Feminization without humiliation

Any one into the feminization without the humiliation aspect? The two seem to often go hand in hand. I really don't care for degrading stuff.

I think I'd rather enjoy being submissive, but to a kind, supportive mistress. Anyone else feel this way? Are there doms that operate under this philosophy?

While you didn't use my words, you are into feminization WITHOUT the sissy aspect.

You may also be into cross dressing.

Hey there! I'm a lurker for a bit now; but figured let's throw in my two cents. To answer your question: yes, while feminization and humiliation do seem to go hand in hand in most cases they're not exclusive to one another. Personally I enjoy both aspects; but there are times when I'm feeling particularly vulnerable and don't want to be humiliated.

I would recommend looking into Gentle Femdom and Role Reversal blogs or forum threads. (I just recently started using Reddit). I think that those of us who don't immediately connect the two together have an understanding that they CAN compliment each other; but do not need to.

I Love to feminize myself whilst alone. .i certainly shave my hair and then put talc on to soften the skin . For me fem starts the moment i insert my tampon into my boy pussy....omg

Might be a little greedy of me, but I want both with and without.

Humiliation in general is such a turn on for me and it seems so natural to tack on to feminization play even acknowledging the equality issues that it suggests (it isn't shameful to be a woman, or to not be masculine, all that).

Yet the idea of being encouraged in a positive way to dress up, being rewarded for embracing the girliness, being praised for doing things right or letting my partner do what she wants... That's intoxicating. After all, there's no complement I'd rather hear more than "Good girl". 😃

Tricky question in that it depends on how you define humiliation - if it includes doing something that's a bit embarrassing and shocking, then I can relate.

I love being feminised. The preparation, deciding whether to be on my cycle and one a tampon, tieing up my cock and creating a false pussy, fake breasts then deciding which sexy underwear to wear and know I'll be cuming in later

I'm more into the humiliation part of it. I was caught by my sister dressed in her ,cand Moms clothes. This hapoened when she was suppose to be at a after school activity, but came home instead. My Mom being a single mother was at work, I thought I had the house to my self. In walked sis while I was wiggeling my butt walking across the luvingroom. I was caught and it was humiliating, She told Mom and it was even more humiliating. That has to be it, I was so embrarrased and humiliated from the experence , that it became part of it.

If I had not been csught , and embarrased and humiliated like that. Maybe it would not br part of it. I feel the way we react to siuations is because of the way we are intriduced to situations

Yeah! Loving, teasing but supportive!

I am. And I think Switchablesusie's definition works for me - without the sissy aspect.

X-dressing holds no attraction outside of sex games, but yeah it's great to have a partner on-board with your urges. Usually, this involves thighs and garters, but no bras or panties. No chastity, but when time permits the aim is to either avoid - or delay my cumming... for me, this is also part of feminization (in my simple mind, girls are better, more giving than guys, and in their mind climax is less important than their partner's)... so when we get wild, the game is to see how much she can like it while holding my own...

it all started with my Gf playing with me - I could do her vaginally (we used quite a bit of lube), but when I got close, she would relax a lot, to the point i could not come. Rinse and repeat, which put me in a funky space - i guess the equivalent of sub space without the pain. She would stop me to apply more lube, and play some more. She would usually let me come when she got tired. Then, one night, she didn't; she pushed me off her, then asked me if I would like to wear tights... i was so horny, I said yes! She dressed me up, with garters and some thicker stockings... i guess she planned ahead, and then asked me to sleep. I was frustrated, but in a great way. Whenever we did that i would ask her not to wash after, so i could smell her musk. It was like a really drawn out sex, with closeness and warmth... morning sex was usually something that left us both staring at the ceiling, breathless... oh, those were the days 😃

I've enjoyed being with dominant men out on the street. Of course walking hand in hand with a dominant guy in Hollywood is only of interest to tourists. But I have enjoyed it. Last month I was with a good friend and was well used. We then went for a walk on Sunset Strip up Vine to Hollywood Blvd hand in hand, and kissing occasionally. It was a liberating experience. I want to go further when this lockdown is over!

I am beginning to see my self as girlish - it feels right. I'm not sure what the sissy role is, but being feminine is very attractive to me.

Sex is only a part of my attraction. I envy how girls can be in charge - guys don't realize we are being played! I don't know how far I will take this, but right now - the skys the limit.

From the beginning this was mostly my wife’s working...

