , but i dont reckon the hole thats used to hang the bag is going to last, too little rubber around the hole with too much weight of water, so next idea maybe to use some form of net bag to hold the bag up with..........theres ways around things when a man like me wants an enema and i have my fantastic partner wanting to use it on me !