Childhood Foreskin Exams

Getting older I have learned a lot about being uncircumcised and how to your foreskin should be taken care of. And Im not sure if this is where you would put this, but this experience has been eating at me to be shared for a while now. So I am going to put it here for you all to read and maybe it will spark some kind of discussion.

Ill preface this that whether it was right or wrong my parents had always been very invested in properly maintaining my foreskin. They are both very anticircumcision and my mother didnt want me to ever undergo any type of unnecessary surgery as a child. My foreskin did not fully retract until the age of 10 when I retracted it myself in the bath. I remember as early back as 4 or 5 my foreskin being retracted at baths and exams. There are home videos of some of my first doctors visits and even of me being changed on the side as early as 1 or 2 years that my mother or aunt or a nurse relentlessly pushed back on my foreskin to examine and clean it while I cried and squirmed.

This added to my memories leads me to believe my foreskin was retracted daily from the age of 1 to 10. This was always painful but what could I do uncircumcised boys must have their foreskin cleaned. I rememeber most of my exams went about like this. I was probably 5 or 6 I remember and I was there for my monthly foreskin exam. My foreskin was too tight according to the pediatrician and until it was loose enough I had to visit for monthly foreskin exams. I was laid down on my back my pants taken off and the doctor came in with two nurses. He began by rolling the head of my penis between his fingers then pulling slightly on the foreskin opening which made me whince. He asked my mother if she had still been retracting me to which she told him yes which was true. She was always told to stop retracting me 3 days before the exams to make sure it was back to normal and had stretched out by my exam which it never did.

Every morning I woke up and my mother began the day by stretching my foreskin back with force. She would leave my penis exposed and bandage my foreskin behind the head in an attempt to maintain retraction during school. The glans was painful and sensitive and my foreskin would rub closed while walking. When I came home I was bathed my foreskin was pushed back painfully for the second time and my glans scrubbed raw. I was then checked again before bed and yanked into retraction a third time. My foreskin and penis were almost always sensitive sore and bright red. Hell during holiday gatherings my foreskin was sometimes pulled back as punishment just because it hurt but was still considered good for me.

Sorry back to my examination. A nurse would come to my feet and hold them down and my mother my arms. The doctor would then grab my foreskin and pull sharp but ineffective tugs on my foreskin that just began to make me sore and did not retract me much at all. He then would push all of his weight into the retraction and force it back till the tip of my glans bent downwards and my foreskin was stretched tight along with my frenulum. My foreskin opening would tear and my glans would bleed a little around the foreskin attachments. When I was 6 he started the second phase of treatment. After forced retraction he would close my foreskin and reopen it several times while I yelled out. He would then close my foreskin and push what I now know is a hemostat beneath it and open it wide and remove it scrapping the torn inner foreskin and stretching my foreskin opening painfully wide until the hemostat was removed and my foreskin snapped shut. He then yanked my foreskin back down and pinched my extremely sensitive and tight frenulum with the hemostat. He held my foreskin back gently as he did this only until it rolled up beneath the glans. Then he pulled my frenulum using the hemostat as far away from the glans as he could until it was overly taught. He then held the hemostat in place putting extreme tension on my frenulum as the second nurse yanked my now unretracted foreskin down to the base of my shaft 3 times. I screamed and began to cry as my tight frenulum was stretched past its limit and began to tear from the foreskin up towards the glans slightly causing me to bleed.

The doctor held my foreskin down in place of the nurse and turned the hemostat downward bending my glans slightly and relieving some pressure from my frenulum where it had begun to tear from my foreskin. As he sent the nurse to grab what was needed to finish up my pain dulled a little as my foreskin stopped being manipulated. As I calmed the nurse returned with a sharp small hook shaped hemostat and with out warning jammed it into my glans between the urethra and the frenulum i screamed loudest I could as she dug into my glans and opened the hooked hemostat and pushed in clamping down on the frenulum where it attached to the glans. She cut my frenulum out of my glans and pulled down on my bleeding foreskin tearing my frenulum about half way off of my glans. The pain through this procedure is indescribable my raw bloody glans was then shoved back into my underwear my foreskin left retracted. I was not given any pain relief or doctors note and was sent home and to school with my raw glans and foreskin rubbing against clothing and itself.