.it started with chastity training and soon after she started feminizing me...

The reason for chastity was because I truly needed it,,,,I was completely out of control needing sex everyday and masturbating way too much,,,so she read about chastity training and ordered a cage for me,,,,,,the fem training started when she started chatting with others on here and other sites and she learned how much she wanted me as her girlfriend,,,,,

Actually no humiliation at all she actually help me to get comfortable with my feminine side,,,,

Yup, that's something I'd love to play around with. I don't like humiliation. A little bit of embarrassment in a loving and nurturing dynamic, however, is really hot. Regarding the "sissy" thing: while I'm not at all interested in the extreme/humiliating thing that seems to pervade a lot of sissy porn and erotica, it'd be kind of hot to "reclaim" the word and its associations (submissiveness, sensitivity, being in touch with a feminine side).

Adding to my earlier post, I find there is an element of doing something naughty that excites.. The idea of being in women's panties, bras, girdles, stockings, and garter belts does that for me.

I could quite easily be into feminization IF it were at the hands of my wife. Right now I am occasionally enjoying wearing lace panties under my diapers. I am about to order some more for store pick-up when I leave town next week for 6 days. I expect to wear them every day. I'd also like to get either lace top thigh high hose or panty hose. Without going thru the entire conversation, the other day when something went wrong and I said I needed to put my big boy pants on, my wife interjected I should put my big girl panties on. (She doesn't know I have a pair.) She then told me they have really cute big girl panties I could wear. I wear an extra large golf shirt when lounging around the house that we refer to as my dress. That is what spurred her comment as I was wearing my "dress" and my diapers at the time. Later, I walked by her without the "dress" on and only wearing my diaper. She mentioned she liked my man boobs (we agreed they are about a 44AA). Since that conversation I have been looking at sissy bra and pantie outfits. I suspect some day I'll get at least one set so when she makes these kinds of comments again I can walk into another room and come back out dressed as she suggested.

I would do most anything on earth she asked of me. I often hint at being submissive to her; but, those hints go pretty much nowhere. Some day I'd love for her to tell me it was time I took her golden showers and licked her clean. Humiliating? Not at all so far as I'm concerned. I would cherish drinking her pee and having it sprayed on me.

However, all this said, I would NOT wear women's clothes in public such that they were visible. That would be totally humiliating.

I should add to previous reply here that where the feeling of humiliation came into play was when buying women's underthings in stores. Wow! That was humiliating! Depending upon what I was buying, the humiliation was greater for certain garments. The easiest to buy were items like teddies and garter belts, then came bikini panties, a bit harder were full-cut panties, and hardest of all were girdles and traditional style bras.

Well, in the 12 days since my last post I have taken my collection of panties up to 4. The 2nd and 3rd pair were in the same package of Hanes Microfiber Hipsters. I happen to have one pair on as I type this. Today, I purchased a pair of lace hipster panties at an adult store I visit from time to time. I actually went there for something else; but, why not look? They were on sale and only cost $5.00. Anyway, I've not felt any embarrassment or humiliation making any of the 3 purchases. The first pair I purchased at Kohl's had me slightly nervous; but, not enough that I didn't buy them.

I like feminization, especially wearing lingerie, but humiliation isn’t part of it for me. I like the woman to be enthusiastic, to want me to model different outfits for her and to help me, for example by fastening the garters to the stockings.

I’d like to combine feminization with a full shave, but I haven’t done that yet.

Adding enema play or watersports would be wonderful, too.

I myself? Was & is wondering where I stood on my journey with me now calling myself a,, transvestite as opposed to a cross dresser I,,, would say I am & I guess? with all the terminology and different definitions & meanings of,,,,, this. In coming to this website & reading on this Topic I should really just speak for myself because,,, it’s (me) that is this & does this & now being what’s called a transvestite or at least for this moment/ time that’s what,, the name for it/ what I do. Until perhaps? I change to a next level,, so to speak From the time I started doing (this) I did notice in myself/Kara I have & had a change as what is called cross dressing from the knowledge of what,,,, I know of it C-dressing meant to (me) was a guy/Me,, wanted to wear mostly,,, undergarments of woman clothing &,,, 4Me in the past included while wearing the undergarments I,,, would find myself to masturbate than want to take those undergarments off. & that than stopped for many many years until about? 5 years ago out of nowhere some sort of??? Feeling was happening &,,, the internet kind of? Made me inquire/ being on certain websites and then everybody knows that a part of the website there’s something called links & that just opened up,,,, so many avenues &,,,, here I am now so to speak. But what changed dramatically I really don’t find that I tend to want to masturbate I have been out &about as Kara with wearing a wig/makeup some times I look better than other times dressed up. &,,,, Now on this Subject!! I am finding myself very curious ? of (Sissy)-mistresses so,,, is this now a next level so to speak that will occur to me now?? What will be the name & definition ? Who knows lol ? but 1 thing I should mention,, as long as I don’t hurt myself or,,, others I would say: it will & should be ok

