LADIES: How many of you DO NOT reach orgasm by vaginal penetration?

How many of you Ladies don't reach the orgasm by vaginal penetration ?

My wife can't have an orgasm by a vaginal penetration...neither penis, dildo or vibrator; no matter the time how long the vaginal stimulation is....! On her side vaginal penetration is like foreplay, she enjoys it, very much, but simply not reach the top.

She ONLY have orgasm by clitoral or G spot stimulation. Clitoral is explosive, very intense.....She moans, dirty talks, move legs and hips and the orgasm leaves her breathless, no more than one clitoral "O" a time usually....after she's completely satisfied and exhausted.

G spot orgasms are less intense...more long, but less intense....she can have multiple G spot orgasm in a session...they are not breathless ones 😃 !

She don't like that, she has in mind to be a woman with a sexual abnormality.....instead I like it, I feel like she's under the power of my fingers lol !

Interesting - my wife is the same way, only way to orgasm is via a vibrator buzzing her clit. She liked real sex but never could orgasm with me or multiple partners. When the vibrator works, the orgasm is powerful.

About two thirds of women cannot achieve an orgasm by vaginal penetration alone.

They must have clitoral stimulation.

THEY ARE THE RULE---NOT THE EXCEPTION.

That means you guys have to pay attention and take good care of your women.

My exwife was like that. She had told me prior to our relationship so I knew it wasn't me. I just gave her head everytime we had sex. Fine with me.

My ex-wife couldn’t have a vaginal orgasm without clitoral or anal stimulation, however when she got real close, the only thing necessary to trigger her orgasm was a little anal or clitoral stimulation. She had her strongest orgasm’s with my tongue stimulating her clitoris and a douche nozzle or my finger moving back and forth in her anus. We used enemas during foreplay every now and then, and occasionally, she’d have an orgasm holding a two quart enema with a butt plug inserted, while we had vaginal intercourse.

Ex-wife similar to Rick. Loved my kinks, especially giving me big long enemas dressed in rubber and PIV and giving her enemas, but she needed fairly long vigorous finger or tongue masturbation from me to have her own orgasms. Our PIV was very nice and mutually enjoyed, but not enough for her to come, even with an enema filling her first, unless I was fingering her too.

Eric

About two thirds of women cannot achieve an orgasm by vaginal penetration alone.

They must have clitoral stimulation.

THEY ARE THE RULE---NOT THE EXCEPTION.

That means you guys have to pay attention and take good care of your women.

That's what I always understood, too, including most of my exes, but I enjoyed giving them orgasms so much with other stimulation, usually oral or fingers, that we never had any problems.

Susie, you may have discussed this somewhere before, but if it's not too private, is this also true for you? Can you orgasm with PIV, maybe with kink stimulation like spanks or holding an enema, or do you need direct clitoral stimulation like my exes? Thanks,

Eric

I am lucky. I don't need specific clitoral contact, but when I am having intercourse, I do tend to do a bit of grinding and my husband and other sex partners have always pushed upwards on my introitus to make me cum faster and my husband's penis is not so long that he can't grind his pelvis against me (balls deep) to rub my clitoral area as we thrust. I suppose if he had a very long penis and could not get his pelvis to rub against mine (and my clitoris) I would have a more difficult time orgasming during intercourse. I also do a lot of kegels and can orgasm after a few of minutes of squeezing alone. When I masturbate with dildos, I like to rub sideways, up and down in addition to in and out, so I guess based on my preferences that if I only used them in and out, I might have a more difficult time having an orgasm.

Susie,

Thanks for such a clear and interesting explanation. I'm glad for you that you are able to do that. One more query, again if you don't mind, just because I love enema orgasms too. When you decide to orgasm by masturbation holding an enema, your descriptions sound like you take and hold your enema then just use your fingers, right? Any other stimulation? Thanks,

Eric

Which is why women can climax with clitoral stimulation and no vaginal penetration. Or clitoral stimulation and just anal penetration.