This was performed on me once a year until at the age of 10 I pulled my foreskin back permanently for the first time myself. It terrified me and I only knew my foreskin had to be retracted as I was told painful or not it was for my health. My foreskin is mo longer tight and I have 2 punctures in my frenulum from the procedures.

I may have been unable to retract had this not been done to me or worse circumcised. I know they say it damages your foreskin to retract before puberty unless it is ready. But my foreskin was stretched every day until retraction and now works perfectly. Im not suggesting to tear childrens frenulum or anything. But if it worked on me then maybe it isnt so bad to just pull it back?

Im interested to hear from anyone and everyone and ill answer any questions as well

I think this has been discussed in some threads on https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=showboard;board=566

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In any case, I can relate. I had a mild case of tight foreskin and my mom instructed me to pull on it myself every night (I think it was her physician's advice) while washing. Mom checked on it periodically, though less frequently as I aged.

A cousin of mine (his predicament is what prompted mom to seek advice for me) was not so lucky: his mom's physician apparently advised forcefully pulling on the skin, I think during bath time every evening. It was very painful and he cried and soon was running away from it, I later learned. I don't think she used any anesthetic or steroid, just some kind of antibacterial soap perhaps.

My 10 and 14 year old girl cousins were allowed to forcibly retract me between 8 and 9 to learn about foreskin. I was the only boy and the only uncircumcised in my whole family. I think painful or not if enough people are instructed to keep the boys foreskin back like with me it will never really tighten back or adhere. Now I have a rather large mushroom glans and my foreskin retracts perfect. Why not do this?

Getting older I have learned a lot about being uncircumcised and how to your foreskin should be taken care of. And Im not sure if this is where you would put this, but this experience has been eating at me to be shared for a while now. So I am going to put it here for you all to read and maybe it will spark some kind of discussion.

Ill preface this that whether it was right or wrong my parents had always been very invested in properly maintaining my foreskin. ......

Your story made me wince. It sounds like very bad practice, bordering child abuse.

I had the same issue during my childhood. During an examination of my penis when I was ~7 years old, the Dr tugged back on my foreskin and it just would not budge.

He told me how I could practice to stretch it up myself in the bathtub using the warm water for relaxing it, and told me to come back to him a few months later.

Thankfully it worked. Now it's still tight, but in a wonderful way 😃 I've no problems retracting it what so ever.

I'm sorry you had to go through so much discomfort and pain 😢

The school doctor said my foreskin was tight and that my dad was to help me stretch it. Dad was always much tougher than the doctor. I would always end up crying. Interesting to hear it was also used as a punishment, same here as well. Mine started when I was 7yo

Wow, heck of a tale.

I recall dr's retracting my foreskin as a child and it being uncomfortable, but nothing painful. I guess I got lucky and mine separated very early.

Lex: In my case it was slightly uncomfortable too. In the case of boys with phimosis or adherences, it can be very painful.

It was just uncomfortable because it wasnt used to being done at that age, not really right. So awkward would be more appropriate that uncomfortable I guess.

I had a light form of phimosis in my teenage time and often adherences by smegma. So when my mom took me to the paediatrician - mostly because of my serious abdominal problems - the doctor always examined my penis and foreskin, too. Because of the phimosis he wanted to sent me into the hospital for surgery, but my mom asked for another method and so he did a kind of stretching theraßy when I was between 11 and 14 yrs. Normally, it was not painful, only when there was adherence because of smegma), but it was always embarrassing, but it worked, so that I had no more phimosis later.

My mother and a myriad of girl cousins who bathed baby me always retracted my foreskin to wash under it per my mother's instructions. I have my father's home movies. My aunt had 13 kids and when they came to visit it was bathe the baby time. All the girls would participate while the boys disappeared out of sight from the camera. Sometimes I wonder if the girls came just so they could play baby me's little penis.

My mother told me her doctor asked if she wanted me cut and she said NO. He replied that she would have to retract it and wash under it at every bath. I don't know if the doctor retracted it or removed any adhesions before sending me home with her. There is nothing I can see on my glans or anywhere that looks like anything was torn away or cut. She did it religiously at every bath until she decided I was old enough to do it myself. I remember being quite disappointed that she wasn't going to do it. Somehow I guess it provided some sort of bonding for me. I never got an erection when she did it. I didn't even know what that was until a few years later.