Linking this to what I said about "bi when dressed" https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1112598 as I need to be in a woman's girdle and bra and then suddenly I feel feminized and want to show off and parade around for the pleasure of another man.

I I can relate to the idea of feminization without humiliation. I do not see the need to desire to getting in touch with my feminine side only to have someone degrade me. I just enjoy feminine things and wear them for me, no one else. Right now, as I sit at the computer, I look down and see the swell of breasts as the top I am wearing drops between them. It is a sight I like to look at because it lets me know that I do have feminine needs in addition to those of my masculinity.

Done it many times without. It's certainly doesn't have to be a part of it. Purely personal preference.

Yeah, I am a very ordinary man and feel very comfortable in my cowboy jeans and shirt... but, if a cowgirl leads me back to her place, takes my jeans down and spanks me across her knee... she may want to make me wear a denim skirt, but by the time I got it on, she would have taken her jeans off, took me to the nearest flat pallet, lifted my skirt and give me a really good, hard shaggin!

I'll take a slightly different tack on this, as 1) some others have said they enjoy it with an element of embarrassment and 2) I'm a longtime straight male switch but love my switch Domme ex to treat me as a sub and give me large, long submissive enemas mixed with our other kinks. This often meant her dressing me in head to toe latex suit, hood and gloves plus another kink of ours, thick rubber sneakers like Converse Chucks over the suit. Then I'd be cuffed to keep me immobile and after a lot of finger and plug ass play, she'd put in an enema DBC and inflate it to make me hold one large or two smaller enemas (both held together, no release in between). Then there's a long period of verbal taunting and physical chores to let her enjoy watching me struggling through them holding the enema. The idea was to make me feel as submissive, helpless, embarrassed and humiliated as possible which we both enjoyed very much.

Usually no mention is made of feminization except sometimes she'd refer to me as her "little subbie enema girl" or the like to accentuate the submission. I or she never felt degraded by this but actually enjoyed it as part of her temporary but intense consensual Domme-inance over me that day. We would switch on other days so I could let her enjoy being the same kind of enema sub on other days.

Now I'm not a cross dresser nor was I asked to, but if my female partner the next time wanted to really try to make me feel feminized as part of our D/s kink/enema play, I'd love it. She could just start our whole session with her intent to feminize me temporarily with our other kinks. If we planned ahead, she could dress me in either a female rubber wetsuit or latex suit with breasts and/or also put me in a female cheerleaders uniform with a skirt, then change the sneakers she made me wear either with a women's style or color of sneakers. The whole time of course she'd be referring to me as a girl and making me as feminine as possible. Knowing her and some other ideas I've read here, she'd also frequently taunt and embarrass me by her intent to make me look as pregnant as she could with as large an enema as she wanted in me.

"You remember how I usually fill your belly and show you your distention and then make you hold it while I make you do chores and give me orgasms?"

"Of course, ma'am, you always make it hard to do and humiliating."

"Well this time, little girly sub, before we start that, you're going to have to look very, very pregnant for me. I know for sure you can hold 4 quarts and even did 5 for me once, so I'll be sure to measure it this time so we know how to make you look pregnant whenever I want............"

"Yes, Mistress, whatever you need to make be feminine for you today." Of course as is our usual, I'd be moaning groaning and begging not to be a girl and not to have to look pregnant to no avail. If she really was enjoying doing this to me, she'd probably reply with something like

"Oh, yes, my little subbie rubberized enema girl. You'd better get used to me turning you feminine this way pretty often from now on. After I fill you with your beautiful huge pregnant enema and start making you give me orgasms, I want to be fucked by a sexy female enema slave today. That would be you! And we have all night to make you feminine, so I can do whatever I want to make you a girl. And don't even think about an orgasm for yourself until you look as feminine and pregnant as I like.""

