Do you think doctor sexual abuse when you were a child affected your sexual orientation?

For gay men: Has doctor sexual abuse when you were a child affected your sexual orientation?

I was definitely abused by doctors growing up. It's hard to know if that is responsible for my orientation now but it certainly was a factor.

I knew long before a school medical that I was gay. So when I was asked to lie on the couch and he checked my foreskin and testicles it was heaven. I naturally got an erection and produced a sample for him. That memory stays with me and love it being repeated with playdocs. Wish I could find a real qualified doc to repeat it very clinically.

I don't think my pediatricians sexually abused me and my sister but they were very thorough and did not respect modesty like doctors do today. That was the norm before the 2000s though. They did not use gowns, examined me in my tighty whities and my sister in her panties only. By the time the dr did the rectal temp and exam at the end we were usually completely naked on our bellies. I started having gay sensations at the dr when i was 10-12 from when I was laying naked on the paper esp when the dr told me to turn over and inserted a finger, thermometer or speculum up my rectum. Even better when he gave me a suppository and enema when i was 15. Anyone had similar experiences and feelings?

It believe it definitely changed my orientation; from straight to bi-curious to bi. Not much I could do about it though, it's not like a boy saying "no" to a doctor would have done anything.

Hi Everyone. I am Gay and love being so. I am too old to change now. I get along, with both males and females.

Hi Everyone. I am Gay and love being so. I am too old to change now. I get along, with both males and females.

You say that you're gay and that you love it, but that you get along with both males and females. I guess you're bisexual, then? You say you're too old to change, but if you're bisexual, you get the best of both worlds, don't you? Why would you want to change (provided you were younger, following your train of thought), then?

Sexual orientation is not acquired. I am confident that no doctors exam is going to change that.

I agree. Sexual orientation is an innate capacity. It cannot be changed at will by medical experiences. Attempts to do so in the past are now largely discredited, although they persist, usually under the auspice of religious extremists or fanatics.

Dr. Fox

I agree with the majority of members. I always loved doing 'boy' things when young e.g. tree climbing, football/soccer and looking back I seemed to be quite macho. However, I always dreamed of going on a holiday and sleeping in a tent with a fellow school boy that I really fancied from our class in school , and it was not always the same boy either! I fantasised about kissing and cuddling because I did not know how sex really worked until later, but was anally inquisitive even then, and would have loved to be given the chance to find out. Experiencing my first enema in hospital when I was about 10 or 11 years old, seemed to channel my thoughts in this direction, as I have enjoyed many enemas since then, but feel my thoughts and inclinations would have gone this way automatically, but maybe a little later in my development.

Does it have to be abuse, exactly? I'd say that doctors definitely affected me when I was a boy (and afterwards), thereby helping make me gay. I'll post further to this thread shortly ...

- Ken

I don't think it was abuse, and I don't think it affected my orientation, but the feeling of submission to my doctor's dominance definitely led to my medical fetish.

Following up my last (post #11 ) ... I was never abused in any legal sense by a doctor when I was a boy, nor afterwards. (But I'm sure that there are some doctors who have their fantasies about patients, including gay fantasies.) But doctors certainly played a large part in the formation of my medfet over the years, and probably in my being gay from my teenage years and afterwards. For many years my boyhood and teenage and even adult fantasies were auto-erotic ones, centred on myself. This was something I didn't break out of, so it was natural that I grew up gay.

No, I wasn't abused in a legal sense by doctors. But, as I've described here before, my boyhood tonsillectomy, at age 4, effectively felt like a 'rape' - it was 'forced' on me by my parents, who readily consented to Doctor Shannon's recommendation that he do it to me. Up until when I went off to hospital, at the age of 4, I had lived happily with my parents, continuously. All of a sudden, I felt betrayed. The matron in the childrens' ward was severe that first night of mine in a strange, darkened place - but my loving parents were miles away! I was on my own, with my operation due next morning. That night proved a suitable prelude. Wheeled into the OR, I was told to move myself onto the operating table. Within moments, they had put a blindfold on me - no-one had told me to expect that - and then placed an ether-drip over my nose and mouth. The fumes were choking and ghastly. I tried to sit up but strong hands held me down. Terrified, I kicked out blindly, but it did me no good.