My frenulum was always a bit restrictive and pulled the tip down when I pulled the foreskin back. That fixed it self right after I got married. It tore several times during intercourse and eventually disappeared. I can now retract all the way so the skin of the opening is at the bottom of the shaft stretching the inner foreskin to completely cover the shaft, to my delight. That inner foreskin is a wondrous thing.

When I was a preteen the tip was slightly tight when I was erect and would sometimes stay back after my nightly masturbation, leaving the glans exposed when I went to sleep. That was uncomfortable but I discovered that the bare knob was much less sensitive when I woke in the morning. It was dry and was fun to play with when it was like that. I got tired of it being tight and I stretched it by inserting my two little fingers in the opening while showering and holding it open as tight as I could stand it without creating any sores and holding it until I had enough. Eventually I was able to get three larger fingers in there and four if I pushed it.

A few years later I got tired of the head being sensitive and decided to desensitize it. I reasoned that cut guys were not sensitive due to being fully exposed since birth so I figured mine needed to be bared and touched until it was like that. I retracted the foreskin, cleaned it with rubbing alcohol on a cotton ball and let it air dry. At that point I could rub it without anything sticking to it. At first I lightly caressed it using a piece of very soft flannel. That evolved into being able to rub it harder and then with just my bare fingers. Doing that gave me really hard erections and it screamed MORE 😜 So even though it was still sensitive I told it it was going to get dry rubbed bare until it erupted. That felt so good 😃 I never went back to sliding the foreskin up and down. I always hold the foreskin back as tight as possible and rub the dry bare glans and intermittently stretch the inner foreskin.

My only regret is that my wife has no interest in doing that for me so it's a lonely adventure. I get so much pleasure out of licking and playing with her pussy I don't understand why females don't enjoy pleasuring the male.

I guess I was lucky that I didn't suffer any of the torture you did. When my frenulum tore it was during intercourse so I didn't feel a thing until some time later and even then the pain was minimal. It hurt worse the one time I tried masturbating in the shower using soap on it.

Roscoe, I agree with the pulled back method. I have been leaving it pulled back for years now and it stays that way 90% of the time. Masturbating that way is great, working the bare knob and inner skin with my dry hand. I find I cum much harder that way.

I've even tried sex holding the foreskin back the whole time. It's great but my hand gets in the way so I don't do it often.

It's cool to have the choice of how I want to use it; normal with foreskin mobil pr pulled back taught as if circumcised.

Roscoe, I agree with the pulled back method. I have been leaving it pulled back for years now and it stays that way 90% of the time. Masterbating that way is great, working the bare knob and inner skin with my dry hand. I find I cum much harder that way.

I've even tried sex holding the foreskin back the whole time. It's great but my hand gets in the way so I don't do it often.

It's cool to have the choice of how I want to use it; normal with foreskin mobil pr pulled back taught as if circumcised.

Lex,I can't get mine to stay back by itself so I don't get to try the feeling of a bare knob inside my clothing all day. I do think I may have the best of both worlds though since I desensitized it. I can enjoy dry rubbing it bare like a cut one then cover it up to preserve some added sensation.

I too tried sex while holding it back but my wife dislikes the feeling of the coronal ridge rubbing in and out, especially as it rubs her vaginal walls on the way out. I found the feeling of my bare head moving about inside her to be the best. If my wife wanted me to get cut I would readily agree to be able to have that feeling every time. However I would prefer to be able to make it stay back for sex and be able to have it cover back up to preserve more of the sensitivity.

Hello Qastor, Thank you for your post as I can readily relate to your experiences. My mother took me to the doctor at age 4 to have my foreskin examined (circumcised?). She commented that the doctor inserted a pair of "tweezers" into the tip of my foreskin to do the stretching. Then the doctor retracted my foreskin. She said I was bleeding. All that I can remember was that it was painful. At age 12 my mother took me to the doctor to have the tip of my foreskin "snipped". Fortunately, the doctor did another "stretching". The doctor retracted my foreskin and bandaged it in the retracted position with instructions to keep the foreskin retracted so it did not form adhesions.