Susie,

Thanks for such a clear and interesting explanation. I'm glad for you that you are able to do that. One more query, again if you don't mind, just because I love enema orgasms too. When you decide to orgasm by masturbation holding an enema, your descriptions sound like you take and hold your enema then just use your fingers, right? Any other stimulation? Thanks,

Eric

When I am masturbating while holding an enema, I NEVER do anal insertions while I am masturbating. I don't want any spray or leakage from the anus that could bounce off my hands and contaminate my vagina. I frequent'y use a double balloon to retain the enema and usually use my fingers alone on my clitoris and labia. Sometimes I use my fingers on my clitoris and fingers or dildos in my vagina, but that's not often because I want to make sure my vagina stays clean.

Thanks, Susie. Very interesting. I hadn't thought about it, but it makes sense to tailor your stimulation to minimize vaginal contamination. I thought I remembered that you usually use a DBC for holding. I almost always do, also. I appreciate your time and willingness to share these sorts of details.

All the best,

Eric

I think I am lucky because I can orgasm quite a lot when my husband is fucking me. I like my g spot stimulated and it causes a lot of my orgasms, it is not just my external clitoris getting stimulated that does it.

I think I am lucky because I can orgasm quite a lot when my husband is fucking me. I like my g spot stimulated and it causes a lot of my orgasms, it is not just my external clitoris getting stimulated that does it.

I'm glad to know or at least hear from a lady who has this ability and is able to enjoy orgasms just like this, from vaginal stimulation. My exes loved orgasms but weren't able to enjoy them this way. I'm glad for you and wish you many more .

Eric

My wife wants both penetration and grinding of my pubis on her clitoris (or her grinding on mine, if she's on top). Or, in certain positions, two fingertips on clitoris.

She can climax from clitoral stimulation only but it's less satisfying, she wants to be filled.

If it is a "slam bam thank you maam" and "off to work" sort of thing, I have a few occasions (a few!!) of not reaching orgasm until he is out the door!! But That is fairly seldom as he makes sure my motor is sufficiently warmed up and I am racing down the runway with him before we lift off the end of the runway most of the time about the same time. Denise

I can but I reach it much more easily via clitoral stimulation. If I’ve had a few orgasms during foreplay I’m also much more likely to cum from thrusting.

My best orgasms are usually from my clitoris being stimulated, fingers, tongue or vibrator..

Only from my clitoris being stroked or licked. When a woman puts 2 fingers in my vagina it feels really good and sexual but I couldn't orgasm from it.

In my experience women fall into 3 groups...

A. Those who can readily achieve orgasm during intercourse (the minority)

B. Those who can readily achieve orgasm during manual or oral stimulation of their clitoris (the majority)

C. Those who cannot achieve orgasm under any circumstances (again the minority)

I find that for a woman to achieve orgasm during intercourse she has to be already aroused to quite a high level. I guess the problem is lack of direct clitoral stimulation and the fact that us men often ejaculate too quickly!

I remember when I was a boy my mum had a medical book called 'The Modern Woman's Home Doctor.' It was a bit of an old fashion book (I think you can still get it on Amazon) but as a boy I enjoyed thumbing through it on a regular basis. One of the chapters dealt with sexual intercourse and said that the woman reached climax because her husbands pelvic bone pressed against her clitoris on the in-thrust. I guess that is what people call 'grinding.' but I think most woman still need the finger or tongue to get them off.

Clitoral stimulation does absolutely nothing for me...in fact, I don't like it at all. G spot stimulation sends me to the moon & back. I clearly remember the 1st time I had a g-spot orgasm i thought I was going to die. Really. I kept coming & coming for 4 days straight. I couldn't eat or sleep or close my eyes but what it would start all over again. It was the most intense experience of my life. Providing my g-spot can be stimulated, I can orgasm with just vaginal penetration. I can also orgasm thru just anal sex or anal stimulation also.