So that was traumatic! I had been powerless. It was the main basis for my later fetishes, centred on my mouth and associated with oppressive doctors! As I grew up, a Dr Edwardes would make home visits whenever I was put to bed with some illness. Invariably, he would borrow one of my Mum's silver spoons with a curved handle which he used as a tongue-depressor to check my throat - before eventually delivering his coup de grace, namely, a jab of penicillin in my little-boy bum! All of which served to reinforce my developing fantasies involving doctors and the invasive things they did to kids.

Also, I had a relatively lonely childhood and teenage, partly because I developed severe bodily eczema, and missed a lot of school. But that's enough now! My point is, it seems only natural to me that, from the start of puberty, my evolving sexual feelings were auto-erotic ones, which were next-door to gay ones, and that's what I soon realised I was - gay.

- Ken

home visits whenever I was put to bed with some illness. Invariably, he would borrow one of my Mum's silver spoons with a curved handle which he used as a tongue-depressor to check my throat

Apparently I had a tonsillectomy when very young, around 1 or 2. I don't remember it consciously, but some 15 years ago, my mother told me about it and described how I was taken away in hospital, crying and scared out of my wits by gruff and no nonsense personnel. That's how things were in the early 1950's undoubtedly.

And while i don't remember the hospital stay as such, unconsciously it must have made a strong impact as ever since I can remember, having anything put into my throat makes me extremely anxious and agitated and scared to death, even to the point of fighting people off. That happened during an attempted bronchioscopy. Tongue depressors and spoons in my mouth were the limits of what I could take from a doctor and made me more afraid than anything else.

Replying to post #14 ... lf you showed yourself terrified, agracier, when you had your tonsils out at a very young age (so young l thought it was practically unheard of), spare a thought for kids in Belarus. Their tonsils are whipped out without anaesthetic! There's a video on the lnternet showing such a kid trembling and terrified as it's done to him (he's bound to a chair).

As for your inability to tolerate a broncioscopy, I'm exactly the same, as l found out a few years ago. You think it's partly an attitudinal or psychological thing, I gather. Thanks! I find that most interesting!

- Ken

I was exploited by a doctor more than abused. From ages 11-14 then a bit again at 20. I don't think it turned me gay, but it certainly is a huge part of my sexuality now.

I was exploited by a doctor more than abused. From ages 11-14 then a bit again at 20. I don't think it turned me gay, but it certainly is a huge part of my sexuality now.

@Big_Dr_Bill Exploited? For 4 years, and then an encore 6 years later....

Interesting

I don’t know if it was abuse or simply the way it felt to me, but during many examinations I went through, it was or my dad or uncle to be in the room. While checking the foreskin (it was a bit too tight) the doc took a long time checking it, pulling it back as far as it would go, while explaining to whom was with me, that regular stretching would solve the problem and avoid “cutting it off”. Just hearing those words were a nightmare for many years. Of course during all that pulling and stretching I got an erection, making the whole experience even more embarrassing. Same happened during the stretchings at home.

Now, I don’t feel it as abuse, especially nowadays, and I really don’t think it were those experiences that made me gay, but it surely messed with my sexuality and developed different fetishes.

While checking the foreskin (it was a bit too tight) the doc took a long time checking it, pulling it back as far as it would go, while explaining to whom was with me, that regular stretching would solve the problem and avoid “cutting it off”. Just hearing those words were a nightmare for many years. Of course during all that pulling and stretching I got an erection, making the whole experience even more embarrassing. Same happened during the stretching at home.

Now, I don’t feel it as abuse, especially nowadays, and I really don’t think it were those experiences that made me gay, but it surely messed with my sexuality and developed different fetishes.