Uncutforeskin was your frenulum ever cut or stretched? Did your parents ever stretch you as well? Even though it was the most severe pain Ive felt In glad it all helped me keep my foreskin I don't want my sons circumcised so I plan to retract them from at least 6 months going forward to make sure their foreskin is east to retract when they are older.

I was streching my foreskin by myself after doctor said in my age it should be able to retracted my foreskin without any issues.

The stretching of a foreskin that is in the pathological state of phimosis is a very effective and non-invasive treatment procedure, as many of the posts in this forum demonstrate. It's effect can be enhanced, where necessary, by the application of a steroid cream to the foreskin during the exercise. I would always advocate to try a foreskin stretching extensively before making a decision to circumcise, which will be irreversible.

Tanya36 said:

The stretching of a foreskin that is in the pathological state of phimosis is a very effective and non-invasive treatment procedure, as many of the posts in this forum demonstrate. It's effect can be enhanced, where necessary, by the application of a steroid cream to the foreskin during the exercise. I would always advocate to try a foreskin stretching extensively before making a decision to circumcise, which will be irreversible

This is exactly the treatment that I had in the late 1980s. It was not immediately effective but worked out well in the end.

Can't remember what age I was but certainly very young as my mother still supervised my bath time. I can just remember always grizzling and whimpering as she insisted my foreskin be pulled fully back to wash properly. At first I couldn't do it as it was very tight and painful, however she insisted and a couple of times at least she took hold of my penis and tugged the foreskin right back. She obviously knew even though it was tight it would pull back without damaging it! When I started to pull it back myself she still supervised for a while to make sure I did it properly.

I can absolutely relate to the last post, I remember very well indeed my mother's unsuccessful attempts after bath time to retract my foreskin . Being the late 1960's in the uk the default position seemed the inevitable circumcision route . Very embarrassing / traumatic at the time and growing up but truthfully as an adult I'm glad I was cut .

After my mother was told i had a tight foreskin at 5, she retracted it every evening after bath until i got 12. Afterparty i had to show her every week until 15.

My Dad used to check mine and my brothers foreskins to ensure they would go all the way back.We would line up once a week pants down in the bathroom ,he checked each of us in turn.Mine was tight and hurt as he pulled it back,but Dr supplied some cream that was rubbed on as the skin was back,over time it became easy and the pain went away.

Post bathing, my mother would check my foreskin and apply coconut oil to my penis. The oil helped to loosen my tightness, and also provided a lubricant for jelquing.

Post bathing, my mother would check my foreskin and apply coconut oil to my penis. The oil helped to loosen my tightness, and also provided a lubricant for jelquing.

I learned a new word: Jelqing is the name of a kind of massage technique for the penis. It is believed to improve the size of your erection. It involves massaging your penis in a way which stretches it and improves blood flow. The technique actually comes from the ancient middle-east but is now known across the world.

Sounds nice, but does this mean that your mother did this to you, or that she encouraged you to do this on your own or that it was simply your own idea?

Hello Q

Uncutforeskin was your frenulum ever cut or stretched? Did your parents ever stretch you as well? Even though it was the most severe pain Ive felt In glad it all helped me keep my foreskin I don't want my sons circumcised so I plan to retract them from at least 6 months going forward to make sure their foreskin is east to retract when they are older.

