Diaper dad and kids

I am in diaper pretty much 24/7 and I have a hard time if not impossible time hiding the fact that I am in diapers from my 2 boys 3.5 and 2 yrs old, the bad part is my 3.5 year old dose not want to potty train I sometime think that maybe it is my fault because he wants to be like his dad , dose anyone have any suggestion on how I should handle this

Do whats right for your kid !!! if that means not being in them when hes awake or around then dont wear them man . hes a baby and doesnt understand this stuff . so do whats right for the kid. imagine if hes going into school and hasnt taken to big boy undies yet!!!!! yep hes not gonna do well with all the teasing coming his way kids are mean little sukers they aare ruthless wehn picking on another kid. trust me i remember i was picked on and did some pikin also so do whats right for his sake.

I wish it was that easy, but I don't wear diapers out of enjoyment I am incontinent, so it either diapers or a catheter

Well thats diffrent but why do your kids know i was incontinent for a while and noone ever noticed i was wearing , my fmaily knew but all of my friends and their kids never knew it try something slimmer or quiter . good luck my friend i know your pain. it suks but it beats cancer or something like that.

Well i dont know if this will help but i will put it out there. My thoughts on children is that if you are incont you should explain to them what that means. Also it would be best to train them. then if they really wanna be like you and wear diapers make them earn the right. tell them "As soon as you can prove you are a big boy/girl, I/we will let you start wearing diapers if you want. To prove you are a big boy/girl you have to be potty trained and be able to go without any accident. Now If you Have an accident it is ok but try to let me/us know that you need to go. This goes for while asleep and while awake. And another thing to prove you are a big boy/girl, dont keep asking if it has been long enough. The more you ask about it the longer you will have to wait. Then once you have proven you are old enough we will discuss what you will have to do to prove you really want to wear them. Such as being put into diapers while home and not being allowed to you the potty without permission. Plus you have to think about the fact that if you are in diapers other kids may make fun of you. And if anyone asks why you are wearing diapers at this point you have to tell them the truth, that you want to but you do not need to."

This is basically what i would do in your place you may have other ways of saying thing or this may even give you some ideas but either way i hope things work out for you and your kids.

This can't be an easy one - my thoughts are with you. Although Psykira has some good points you can't explain incontinence or things to a 3+ yr old. They just would not understand. Mamasboy is right in keeping it to discrete family and not kids or friends. Your kids are far better off just not seeing or knowing just yet - they just don't need to know.

The best I can see is to make sure you use thinner diapers or pads inside boxers so that kids don't see them. Buy special boxers with a 'pouch' inside for use with pads when kids are around, so that it all looks normal. What you do when they are asleep - have great fun in the thickest diaper you can find!! 😃 😃

I hate to say this but you just underestimated the intelligence of children. I know for an ABSOLUTE FACT that a 3 year old can understand things easily if you teach them. My niece, (and this story may give away my identity if someone knows this story, and i will not use names) smart girl by the way, was helping my cousin study when she was taking a class from either Bryman or Eton, which ever one it was, and my niece was also learning some of this info too, well my sister used to say that my niece was "being a pain in her foot 3 joints up" well my niece asked my cousin what a joint was, and my cousin told her a simple explanation, "It is any part on your body that moves. And at 3 1/2 years old she touch her foot and counted all the points that moved from her foot up til she got to 3. At which point she says "That means i am being a pain in your butt". well now that i think about it she may have been 4 1/2 but but point remains do NOT underestimate a childs intelligence.

I don't think you should use your diapers infront of your babies :/

I have a good friend who is incontinent she wears 24 7 too she had twin boys 3 1/2 .She told her boys that big boys don't wear diapers but mommy has too because she cant hole it you might try the same thing it might work

I think you can explain to them that it is medical. For example if you see a person in a wheelchair, that's not a reason not to learn to walk. I think kids can understand that, it's all in how you explain it. Just like Grandma needs glasses or a cane (I don't know your family, but it's very possible.

You can tell them also that you don't want to wear diapers, and if you could you would never want to have pee or poop in your pants because it feels gross. Maybe you do like your diapers as well, but they don't need to know. It may even help to not call them diapers -- just "Daddy's underwear."

My suggestion? Wear something slim and quiet around your kids, always under clothing. A couple times a day, go into the bathroom like you are going.

I'll tell you right now, not every kid is potty trained at 3 1/2. Some come about a lot later. It's not all that uncommon to be 4 years old before they are trained.

-Sky

My two girls have been aware of Daddy's diapers all their lives. I have lived through this and understand your concern.

In my case the injury that caused my partial incontinence was war related and left a 6 inch scar down my lower stomach and my back. The girls had seen this and I never hid from them the reason I had to ware diapers.

Their Mother and I let them know that some people walked with a cane (their grandfather) and others were in wheel chairs one of their friends in church. They seem to accept that and bragged quite loudly to me and their mother whenever they were successful on the potty.

Sometimes children don't take interest in toilet training until later.

Well I am discovering that it is not always so easy to hide it. I have only recently become incontinent and the kids dont understand why I am suddenly cagey about them snuggling into our bed in the morning for a cuddle because I dont want them to see my nappy. Also, nappies sometimes stick up out of the back of your trousers, and they notice! My youngest said to me yesterday, "Whats that white thing sticking out of your shorts?" Then there is your partner - my wife is not so careful with my nappies and popper vests and padded pants as I am; she hangs them on the washing line, and leaves them in the family laundry.

You will never be able to hide it from your kids. Two parts of incontance: first is the medical and second is the mental. You need to deal with it.

I have done this for 41 years. Don't ever put off cuddling with your kids. It won't be easy to deal with but take a deep breath and tell them the truth. Daddy is sick and needs to ware diapers.

I think you will be surprised at their acceptance and understanding.