Hi, forgive me if this belongs somewhere else. I am interested in self-care. I am basically shy, and although enemas are very sexual for me, they are also about self-care. A lot of things in my life are that way.
I sometimes wonder if part of the problem with some sex partners is that they are barreling through their fantasies without taking a moment to stop and feel. There's nothing wrong with most fantasy fulfillment, but if you are going to get into kinky sex, or multiple partners, or whatever (and no judgment here) I think it is important to stop along the way and feel. Just feel.
And maybe I am over-thinking the whole thing. But I like connection. I like connection between partners, friends, even friends with benefits. Connection and healing are everything. And no, I'm not that spiritual -- I have my dark side. But I do like to slow down occasionally.
How do you all view self-care?