Tough question, one I'm going to have to think about since I just started enema play as an adult. I had lots of enemas before age 10, but then had the typical sexual awareness and starting having intercourse at 15, as well as some girl/girl play at about the same time.
So my anal, enema awareness is now back, just south of 45. I'm still married and still have a pretty good relationship with my husband, or should I say typical. Along the way I have "slept with" a couple of women, when there was mutual attraction. I have been "faithful," there have been no other men in my life.
But here's my quandary, I'm married to an Italian. His ego is destroyed if he thinks I have been masturbating. the "I'm not good enough" bullshit starts. So have to keep my toys hidden, and when we do have sex, which is pretty good, it's all about him. He will occasionally have anal intercourse with me, but the idea of anything but his dick in my ass just isn't going to happen.
So our schedules do allow me to take an enema, or do a girl's night out and share some incredible oral with a woman friend.
If I said enema to him, other than for a medical reason, he'd want me to see a shrink, so like many guys that wouldn't dare approach their wives, I understand.
I'd like to have a mixture of both...
In typical male fashion, when he gets off the night is over, so I do everything I can to make it last and get my orgasm, or fake it so I don't crush his fragile ego.
When I masturbate, or I am with my "girlfriend" I can easily have multiple orgasms. I've had days at home where I did things around the house, but every hour or so masturbated to one orgasm after another.
So, I'm going to have to sneak my enemas, sound familiar? And I think there is a good change, maybe with a little persuading, talk my girlfriend into trying... she's pretty open to new things, and yes, she's married to Mr. Macho man, too. Even if she won't take I'm sure she will give,
So, it will probably be a dual life, but do I think he has been faithful to me? No, I know he hasn't, but's that is the way many Italian men are, I knew what I was getting when I signed up for it.
And before anyone yells foul, it's not just Italian men, but they seem to be about the worst! Remember I'm just north of "Tony Soprano country."