"Yes, Mistress, I know I always need to make you happy and well-fucked before me. Thank you, ma'am."

I'm solo for now but a) it's a very powerful fantasy for giving myself enemas, and b) if I'm lucky, my next Domme partner will enjoy it as well.

Eric

If a Mod needs to move my last post #24 just now about feminization but with embarrassment and humiliation, please do.

Just to clarify, in #24, I was simply describing a hypothetical variation of a D/s situation between a Domme partner and I who I knew in my past. I think that adding the feminization with humiliation dynamic to our commonly enacted D/s meetings would be mutually enjoyable. However, though I still find it an enjoyable idea, I wasn't endorsing or recommending one version of feminization of partners (with or without humiliation) over another, only describing one version we might enjoy. I'm a straight male switch who enjoys certain D/s sessions with a trusted partner, but have never been asked about feminization.

Eric

I have been feminizing my husband for three years now,I have never tried to humiliate him,I want him to be happy and confident and he is when dressed as a woman,I have started him on hormones,I know that will make him feel even more feminine.

I have had both humiliation and non-humiliation play with my wife thru the years. They each have their merit' s. I usually am attired in a pair of granny panty bloomers and bra and sometimes a pair of thigh high hose and flower topped bedroom slipper shoes.

When humiliated she comments about how pretty I look and what a girlish looking man I am and how would I like to be seen by other family and friends at this moment adding to my embarassment and arousal at those comments.

She when I am fully aroused and sporting an erection begin' s teasing me about my manhood being extended stretching out the bloomer fabric and how it doesn't occur with them when on her adding to my arousal.

I am given chores to perform with numerous quips such as if they are not done to her satisfaction my bottom will be disciplined as I lay across her lap with either a bare hand or wooden hairbrush with bloomer down. There has been many different manners of play thru the years all her choice with me.

Being of bisexual nature I have on occasions dressed in my described manner and pleasured a male friend of mine who enjoys it immensely and he comments how much of a sissy I appear to be and if I don't please him he will be telling all my friends about my practice it elevating my arousal and performance for him. Fretter

I have been feminizing my husband for three years now,I have never tried to humiliate him,I want him to be happy and confident and he is when dressed as a woman,I have started him on hormones,I know that will make him feel even more feminine.

Dramatic red announcement. Hi. No criticism, just interest. Feminizing him your idea or his or both? What's your mutual long term goal for yourselves? Sounds like you have a big happy family, the most important thing. I'm very glad.

Eric

My situation came about indirectly from physical short commings.With my 2nd marriage in my 50's everything worked fine then my incontinence returned which I had trouble with growing up I tried to hide it but had to own up to it.We discussed it and a return to diapers were the only way to keep her and the bed dry.She had always been a little stern but with all the problems her [more] dominate side came out.She always wanted things a certain way about this time was tested and found to have autism+dd there some of both feminization plus humiliation.When we go on vacation she will ask Do you have enough diapers packed?This is true.

I enjoy CDing with and w/o humiliation. I was dressed in a nightgown as a kid for my enemas, and it went into daytime girl clothes after that, but without any humiliation.

Fast forward to adulthood, between marriages, when I was free to have a lot of fun. A domme I met at nozzllevile found out about my CDing, so she’d take me to stores to buy lingerie, stockings, dresses and shoes, and let the sales clerks know that everything we were shopping for was for me, as obviously, the sizes my domme was searching for would not fit her. She didn’t go out of her way to humiliate me, but of course, I was rather demure, and was still rather embarrassed, as it was obvious who the bras, panties, teddies, etc. were for.

Some clerks started to ask probing questions, and opened up quite a bit about their desires. Rather cheeky of them! In addition to being frank with them about dressing me up, my domme would usually mention that she gave me enemas. That really opened some eyes, especially when punishment enemas, cock cages, sounds and catheters were mentioned. We actually hooked up with a couple of the clerks, and each encounter was a total blast! I think a lot of women like the idea of feminizing and controlling their guy.

My first domme also took me out to bars and clubs, fully en femme. Not all of them were gay bars where me being dressed up would be more, er, excusable? But that was all part of the fun we had together, and she wasn’t the only girlfriend/domme who had her way with me like that. What can I say? I’m a very, very lucky guy! All of this lead to some incredible sex, too, both vaginal penetration as well as some fierce peggings!