Hello Qastor, Sorry I missed your response. I think I endured comparable to your experience. My frenulum was never cut or stretched. But it was taught as it would pull my glans down and back when my foreskin was fully retracted. My dad was adamantly against having my foreskin circumcised (evening dinner discussions). My mother believed that my foreskin should naturally retract to totally and permanently expose my glans as I grew older. I don't know why she took me to the doctor at age 4 - was my foreskin to be circumcised? The doctor did a "stretching". All I can remember was that it was very painful. My mother said I was crying and bleeding. Afterwards, my foreskin was retracted twice daily. She would retract my foreskin upon rising in the morning before I got dressed for school. And again in the evening upon retiring for bed. She emphasized "so that adhesions do not form". At some point she turned the task over to me with the instructions to do foreskin retraction twice daily or I could opt for having my foreskin surgically removed. She stressed the importance of having my glans exposed. Not wanting to endure the "cut", I practiced retracting my foreskin 3 times daily - morning, when I changed my clothes after school, and evenings. Several years pass. My mother seen me peeing in the yard when I was 12. (We lived in the country side). This prompted her to question my why my foreskin had not retracted such that my "glans should be exposed". She commented that the doctor needed to "snip the tip" so that my foreskin could be retracted to totally and permanently expose my glans. Sounded painful. After a lengthy discussion I finally agreed to the "procedure". She made an appointment. A week later I found myself lying on my back on an exam table with the doctor examining my foreskin. The doctor agreed that my foreskin was a little tight but felt a "stretching" would resolve the problem. He inserted a hemostat into the tip of my foreskin and opened the hemostat. OUCH!!! He concluded that a penile nerve block was in order. OUCH! again. After several injections I was numb and could not feel pain. I could feel the doctor tugging on my foreskin. He inserted the hemostat and opened it wide several times. Finally my foreskin was fully retracted to expose my glans. I was bleeding. He stretched my foreskin back and bandage it that way. He sent us home with the instructions that if my foreskin did not stay retracted that I was to return in 2 weeks to have it circumcised. Two days later my mother removed the bandage. My foreskin immediately slide forward covering my glans. My mother grasped my foreskin and slid it back exposing my glans with the comment to keep my foreskin retracted so that "adhesions" did not form. I found it uncomfortable having my exposed glans rubbing against my underwear. When my mother was not looking I kept my foreskin slid forward covering my glans. Two weeks later my mother asked me if my foreskin had totally retracted. I told her that my glans was now permanently exposed and that there was no need to return to the doctor. Fortunately, she accepted my comment without examining my penis. Actually my foreskin had slid forward and was now as tight as originally. My mother never asked me about it again. All said and done I would agree that this scenario worked excellent for me.

It's a shame that we here in the states consider any sort of attention paid to the baby or young boy's penis as perverted or wrong. If it was considered normal for family members to assist a baby or young boy with retraction and stretching it seems to me there would be a lot more happy young men and probably young girls too. At least mine got some attention paid to cleanliness but I had to figure out the stretching for myself when I was older.

I also had to figure out the glans desensitization for myself. I'm assuming that other guys with foreskins have the same problem I did with the glans being sensitive to the point of the bare knob being painful when touched. If mothers or other caretakers of the boy as he grows up was able to regularly handle/rub that bare knob I think that sensitivity would never be an issue. My mother used to wash mine but she never dried it. I think if the foreskin was retracted to dry the glans with a bath towel regularly from birth that would do the job. Do other guys have that sensitivity problem and do you remember how old you were when you first noticed it? I don't remember my glans being like that when I was little but it certainly was by the time I was 12.

Do other guys have that sensitivity problem and do you remember how old you were when you first noticed it? I don't remember my glans being like that when I was little but it certainly was by the time I was 12.

I can't remember the approximate age when I first noticed how sensitive a bare glans was, but certainly by my late teens.

I can't remember the approximate age when I first noticed how sensitive a bare glans was, but certainly by my late teens.

Thanks for your answer. I do remember being sick in bed with the chicken pox when I was 3 and out of boredom probably, I played with whatever I could find which happened to be my penis. I recall something that felt pretty good under that foreskin when I touched it and played with it by touching it all over so it certainly wasn't painful at that age. My mother was still washing it at bath time so perhaps that was the reason, it was getting manipulated regularly. I learned to masturbate at 10 but that didn't involve any bare knob touching so I'm guessing I was around 12 when I discovered how sensitive that was. I was about 7 when the neighbor girl took an interest in peeling it because her brother didn't have one. She surely must have touched the bare knob sometime but it never hurt. Of course she was more interested in the erection that occurred when she did that and I was too because it never did that when my mother washed it. There must be something different about a mother's touch.

I had my foreskin forcibly retracted when I was very young, at first I may have been about 6. My cousin’s neighbour, Christine who was about 12, at the time would spend time with me playing “Dr’s & Nurses”. Whenever we were alone, she would want to examine me, always on my little erect penis. Often it was in her home, in the spare boxroom. I liked playing with herm it always felt good, but naughty. I knew I was doing wrong things and would get into trouble if anyone found out. I was always told to take down my little trousers, underpants and all around my ankles. Standing there in front of her, sitting in a chair, she would take hold of my erect penis and talk about it in a medical sort of way. She would discuss how the red veins looked along the taut ,pale skin on my penis. I was always erect in anticipation of what she was going to do to me. As i say, I enjoyed it, it was consensual, and even though I was about 6, I wanted her to do things to me.