My wife rarely reaches orgasm if we just have penetrative vaginal sex. So I like lots and lots of foreplay to get her good and ready. Long, slow butt massage. Lots of kissing and nibbling her upper thighs. A finger or two in her vagina while she plays with herself.

But the best, sure thing is oral sex. She told me last week it was an "instant orgasm." ?

I think I am lucky because I can orgasm quite a lot when my husband is fucking me. I like my g spot stimulated and it causes a lot of my orgasms, it is not just my external clitoris getting stimulated that does it.

I am similar in that when my sub hits that G spot .... Wow! But clit stimulation can also be quite enjoyable.

I can orgasm by penetration IF I'm on top. So far, I haven't found any other position that works, but I'm willing to keep trying.

I have never had an orgasm with vaginal penetration only. Ever. Nor have I ever been brought to orgasm orally only. Ever.

My most successful orgasms are the products of “mixed media” stimulation, as it were.

I can count on my hand how many times I had an orgasm without clitoral stimulation. Most of them involve anal/rectal penetration. Once was in anticipation of an intimate play piercing, with no hands on me whatsoever; it was such an intense orgasm, the piercing did not even have to take place, I was spent.

That is rare. So rare… I do not orgasm readily. Too often, it's because my inner monologue is too distracting and I'm unable to relax enough to just let go and come.

My ex-wide rarely orgasmed, but had the best chance if my penis was as fully penetrating her, and the tip of my penis was rubbing against her CERVIX. The challenge for me was not cumming too quickly with the sensation of her wetness and grinding so deeply inside of her!

Agree with @Ladybug761

A guy fucking me doesn’t do much for me. Maybe I haven’t found the right guy.

So much of my arousal and orgasm is dependent on the person, the scenario, and more parts of my body than just my vagina.

Orgasm by vaginally penetrative only? Never.

When I was young, I read every book, magazine, or article I could get my hands on that discussed sex, the female body, or was medical related (usually just skimming through to get to the good parts). Many would mention that women often need stimulation other than just vaginal, mostly focusing on the clitoris and g-spot. Most men's magazine articles stated to make sure the woman always cums first. So that's what I always tried to do. I never minded because it just meant more of me going down on her and/ or fingering her. Which I love doing both of.

The first girl I ever had sex with was also my first long term relationship. It didn't take me long to figure out she couldn't orgasm from just PIV, but needed other stimulation. So most times during sex, I would eventually make my way down to finish her off before I would penetrate her and get myself off. There were times that were just quickies, or she just wasn't in the mood for a full course meal that she would subtly skip the foreplay and lead me straight to the fucking. It was always her choice if she didn't want an orgasm.

So every sexual relationship after her, I approached sex and orgasms the same way. I always got her off with my mouth or hands first, then sex (or whatever) after. Then I met my wife. Again, it didn't take me long to figure out that she enjoys PIV better than anything else. She craves a penis in her vagina when she comes. Her preference is hard and fast, almost exclusively. When we are going at it like this, she cums fast. Like 2 or 3 times before I have my first orgasm. I'm not bragging or some super stud, it's just how she's wired. She still enjoys me using my hands and fingers, and can easily cum this way, but it's not her first choice. Oral feels good to her, and she is capable of cumming eventually, but she has a mental hangup about it. She's afraid she's dirty or smells or doesn't look good, so she doesn't let me do this very often. She is the only woman I've ever been with this way.

I've never had a vaginal orgasm. My boyfriends have told me that I was too big. Since menopause, I assume it was also too much natural lubrication which I don't have anymore. My vagina is now shorter, I have atrophy and I have to use KY jelly.

I was wondering if it's possible to have a vaginal orgasm without a uterus. I need to get a smaller dildo because I have pain with the one I have. I thought I was close to orgasm at one point but I was in pain so I stopped. Then I noticed I was bleeding around my opening. That was a month before I started hormone replacement.