I was introduced to enemas during a period of sexual liberation in my first marriage. I use the term liberation because that fits best: The ingrained sexual inhibitions of the '50s and '60s that were such a prominent part of the moral bulwark of "decent families" began to crumble like a breached dam for us -- once undercut, the earthworks" got swept away in a torrent. Two well-brought-up suburban kids had grown into a pair of kinksters, with new adventures and deviations from "normal" being tried shamelessly. It was then that my enema fetish developed, and also when my "bi-ness" began to emerge from whatever taboo it had been hiding behind. It took me a little while to get fully comfortable with dom/sub play -- wife unquestionably in charge -- and with the central role the enema played in it. Likewise, my newly recognized attraction to M2M play. But neither took very long to accept and embrace, so here I am, an aging enema "universalist". Women or men, giving or taking. . . with me, it's like the answer to the "enema" question in the Zity profile: "Everything to do with it." The sad thing for many of us is that the question of either men or women or both can remain academic for l-o-n-g stretches.
For live play, it can be difficult to find and connect with a fellow enthusiast of any gender or stripe. Given the low and apparently dwindling number of avid enema enthusiasts in the general population, and the fact that, to be met with regularly, a playmate would have to be located within some fairly small circle -- say, a 100-mile radius -- finding a mate is not easy, even on a high-density site like Zity. After about thirty active years, I can still count the number of enema partners I've had on one hand, and I'm particular only about sanity and mutuality, not gender.
To go a little further on mating up, I do envy those members who have either found a fairly steady stream of enema playmates, or had a single longstanding one. And I do believe the single familiar mate can keep the game every bit as exciting over the long haul as it would be with a succession of new players. I base that on my experiences with both my ex-wife and the girlfriend who followed: After several years of playing with the wife, and a little over a year with the girlfriend, "enema time" never lost a single volt of "tingle power" and mystical appeal -- in fact, a certain amount of familiarity helped create a background of comfort and relaxation that would otherwise have been missing. Unlike with some experiences had with the same person over and over, enema play never got old or boring. As time went by, I never failed to get those same butterflies in my chest when I'd imagine the romp that was coming, next weekend!