My penis then would probably be about four inches in length when fully erect, the foreskin covering the glans, maybe just opening a little to show a little peek of my deep red, purple glans beneath.

Christine knew what she was doing. She wanted to see my “insides” as she called my glans. I can recall how she peeled back my foreskin, we both stared at my exposed glans. I had been doing this to myself in the bath and jn bed alone, as I was curious about this deep red, inside sort of thing. I thought at the time that if my foreskin was peeled right back to the base, all the red inside would come out, a bit like a dog or a horse’s penis. I was worried that I might go too far pulling it back.

One day, Christine held my erect penis, and suddenly, jerked the skin right back, hard, she held it back and it hurt like hell. I cannot remember what happened soon after that, but somehow I enjoyed it. What she had done was to snap some of the synechia that was attached to the corona of my glans. She did it again to me some time later, this time, she peeled the skin right back, past the corona and we could see a small hole had appeared under the rim of my corona. Over the next year or so, we would play our games, she forcing my foreskin back over and over to see, I suppose, if she could snap the remaining synechia away, so to free my glans from the inner foreskin. I can recall the last bit she snapped, it was an audible “snap”, right at dorsal part of my corona.That gave me pain. I can recall the pain on the top part of my glans for several days. I suffered the pain, I did not dare tell anyone, not even my parents as I felt I would have been told off and in serious trouble for playing such naughty games.

Strangely, pain on my corona would give me erections. Even to this day, I like having my foreskin peeled back to its limit, hard and tight. The frenulum has been stretched so now my glans does not bend backwards as much as it used to.

I like having it done to me by other hands. Either male or female. I like having it jerked back violently, very hard downward motions. The fear - and the thrill - is that this severe jerking might do some damage, as if the inner foreskin might just tear away from the glans in the sulcul groove, something akin to what happened to me when I was aged from 6-8.

I would love to view any video of this sort of punishment, seeing a third part hand gripping an erect penis and violently jerking the foreskin back, over and over, hard!

Any comment will be welcome!

SamW: Your mother seemed to have experience with this.. were you her first son?

There is clearly much conflicting advice and a great deal of variation in practice in how boys' foreskins are examined and treated. It is not surprising that parents are ignorant about how they should look after their sons' foreskins when doctors themselves do not seem to know any better.

At one extreme we have those who insist that the foreskin must be fully retracted at age five or even earlier, for cleaning. Most boys' foreskins are simply not ready to retract at this age. The opening in the foreskin is usually narrow and tight, and the inner layer of foreskin may still be fused to the glans. As a result, excessive force is often applied to the delicate prepuce, causing pain, damage and distress to the boy. Young boys are needlessly circumcised if their foreskin is deemed to be too tight. Sometimes the damage caused by forced retraction results in the formation of inflexible scar tissue, and hence true phimosis, leaving the foreskin permanently unretractable.

At the other extreme are the "leave it alone" proponents, who argue that the only person to touch the foreskin should be the boy himself. They argue that the boy will discover for himself that the foreskin will retract, when it is ready to do so. This may well work for many boys, generally those with shorter, looser foreskins where with the increase in erections and handling of the penis around the onset of puberty, the foreskin may start to retract of its own accord and the boy will be tempted to pull the skin back further to see what is underneath. But those boys with longer, tighter skins may never realise that the skin should peel back. Many internet advice boards contain posts from young men who had never attempted to retract their own foreskin until they were in their twenties, and having now tried, were unable to.

My view is that uncircumcised boys should be taught and encouraged to start retracting their foreskins before puberty. At this age, the glans is a smaller size and the foreskin opening will not need to stretch as much to pass over it. Not all boys will be able to fully retract, but if they can't, no force should be used and the boy should be taught that he needs to pull the skin back as far as is comfortable at every opportunity, such as peeing or taking a shower or bath.

I'm not sure that all parents could be relied upon to give this education to their sons, so a medical examination between the ages of 8 and 10 may be appropriate.

My personal experience in this matter was that my father used to retract my foreskin from the age of about 5 when he bathed me. Even at that age it was fully retractable without any pain or difficulty. I don't recall it ever being examined by a doctor.