It certainly seems like it affected you the same way that getting enemas at an early age affected many members here including me. I think it is good to be able to talk about it here where there is an ability to get feedback. I can't say whether that made you gay, it is a possibility though.

While checking the foreskin (it was a bit too tight) the doc took a long time checking it, pulling it back as far as it would go, while explaining to whom was with me, that regular stretching would solve the problem and avoid “cutting it off”. .

Sounds like a caring and attentive doc. Had he pulled it back suddenly, jerked it loose, the experience might have been far more painful. Better to go slow and easy, even if the feelings of embarrassment go on longer.

And lucky for you he didn't go for immediate circumcising. That is always an option that a person can choose later, as an adult, if they so wish.

It certainly seems like it affected you the same way that getting enemas at an early age affected many members here including me. I think it is good to be able to talk about it here where there is an ability to get feedback. I can't say whether that made you gay, it is a possibility though.

It certainly seems like it affected you the same way that getting enemas at an early age affected many members here including me. I think it is good to be able to talk about it here where there is an ability to get feedback. I can't say whether that made you gay, it is a possibility though.

That is why I joined, again. Many times I encounter hostile reactions to me opening up, thinking that this should be a safe place to share not only the fetish but what had created it.

I don’t think that being gay is an choice or that our preferences can be created, growing up (the most of us) in a heterosexual surrounding. But it definitely formed my sexual likings and fetish.

Concerning abuse: while sexual abuse is a reality, for far to many, the reactions to it is, I think, very personal and individual. Today, like during those times, it never felt as an abuse.

Sounds like a caring and attentive doc. Had he pulled it back suddenly, jerked it loose, the experience might have been far more painful. Better to go slow and easy, even if the feelings of embarrassment go on longer.

And lucky for you he didn't go for immediate circumcising. That is always an option that a person can choose later, as an adult, if they so wish.

You are right, slow and easy was a good choice to avoid unnecessary pain. And all was done by using a lubricant. I must say I am very happy that no circumcision was needed. Never got the real purpose of it (beside a religious one or if necessary due to a medical condition).

The stretching at home then became a simple part of my (also) sexual awakening which, for most I think, could be seen as abuse (especially because they went on far beyond what I think would have been for medical purpose), but isn’t anymore in my eyes. But yeah, definitely cause of many fantasies and the medfet.

Probably it is an element but not all

Hi, i'm here recently, but i'll try to answer too.

I think I had medical exploitation from a man doctor in sport boarding school, but it wasn't just because of this that I became gay.

I never got sexually abused by my doctors, but I did have an old guy in his 60s give me my first blow job in a public restroom when I was 12-13 years old. He caught me jerking off in the stall and then gave me money to let him suck my dick. But I was already into guys so he didn't have anything to do with it.

I was sexualized as a child, including fetish-orienting things, some of which was doctor play, but I don't think it affected my orientation. I know others, straight and gay both, who had the same experiences with the same people.

When I was about 8 I had foreskin issues. I remember my dad taking me to the doctors office. The doctor asked me to take my pants off and lay on the bench. As soon as I laid on the bench I got an erection. I remember him smiling at me as he was inspecting my penis and told me it was nothing to be embarrassed about. I was laying there with a rock hard skinned back erection in front of him and my dad.

I am still trying to find any medical/scientific evidence that any outside influences can change your sexual orientation including gay to straight or straight to gay. Despite all of the efforts to do so, I've read nothing to the contrary.

I didn't know that “doctor sexual abuse” was such a common thing that it had its own designation as such.

I am still trying to find any medical/scientific evidence that any outside influences can change your sexual orientation including gay to straight or straight to gay. Despite all of the efforts to do so, I've read nothing to the contrary.

That is because there isn't any way to change any of a person's innate personal characteristics or personality traits, be they sexual or not, not unless the people in question themselves make a very conscious and sustained effort to do so.